New to BDSM

[snmgirl4u]

what is a BDSM wife? please bare with me this is all new.
And I have a soon to be "DADDY".

I am in the serious learning faze..

 

[RawHumor]

You have a soon to be Daddy?

Does that mean you are going to submit to someone who will be your Daddy Dom?

What do you know? What's your situation? What is it you're looking for?

 

[snmgirl4u]

yes

yes I am going to submit to someone who will be my Daddy Dom
I live in FL he lives in NJ. this is the scary for me I have known this is who I am and what i want just held back for so many years. now i have children "young" and a other half not "not married".
care for him just not in that way.
i have slept with my master in the past and it was in dom way. he knew I was the one. then and now
we have just found each other again after 9 years and its starting all over again but he is married and wants me to be his sub/ slave -
bdsm wife. and beacuse this is really all new i just need to have some idea. other then reading all week long

Thank you.




yes yes yes all of it is correct

 

[RawHumor]

yes I am going to submit to someone who will be my Daddy Dom
I live in FL he lives in NJ. this is the scary for me I have known this is who I am and what i want just held back for so many years. now i have children "young" and a other half not "not married".
care for him just not in that way.
i have slept with my master in the past and it was in dom way. he knew I was the one. then and now
we have just found each other again after 9 years and its starting all over again but he is married and wants me to be his sub/ slave -
bdsm wife. and beacuse this is really all new i just need to have some idea. other then reading all week long

Thank you.

Let me get this straight.

• You have young children of your own
• You life in Florida. He's new New Jersey
• You are not married, but have a significant other of some sort
• He is married
• He wants you to be his slave

Is that all correct?

 

[snmgirl4u]

Let me get this straight.

• You have young children of your own
• You life in Florida. He's new New Jersey
• You are not married, but have a significant other of some sort
• He is married
• He wants you to be his slave

Is that all correct?

yes correct

 

[RawHumor]

yes correct

Is his wife aware that you are coming?

Will you and your kids be living with them?

Or will you be a 'side item' - a secret from his current wife?

 

[snmgirl4u]

Is his wife aware that you are coming?

Will you and your kids be living with them?

Or will you be a 'side item' - a secret from his current wife?

I am from nj will take my kids

and as for the wife he said she knows his lifestyle.
see I dont understand what is expeted of me. and if i should do this.
I will get my own place

 

[callinectes]

I smell troll.

 

[snmgirl4u]

I smell troll.

oh me............. what is that
oh please just fill me in. i love this life style but dont want the drama. or to go all the way there and .................. I mean they allow that right wifes of BDSM's

 

[RawHumor]

I am from nj will take my kids

and as for the wife he said she knows his lifestyle.
see I dont understand what is expeted of me. and if i should do this.
I will get my own place

This has bad idea written all over it.

You're uprooting your kids' life and your life for a fantasy to be, in essence, the other woman.

His wife may know of his lifestyle, but I'd ask to talk to her to make sure she's okay with the whole situation, or you'll be sneaking around with him. You'll be on call when he needs you and wants you, which will be when he can get away from his wife.

 

[snmgirl4u]

This has bad idea written all over it.

You're uprooting your kids' life and your life for a fantasy to be, in essence, the other woman.

His wife may know of his lifestyle, but I'd ask to talk to her to make sure she's okay with the whole situation, or you'll be sneaking around with him. You'll be on call when he needs you and wants you, which will be when he can get away from his wife.

yes you are right in a sense. when I mention her he says she is okay...
I need to think this over just didnt know what a bdsm wife was maybe better treatmeant i dunno thank you all for your help

 

[callinectes]

I have never heard the term "BDSM wife". Honestly, IF you are for real, which I doubt, you'd be foolish to drag your kids to another state so you can be some cheating husband's "BDSM wife".

 

[snmgirl4u]

I have never heard the term "BDSM wife". Honestly, IF you are for real, which I doubt, you'd be foolish to drag your kids to another state so you can be some cheating husband's "BDSM wife".

you are very right! I know this .
I am at a Vonerable point in my life.
and the knowledge i get would be greatly appreciated
thank you. i do understand what you are saying and it makes perfect sence he says its like a sub/ slave but better and he will take care of me love me i will be his everthing stuff like that and I really dont know much about the lifestyle. i want to though

 

[xxCrystal4314xx]

If he wants you so much and you will be his everything, why doesn't he leave his wife to be with you?

When you move to NJ, will you have any family/friends close by to help you with the kids?

And I've never heard the term BDSM wife, but it sounds to me like you'll be his mistress that he can be with or drop how and whenever he please, and if you complain it'll be 'well, you're my slave'.

You ought to ask him if you can speak to his wife, and she if she is genuinely ok with it.

I wouldn't be willing to do it, full stop.

