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GreyEyedAthena
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If she's never gone that way with you before, you could start with something soft, like a scarf or a necktie. But seeing as the holidays are coming up, why not get her some handcuffs? Nice symbolism, good for both of you...
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I'm naturally cheap so my advice in situations like yours tends toward the economical and simple. If expense is of no matter to you, then buying some relatively soft cuffs would work as a starting point.
Also, I'm of the male-dominant strain of the herd, so I'm going to assume that you will be the restrainer and your wife will be the restrainee. if the reverse is true, just reverse the pronouns here and have at it.
What you want your wife to experience is the feeling of being restrained during kinky sexy fun times and for you to experience the feeling of being in control. Then she and you can judge how that experience affects your sense of eroticism. Did being restrained add heat to the experience for her or not? Did you enjoy the sight of her being restrained? Did you get a little harder at the knowledge that you held complete control over her plight? Once you have answers to these questions - and it might take one or two experiences to get accustomed to the feelings so you can judge them accurately - then you'll know a whole lot more about what your next steps ought to be.
A very inexpensive way to experiment with restraint is to use some soft cotton rope. You can probably buy 20 feet at your local hardware store for the price of a cup of good coffee. Another - also available at the hardware store - is usually called plastic twine. It's actually a clear plastic strip about the width of duct tape on a roll. I think it's typically about $7 for a roll of 100 feet. The beauty of this stuff, besides being very inexpensive, is that it does not mark anything, it won't stick to the skin, and it's easy to wrap around a bed post and an ankle without having to learn how to tie specific knots and that sort of thing.
If you both find that you enjoy the restraining and being restrained, then the whole world of using ropes, cuffs, spreader bars, tape and other materials will be open to you. At that point DO invest in a good book on BDSM practices. Four that I like to recommend are:
Enjoy, and do come back with more questions as they arise. This place is peopled by many knowledgeable and generous folks who will be happy to help you along the way.
Also, I'm of the male-dominant strain of the herd, so I'm going to assume that you will be the restrainer and your wife will be the restrainee. if the reverse is true, just reverse the pronouns here and have at it.
What you want your wife to experience is the feeling of being restrained during kinky sexy fun times and for you to experience the feeling of being in control. Then she and you can judge how that experience affects your sense of eroticism. Did being restrained add heat to the experience for her or not? Did you enjoy the sight of her being restrained? Did you get a little harder at the knowledge that you held complete control over her plight? Once you have answers to these questions - and it might take one or two experiences to get accustomed to the feelings so you can judge them accurately - then you'll know a whole lot more about what your next steps ought to be.
A very inexpensive way to experiment with restraint is to use some soft cotton rope. You can probably buy 20 feet at your local hardware store for the price of a cup of good coffee. Another - also available at the hardware store - is usually called plastic twine. It's actually a clear plastic strip about the width of duct tape on a roll. I think it's typically about $7 for a roll of 100 feet. The beauty of this stuff, besides being very inexpensive, is that it does not mark anything, it won't stick to the skin, and it's easy to wrap around a bed post and an ankle without having to learn how to tie specific knots and that sort of thing.
If you both find that you enjoy the restraining and being restrained, then the whole world of using ropes, cuffs, spreader bars, tape and other materials will be open to you. At that point DO invest in a good book on BDSM practices. Four that I like to recommend are:
- BDSM Primer, Ralph White
- SM101, Jay Wiseman
- The New Topping Book, Dossie Easton
- The New Bottoming Book, Dossie Easton
Enjoy, and do come back with more questions as they arise. This place is peopled by many knowledgeable and generous folks who will be happy to help you along the way.
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When I was curious and wanted to start getting into abit of bondage I just looked online. I wanted something that wasn't too extreme to start off with, so I just looked at Ann Summers and LoveHoney. I think that would be a good place to start. Look with your partner and discuss what you wanna do and what you would like to try.
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If you're a rope rookie have a good pair of scissors to hand, just in case.
Start her with enough slack for some movement, so that she controls how hard the rope tugs and can get a feel for the kind of resistance she enjoys.
Wrists are super delicate, so get on YouTube for quick release knots and start with the ankles. Before you tie anything on her, tie it around your own leg, so you have some knowledge of how tight it will feel. Older skin is much more delicate when it comes to friction. Keep checking on the knots and her skin, don't just tie her down and then go nuts.
Don't gag her with anything or block her mouth for long until you're proficient at bondage. She needs to be able to communicate with you.
Start her with enough slack for some movement, so that she controls how hard the rope tugs and can get a feel for the kind of resistance she enjoys.
Wrists are super delicate, so get on YouTube for quick release knots and start with the ankles. Before you tie anything on her, tie it around your own leg, so you have some knowledge of how tight it will feel. Older skin is much more delicate when it comes to friction. Keep checking on the knots and her skin, don't just tie her down and then go nuts.
Don't gag her with anything or block her mouth for long until you're proficient at bondage. She needs to be able to communicate with you.
