hiddendesires93
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Hi, I'm new to this site and discussions. Really fantasize about being dominated. Wanting to talk to some experienced Dom Males.
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Love2look51
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Hi there. Welcome to the life. A couple pieces of advice: 1. Go at your own pace. 2. Only do what you are comfortable with. 3. Communicate clearly what you are and are not comfortable with.
Malich
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Morning from one Brit to another. Sorry this is a bit of copy / paste from a previous thread but the information stands.
This is a good place to ask questions, learn your likes and dislikes before you actually start looking for an actual partner.
Like any other potentially dangerous activity (and don't let anyone tell you that even online D/s isn't dangerous) you shouldn't start getting too deep into the practical side until you've done at least a little book reading and then, once you have done the book reading and found out what you like do not settle for less than that.
The first person who talks to you will not be the perfect one (probably), nor will the second. D/s is not all about the Dom's pleasure. You need to make sure the relationship gives you what you need to be happy long term. Sure, there'll be some compromise, but that needs to be on both sides. If they're not willing to give up on dressing you in a specific costume then you shouldn't have to give up on you love of Shibari for example.
Try looking for a kink list. A long list of the various kink types that are out there (if you can't find one on line drop me a PM and I'll mail you the one I've got) and use it as a research tool. Find out what's out there, which ones interest you and that you'd like to try further.
Read up on the safety protocols for safety online (ID protection mainly) and safety during a first meet with a Dom (such as the safety call). Read up on the the various posts on here about how to identify a red flag when a Dom is talking to you (for example telling you not to talk to other doms or collaring you before they even know what you enjoy)
There's a lot more of course, but I don't have time to write the book right now
So, good luck, feel free to ask specific questions and have fun!
This is a good place to ask questions, learn your likes and dislikes before you actually start looking for an actual partner.
Like any other potentially dangerous activity (and don't let anyone tell you that even online D/s isn't dangerous) you shouldn't start getting too deep into the practical side until you've done at least a little book reading and then, once you have done the book reading and found out what you like do not settle for less than that.
The first person who talks to you will not be the perfect one (probably), nor will the second. D/s is not all about the Dom's pleasure. You need to make sure the relationship gives you what you need to be happy long term. Sure, there'll be some compromise, but that needs to be on both sides. If they're not willing to give up on dressing you in a specific costume then you shouldn't have to give up on you love of Shibari for example.
Try looking for a kink list. A long list of the various kink types that are out there (if you can't find one on line drop me a PM and I'll mail you the one I've got) and use it as a research tool. Find out what's out there, which ones interest you and that you'd like to try further.
Read up on the safety protocols for safety online (ID protection mainly) and safety during a first meet with a Dom (such as the safety call). Read up on the the various posts on here about how to identify a red flag when a Dom is talking to you (for example telling you not to talk to other doms or collaring you before they even know what you enjoy)
There's a lot more of course, but I don't have time to write the book right now
So, good luck, feel free to ask specific questions and have fun!
