New to all this

[SubSpaceGirl]

Hi everyone. I'm Brittany.
I'm new to the lifestyle. Still learning some customs, rules, and terminology. Would like to meet like-minded people.

 

[ChrisCrono]

Jesus, that's a harsh intro

I would recommend fetlife.com to find like-minded people in your area, I've never been to Tennessee, so I can't give you any good club names in your area.

 

[SubSpaceGirl]

Thanks, Chris!

 

[DVS]

Hi spacegirl. I'm looking for a new sub to punch repeatedly in the face until I ejaculate all over her breasts... Let me know if you are interested.

I don't have the sharp and cutting tongue of Sir Winston, but I thought I'd tell Trollpunch that we don't care for that kind of shit here. I know that won't stop you from posting, Trollpunch, but surely school is about to start and your teachers will send you home with homework. And I'm sure mommy will limit your Internet time and maybe you'll spend what time you're allowed by playing computer games instead of browsing this forum.

Just a pimply 14 year old with too much spare time to waste. But not for long, Trollpunch. Your mommy will slap your fingers, if she finds you on this site. And now you're set to ignore by most posters here.

Or maybe you're looking for some strong domme to fuck your ass with her big strapon. That's what most trolls are looking for. Right? Step up to toe plate. I'm sure we can find someone to accommodate your requests.

 

[DVS]

Hi everyone. I'm Brittany.
I'm new to the lifestyle. Still learning some customs, rules, and terminology. Would like to meet like-minded people.

There's nothing wrong with hanging out here. We have answers to your questions because we've all been where you are right now. Ask any questions you might have and see what happens.

And Chris is correct. Fetlife is a very large fetish site and it's highly likely that people in your area are members. You can create a profile, meet people in your area and eventually go to munches or some other kind of gathering a group in your area might have.

Be forewarned that there are fakers and creeps out there looking for unsuspecting newbies to take advantage of. They will seem legitimate, but the sooner you understand what they're really after and learn how to spot them, the better off you are going to be. They do a very good job of playing the dom role, but that's as far as it goes. They are playing the part to get what they want from you and nothing more.

You will meet real and honest people who will also seem legitimate. You might not know how to tell the difference between them and the fakers now, so be cautious of them all. The honest people will understand.

 

[Malich]

Oh joy, a troll.

SubSpaceGirl, I'll just Echo what DVS said, This is a good place to ask questions, learn your likes and dislikes before you actually start looking for an actual partner.

Like any other potentially dangerous activity (and don't let anyone tell you that even online D/s isn't dangerous) you shouldn't start getting too deep into the practical side until you've done at least a little book reading and then, once you have done the book reading and found out what you like do not settle for less than that.

The first person who talks to you will not be the perfect one (probably), nor will the second. D/s is not all about the Dom's pleasure. You need to make sure the relationship gives you what you need to be happy long term. Sure, there'll be some compromise, but that needs to be on both sides. If they're not willing to give up on dressing you in a specific costume then you shouldn't have to give up on you love of Shibari for example.

Try looking for a kink list. A long list of the various kink types that are out there (if you can't find one on line drop me a PM and I'll mail you the one I've got) and use it as a research tool. Find out what's out there, which ones interest you and that you'd like to try further.

Read up on the safety protocols for safety online (ID protection mainly) and safety during a first meet with a Dom (such as the safety call). Read up on the the various posts on here about how to identify a red flag when a Dom is talking to you (for example telling you not to talk to other doms or collaring you before they even know what you enjoy)

There's a lot more of course, but I don't have time to write the book right now

 

[TheIrishRover]

Hi spacegirl. I'm looking for a new sub to punch repeatedly in the face until I ejaculate all over her breasts... Let me know if you are interested.

O.K. then.

 

[jmclover]

what are your interests?

 

[jp_2012]

Welcome! Sure you will find some like minded peeps here. Just ask!

 

[4yourpleasureiam]

Hi spacegirl. I'm looking for a new sub to punch repeatedly in the face until I ejaculate all over her breasts... Let me know if you are interested.

I do not think that line will get you far on any threads here. I may be wrong but I don't think so. I am a sub but that would not cut it with me

 

[SeraphinaCD]

Brittany, you've come to the right place to ask questions and to learn - a very friendly and generally courteous crowd around here - some exclusions apply, of course.

Welcome to the forum, you are most assuredly among friends.

 

[Bramblethorn]

Hi and welcome! If you haven't discovered it already, the Ignore function will be your bestest friend - just click on their name and select "Add ... to your ignore list", then "Save List".

 

[Love2look51]

Brittany, welcome. There are a lot of great people on here who can really help teach you about the lifestyle. Here is a couple pieces of advice: 1. Go at your own pace. Don't rush into anything. Be open to learn but don't let anyone pressure you into anything. 2. Only do what you are comfortable with. Everyone has different interest and different kinks. Yours are not better or worse then anyone else's and only you know what you are truly comfortable with.

Let me know how I can help. I've had some great teachers and am always happy to pass it on.