New to BDSM

[sweetkinkyebony]

I'm new on this forum area, but I have been on this site several times before reading various stories about BDSM. The stories I have read on here actually sparked my interest in BDSM, which led me to doing research over various topics such as femdom, and female led relationships which are the two topics that greatly interest me the most. I feel like I'm ready to actually pursue my interests in BDSM. I have a few questions for more experienced people on this forum: how do you find a balance between you vanilla relationship and you D/s relationship? Any advice on how someone new to BDSM can further their education and learn as much as they can possibly can? I'm open up to advice, your personal story of how you first got started, or any warnings/ comments. Thank you in advance.

 

[TangleLeg]

I'm new on this forum area, but I have been on this site several times before reading various stories about BDSM. The stories I have read on here actually sparked my interest in BDSM, which led me to doing research over various topics such as femdom, and female led relationships which are the two topics that greatly interest me the most. I feel like I'm ready to actually pursue my interests in BDSM. I have a few questions for more experienced people on this forum: how do you find a balance between you vanilla relationship and you D/s relationship? Any advice on how someone new to BDSM can further their education and learn as much as they can possibly can? I'm open up to advice, your personal story of how you first got started, or any warnings/ comments. Thank you in advance.

This assumes a lot, but I'll say that open, honest communication right from the start is important to finding someone whose likes, dislikes, wants and desires are compatible with your own. (Kinks and limits are another way to say it.) That compatibility can be the foundation of a great d/s relationship. And lack of it, while it may not be a deal breaker, it definitely has the potential to cause failure, frustration, and disappointment.

Knowing yourself is also important.

Not rushing into a d/s relationship can be equally or maybe more important than in a vanilla relationship.

Most of all, honesty with yourself and your partner...I don't think you can over-do honesty.

 

[NewDaddyDom]

Communication, trust, boundaries, limits. Be completely transparent with each other.

 

[midwestyankee]

Stick around and read every post in this BDSM forum that looks like it might appeal to you. In doing this, you'll find that people who practice elements of BDSM (no one does it all) come in a phenomenal variety of shapes and sizes, opinions, experiences, and interests. And just about everyone who posts here at all regularly is willing to help newcomers to the site with answers to questions and such.

Also, if you look at the top of the BDSM Talk front page, you'll see a sticky thread called BDSM Library. This is a repository of older discussion threads that have been alphabetized by area of interest. It contains multitudes of good information.

 

[editorinwork1]

Curious

Hello everyone, I am curious about the lifestyle. I just want to
gain knowledge. If anyone would like, can we have an
conversation?
Have a lovely day/evening
Thank you in advance