new sub seeking info....

[tigress88]

Thanks MissT for the invitation....I read many things so far that have been very helpful!


tigress88

 

[MissTaken]

Welcome aboard, tigress!

*hugs*

I am glad to see you found your way here. You will recognize some of our posters and find other posters you have never heard of who can offer oodles of support and guidance.

We all post based on our experience. No one has the right answers for you, but you. However, this forum is a great place to learn, gain perspectives and yes, my own journey started here, in a sense.

Best wishes and post away!

 

[tigress88]

Thanks for replying....I just want to be understood in what I want...an online Master....my husband meets needs my Master could not and ditto...my Master meets needs in me my husband can not...I have tried with my husband, and as submissive as I am..I am dominant over him the security has worked for me with my last Master....he didn't know who or where I was...we connected in the mind and He was very good! the thrills were wonderful! He enhanced my marriage, for the short while we connected...see He spotted my name on the members board and emailed me...after a few short weeks....he decided that he did not want 2 subs...he had one on weekends see...I guess online also was too much for Him. Cut like a knife it did. I am older than him (38), He is 30....I was warned...but like children say"it can't happen to meeee"
thanks for listening....and I will continue searching....

tigress88

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

**HUGS**

I'm soooo glad you joined us Tigress.

Really i am.



~anelize

 

[tigress88]

Its official...He dropped me.

He said one sub was enough for Him...wish He would have thought of that before He invited me in.


Thanks anelize,


tigress88

 

[Etoile]

Originally posted by tigress88
my husband meets needs my Master could not and ditto...my Master meets needs in me my husband can not...

That's a familiar refrain! I wonder how many relationships go through situations like this.

 

[MissTaken]

Re: Its official...He dropped me.

He said one sub was enough for Him...wish He would have thought of that before He invited me in.


Thanks anelize,


tigress88

Bingo, lady!

Number one lesson.

Never seek something unless you know what it is! (And the same goes for us submissives. )



Gosh, she is a quick study.

 

[primes]

That's a familiar refrain! I wonder how many relationships go through situations like this.

your story is very well written, very sexy

 

[Richard49]

quote:
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Originally posted by tigress88
my husband meets needs my Master could not and ditto...my Master meets needs in me my husband can not...
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That's a familiar refrain! I wonder how many relationships go through situations like this.

I do not know.....

I am poly or should say I have been
however if the SO can not be spouse and D/s
IMHO there is something wrong

perhaps reltionship did not start out honest
perhaps people have grown apart
etc.

Again IMHO
honesty all the way around is needed or
everyone is only partially filled
and chances are someone is going to get hurt

 

[Ms_Lilith]

quote:


however if the SO can not be spouse and D/s
IMHO there is something wrong

perhaps reltionship did not start out honest
perhaps people have grown apart
etc.

Hi.
Some people are just incapable of being dominant. My SO doesn't have a dominant bone in his body. Not one. And for the longest time, he's been refusing me any D/s play. Lately, he's learning how important it is to me, and he performs some acts (like spanking) because I like it, but it does nothing for him. Now, it's great to be spanked, but there's something to be said for an enthusiastic poster. My S/O realizes that I have a need for something more when it comes to BDSM, and we've had many conversations about it, and I am 'allowed' to play online and on the phone with whomever I please. This allows me to explore BDSM to the fullness that I want it (because I don't believe in cheating on my S/O).

Just because you believe that a spouse should be able to be everything (this is the idea I got from your post) doesn't mean it's true. lol.. sometimes, you need to look outside the relationship,
BUT, I believe that honesty is required in such situations...

 

[Richard49]

Just because you believe that a spouse should be able to be everything (this is the idea I got from your post) doesn't mean it's true. lol.. sometimes, you need to look outside the relationship,
BUT, I believe that honesty is required in such situations...

I do not think i said that
nor implied it

What I said is clear
If your SO can not give you what you need/want
1) did you tell them that before they became the SO
and you allowed them in anyway?
2) Did you discover something about yourself after they became your SO ? Then you grew apart.

etc.

I am pleased that we at lest agree that honesty is required

 

[FungiUg]

Welcome to the dark side, tigress!

Keep in mind, Doms are only human. They make mistakes. Which is why you need to know what you want, expect, and be able to communicate all of that with a Dom or prospective Dom.

Just like any other relationship. Online or real-life.

It's a hard lesson, but one we all seem to need to learn. Ah well.

 

[Ms_Lilith]

I do not think i said that
nor implied it

What I said is clear
If your SO can not give you what you need/want
1) did you tell them that before they became the SO
and you allowed them in anyway?
2) Did you discover something about yourself after they became your SO ? Then you grew apart.

etc.

I am pleased that we at lest agree that honesty is required

I don't think you were asking me, but I'll reply anyway... my need for BDSM to be a part of my life developed after he and I had been together for a few months.. I had experienced BDSM-like activities in a past serious relationship, and really enjoyed most of it, but didn't find it to be something I needed in my life. But the abscence of it, I suppose made it fonder to me... and I began to crave it.

And here I am today.