New Look, New Attitude - New Trouble

[JillianR_MalBuRlty]

Hi. I’m Jillian and I’ve been happily married to my husband Barry for 21 tears. We’re very successful together. He’s an architect with a firm and as a private Realtor, I sell the houses Barry designs and supervises the construction. We have an 18 year-old son, Clay, who is a senior in high school and a member of the tennis team.

After turning 44 last year, I just felt it was time to get a little help from a very god plastic surgeon in Beverly Hills. In addition to going blonder, I had an eye lift, Botox to my cheeks and brow, my lips were given a fuller pout, and the shape and firmness of my 36C cleavage was worth every penny Barry paid. My confidence and self-assurance quickly became reflected in my new stylish cute wardrobe including my snug Dior skirt suits I started to wear when showing property to clients during the week. Depending on the day and weather (and the clients) I will wear something stylish and yes, I'll admit, a little sexy, but never inappropriate.

Not soon after my new look, when I would arrive with clients at one of the homes that Barry was supervising the workers, I noticed how grumpy and bothered he was getting at how the workers were starting to notice me. He’s had the same group of 4 to 5 workers and his foreman Dylan went to High school and college, but apparently Dylan had in injury while playing football for the college and according to Barry, his chance to play ended and he had to make a living in working for Barry.

I will admit my new fashion style does look great on me and I feel even better, but as I mentioned, I don’t dress inappropriately or revealing to any parties or social invites we attend (at least not intentionally) As for how Dylan and the rest of the workers – who are all younger guys working their way through college – I may have noticed them slowing down and taking longer glances as me when I walk through the almost completed houses with clients, but I choose to ignore them.

Barry has lately been making some rather mumbled comments that I've been too shocked and surprised to even believe couldn't possibly be exaggerated as to what "ideas guys like gavin and the workers" have about me. It's making me wonder whether it's actually Barry's projection of pornography he looks at (I'm not a prude about porn and while obviously have never seen one, I know all guys/men - whether single or married - watch it and just as they have their favorite football and basketball and baseball teams, they have their favorite porn stars. I was told this by a male friend of mine, who added that any guy who denies watching and having favorite porn actresses is lying to make himself seem "not like the others.")

I've included some of the more casual outfits I've worn while showing the house to clients that Barry claims are to blame for the workers staring at me

 

[FGB]

Yeah.

You are going to get that reaction around construction workers and most other men.

 

[Misshotndeep]

I hope I look that good in my 40's!

 

[4yourpleasureiam]

Hi. I’m Jillian and I’ve been happily married to my husband Barry for 21 tears. We’re very successful together. He’s an architect with a firm and as a private Realtor, I sell the houses Barry designs and supervises the construction. We have an 18 year-old son, Clay, who is a senior in high school and a member of the tennis team.

After turning 44 last year, I just felt it was time to get a little help from a very god plastic surgeon in Beverly Hills. In addition to going blonder, I had an eye lift, Botox to my cheeks and brow, my lips were given a fuller pout, and the shape and firmness of my 36C cleavage was worth every penny Barry paid. My confidence and self-assurance quickly became reflected in my new stylish cute wardrobe including my snug Dior skirt suits I started to wear when showing property to clients during the week. Depending on the day and weather (and the clients) I will wear something stylish and yes, I'll admit, a little sexy, but never inappropriate.

Not soon after my new look, when I would arrive with clients at one of the homes that Barry was supervising the workers, I noticed how grumpy and bothered he was getting at how the workers were starting to notice me. He’s had the same group of 4 to 5 workers and his foreman Dylan went to High school and college, but apparently Dylan had in injury while playing football for the college and according to Barry, his chance to play ended and he had to make a living in working for Barry.

I will admit my new fashion style does look great on me and I feel even better, but as I mentioned, I don’t dress inappropriately or revealing to any parties or social invites we attend (at least not intentionally) As for how Dylan and the rest of the workers – who are all younger guys working their way through college – I may have noticed them slowing down and taking longer glances as me when I walk through the almost completed houses with clients, but I choose to ignore them.

Barry has lately been making some rather mumbled comments that I've been too shocked and surprised to even believe couldn't possibly be exaggerated as to what "ideas guys like gavin and the workers" have about me. It's making me wonder whether it's actually Barry's projection of pornography he looks at (I'm not a prude about porn and while obviously have never seen one, I know all guys/men - whether single or married - watch it and just as they have their favorite football and basketball and baseball teams, they have their favorite porn stars. I was told this by a male friend of mine, who added that any guy who denies watching and having favorite porn actresses is lying to make himself seem "not like the others.")

