New Sub wanting to be taught by an older experienced Dom

[Forcedvirgin]

It's only recently that I've discovered and started learning about D/s relationships and BDSM in general. I'm not looking to really be anyone's sub but for someone who can help me learn and explore what the lifestyle really is and all the different aspects/kinks/fetishes that can be experienced. All of this makes sense in my head so I hope someone will understand what I mean.

 

[DomPeter5]

Willing to help you learn

Welcome to the world of D/s. I have been involved in BDSM for many years, and I am always glad to help someone learn. I find that I often learn new things when I do.

I have visited Literotica and enjoyed the stories for a long time. I have only recently created a profile and started to explore the forums.

I would be glad to share my knowledge and experience as a Dom with you.

 

[MstrTec]

It's only recently that I've discovered and started learning about D/s relationships and BDSM in general. I'm not looking to really be anyone's sub but for someone who can help me learn and explore what the lifestyle really is and all the different aspects/kinks/fetishes that can be experienced. All of this makes sense in my head so I hope someone will understand what I mean.

Back when I first discovered D/s and BDSM, my mentor gave me two things to remember. SSC(Safe, Sane & Consensual) and RACK(Risk Aware Consensual Kink).

He also taught me that communication, trust, honesty and consensual are very good cornerstones for a strong relationship foundation.

 

[DomPeter5]

Back when I first discovered D/s and BDSM, my mentor gave me two things to remember. SSC(Safe, Sane & Consensual) and RACK(Risk Aware Consensual Kink).

He also taught me that communication, trust, honesty and consensual are very good cornerstones for a strong relationship foundation.

I agree completely with MstrTec. SSC and RACK are core concepts that all Doms/Dommes and subs should agree to follow in a D/s relationship. Similarly open and honest communication between D/s partners is essential.

 

[HardWo0d]

I can be your dom daddy, come my way

 

[DomPeter5]

In order to truly engage in SSC, RACK and open communication, you will need to know yourself and what you are seeking from a D/s relationship. I suggest using online resources to discover your sexual likes and dislikes. What are your soft and hard limits? What are your D/s fantasies?

Please feel free to PM me with questions.

 

[DrDelirium]

I don't think anyone really figures out who they are and what they are seeking without some direct experience. Find someone you feel comfortable with and get a little taste.
Also, there is no "D/s and/or BDSM lifestyle." There a zillion ways of living that involve elements of these things. There is certainly a "BDSM community," but they are a very small fraction of the people who engage in these activities, and their culture and rules and ideas about how things 'should' be done are far from universal.
As an example of D/s lifestyles very different than what generally passes as BDSM, look up "Taken in Hand" or "Domestic Discipline," which a lot of the posters here would find very objectionable. There are countless variations, and you can, of course, make up your own.

A very large part of anything related to sex is visceral, involving all sorts chemical, visual and auditory cues, context, sublimated desires, unconscious responses to forgotten experiences and so on. What seems lame or frightening in text, or in a video, may be just what you want when you're in the presence of the right partner. The opposite is true too- everything you think you desire may fall flat with a partner that just doesn't have the right vibe.
So, reading, chatting, researching, these are all good things to do, but some direct experience is essential to really understanding what works or doesn't work for you. Unless, of course, all you want is an internet experience.