 

[snmgirl4u]

If he wants you so much and you will be his everything, why doesn't he leave his wife to be with you?

When you move to NJ, will you have any family/friends close by to help you with the kids?

And I've never heard the term BDSM wife, but it sounds to me like you'll be his mistress that he can be with or drop how and whenever he please, and if you complain it'll be 'well, you're my slave'.

You ought to ask him if you can speak to his wife, and she if she is genuinely ok with it.

I wouldn't be willing to do it, full stop.

yeah , I will do that I have to make sure This isnt a trap
And no no family there to help.... so this would be something i really need to think about thank you so very much ps love you'r pic!

 

[Life_Noir]

Well... One can hope it's a Troll...Or an Alt..
*grin*
If it's serious...OY...

If it isn't...Well then.. I suppose it's a rather well done, humorous, poke at some of the "Pat me on the head, I'm cheating on my SO" crap we get on here.

 

[xxCrystal4314xx]

Good luck hon, keep us updated... and thanks

 

[BiBunny]

If it isn't...Well then.. I suppose it's a rather well done, humorous, poke at some of the "Pat me on the head, I'm cheating on my SO" crap we get on here.

If it isn't...wish I'd have thought of it first.

 

[Life_Noir]

If it isn't...wish I'd have thought of it first.

Tell the truth..You DID think of it first..Didn't you?

 

[BiBunny]

Tell the truth..You DID think of it first..Didn't you?

LOL, nope, not me, I swear. My syntax is too distinctive for me to pull off an alt account. 'Tis a nice thought, though.

 

[snmgirl4u]

Well... One can hope it's a Troll...Or an Alt..
*grin*
If it's serious...OY...

If it isn't...Well then.. I suppose it's a rather well done, humorous, poke at some of the "Pat me on the head, I'm cheating on my SO" crap we get on here.

sorry it is true and Ii have an open mind and know what I should and shouldnt do. I would never want to waste any ones time with drama so to that I say sorry but this is a real deal. and Idont know enough to judge the SITUATION .
thank you all very much

 

[Life_Noir]

sorry it is true and Ii have an open mind and know what I should and shouldnt do. I would never want to waste any ones time with drama so to that I say sorry but this is a real deal. and Idont know enough to judge the SITUATION .
thank you all very much

Well then.... How bout a piece of advice...

Look at what you have posted.... Read it slowly.. And pay attention to just how many bad ideas there are in what you are talking about..

There are a bunch...ANd they go from bad to worse...

*sigh*

Listen...If you ARE new in this..One thing you have to learn..Is not to mistake something you may WANT...For something that is a good idea.

From the sound of it..Your WANTS...Are about to screw up four seperate lives.

*shrug*

If he wants you that bad, wait till after he gets a divorce..
Or until you actually talk with his spouse.

 

[snmgirl4u]

Well then.... How bout a piece of advice...

Look at what you have posted.... Read it slowly.. And pay attention to just how many bad ideas there are in what you are talking about..

There are a bunch...ANd they go from bad to worse...

*sigh*

Listen...If you ARE new in this..One thing you have to learn..Is not to mistake something you may WANT...For something that is a good idea.

From the sound of it..Your WANTS...Are about to screw up four seperate lives.

*shrug*

If he wants you that bad, wait till after he gets a divorce..
Or until you actually talk with his spouse.

okay ,
I am not thinking this threw.
and i will tell him i want to talk to his wife and make sure she knows what is going on. if not "if he wont let me " then no way ill find new friend that like what i like and maybe even clubs or something to satisfy this thurst for this lifetsyle ... thank you all again

 

[Chris_Xavier]

sorry it is true and Ii have an open mind and know what I should and shouldnt do. I would never want to waste any ones time with drama so to that I say sorry but this is a real deal. and Idont know enough to judge the SITUATION .
thank you all very much

First of all.. don't think you are being a bother.. if you are real but too many times there are cases where people come into the boards and just try to stir up stuff for the fun of it (alt - alternate id).

I'm going to assume for a second that you are sincere in your request for info and will answer you with a sincere response.

If your "man" is serious about this and it is okay with the wife, then have the wife tell you so herself and help to make the arrangements for your relocation.

Go and visit them in their house before moving there.. have them help you find a job, a home, find out how to set up your utilities and getting a new driver's license.

Don't let the veil of bdsm make you lose sight of your own innate common sense.

 

[Life_Noir]

okay ,
I am not thinking this threw.
and i will tell him i want to talk to his wife and make sure she knows what is going on. if not "if he wont let me " then no way ill find new friend that like what i like and maybe even clubs or something to satisfy this thurst for this lifetsyle ... thank you all again

Smart... And if she doesn't know about it...

Read this..

"Never trust a traitor, not even one you create."
- Baron Vladimir Harkonnen (Dune)

And think about it for a while...