I've included some of the more casual outfits I've worn while showing the house to clients that Barry claims are to blame for the workers staring at me

Do you want honesty or lies? Remember where you are asking the question

 

[mikendel]

Wasn't this posted from the husbands side not to long ago? I remember the pics.

 

[LauraWilling]

Jillian
You look great and no where near provocative! And that's from another woman. I love the outfits and they are very appropriate. I dress far more provocative and I am in my sixties and very fortunate to look much younger.

Being female, you will get looks from construction workers and men in general unless they are gay and even then they may look. I'm no botanist, but I love seeing roses. You husband should rethink his attitude and be proud of you. My husband passed away over a year ago, but he loved showing me off and having other men look at me.
I say keep doing what you are doing and talk to hubby and help him see you as you are and be proud of you. I used to live in LA also.

 

[foxnylonfox]

If that's how you look and dress then most certainly you will get attention from men. You look great and will have to share more pics.

 

[JillianR_MalBuRlty]

New Look, New Attitude

Yes that's how I look. But simply expecting "more photos" after such little effort of your own to type more than the minimum?

 

[Y_Diner]

I'm really not sure what your concern is. You've re-shaped yourself into a very hot looking woman. At some conscious or unconscious level, you've sought out to look hotter and to have more looks of desire come your way. And your husband was certainly aware of (and approving at some level) your cosmetic surgery, and had to know the end result would be more people getting turned on looking at you.

TALK will help. You both knew this would be the result. The more interesting question for us leches and lurkers is how much YOU are really turned on by being openly desired, and how much you or your H really at some level, want you to follow thru.

Do you want to become a 'hot wife' or not? Both of you need to talk this thru openly if your marriage is to survive.

 

[30bandits]

Wasn't this posted from the husbands side not to long ago? I remember the pics.

yes and the poster above you has a similar looking profile as well....

 

[Mac380]

Yes that's how I look. But simply expecting "more photos" after such little effort of your own to type more than the minimum?

Umm but that's not you!
If it is you, you really have fallen a long way from the TV celeb you used to be to selling real estate.
How's the baby btw?

http://www.celebritytravel.tv/wp-content/uploads/2013/12/Lubov-Miami-Housewives-1.jpg

 

[pplwatching]

I’ve been happily married to my husband Barry for 21 tears. We’re very successful together. He’s an architect with a firm and as a private Realtor, I sell the houses Barry designs and supervises the construction. We have an 18 year-old son, Clay, who is a senior in high school and a member of the tennis team.

Jillian,

It sounds like the two of you lead very busy lives. "Happily married" is a very broad brush stroke that doesn't give a very clear picture of your marriage. Many people describe their marriage that way, only to discover that their spouse is having an affair or their marriage is about to end.

I read an article just the other day that the divorce rate for couples married more than 20 years is increasing rapidly. The author speculated that couples become too focused on being parents and work. They don't spend as much time working on their marriage. She thought that divorce becomes a more attractive option because when the kids are finally ready to leave the nest, there is a sense that that part of their lives is coming to a close. They perceive themselves as happily married because their focus is not on their marriage. When their situation as parents, in their jobs, or whatever they're focused on changes they discover that they aren't as happy as they once believed.

Do you think that it's possible that his reaction has roots in your marriage? Unfortunately you work in an industry where looks and how you present yourself matters. You've gone through a major physical transformation, which may have shaken his world a little bit. You're the same woman, but his perception of you is changed by your new look and the way that people are treating you. That could be undermining his confidence in your marriage.

The questions that I would ask him are does he feel like he has a strong emotional bond and intimate connection to you? Do you find time to reconnect with each other and work on your marriage together on a regular basis? Do you regularly re-affirm your attraction to him? Are you having mutually satisfying sex as often as each of you would like? These are the kinds of things that help affair-proof a marriage, and may help give him confidence that your marriage is strong enough to endure the kind of attention that you are getting.

You can't change the way that people react to the way that you look. Your like of work has expectations for how you dress. But you can do things to help your husband adjust though. Be a little more flirty with him if you can manage it with clients around. If you can say hello and goodbye to him, touch or show affection when other men are around then you will be sending clear signals that you are a couple, that you desire him, and that the two of you are an unbreakable team.

Good luck

 

[foxnylonfox]

Yes that's how I look. But simply expecting "more photos" after such little effort of your own to type more than the minimum?

You may need to google more images for your profile.

After all you would not want to do just the minimum for attention to a false profile right !