New Girl

[Caressa]

Hey y'all!

I'm newly registered to Literotica even though I've been enjoying the stories here for a few years. And I have a question I want to ask - along with posting my little personal:

What would you think if you met someone who over 21 and still a virgin? (I refrain from asking just the guys cause I'm sure lots of people have an opinion on this).

So...a little more about me then...

I'm a 24 year old (and a virgin). I used to think that guys would think that there was something wrong with me if they found out just casually, but now I realize that I'm quite proud of the fact that I still have my virginity. While I'm very sexual mentally, when it comes to the physical stuff I tend to get a little nauseous if I start to do stuff with the wrong guy - I've dated A LOT of wrong guys.

I think the whole purpose of me doing this is I want to meet new people...I move every 6-8 months because of my job - the longest I've ever lived somewhere was for 4 years when I was going to school.

I'm very honest with myself and I tend to be over analytical about things. My main goal in life is to be happy - otherwise what's the point. I'm passionate about my choice of career (although not my current job) and normally wouldn't imagine doing anything else.
I tend to give a lot of myself to what ever I do.

I have two cats who give me much amusement and help me to retain what sanity I have.

As for what I'm looking for - The major prerequisite would be to be a man - honest and able to communicate - other than that I'm not really sure what I want. I think having to many requirements on what a mate should have really limits the field and there are a lot of amazing people out there.

Mostly, I'm not looking for someone out there to complete me and give my life meaning - just someone who can understand me and is prepared to share lots of love.

Enough rambling from me! Thanks for reading!

 

[learnsome]

welcum

Welcum Caressa,

Hope you find what your looking for. Enjoy the boards. Drop me and email if you feel the need.

 

[MissTaken]

Welcome to lit.

I hope you enjoy the boards and don't get bored with those who board at the boards!

24 and a virgin. I applaud you. Waiting for what you want and need will only make it better when it happens for you.

Good luck and be well,
Miss T

 

[Everyday]

Welcome Caressa...

Wow...that's refreshing! Welcome to lit - I'm new here myself but already have found the hospitality incredible and have enjoyed meeting and hearing from others - there are some wonderfully fresh perspectives here.

As far as meeting a 24 y/o virgin...you probably won't find many that have had that experience so I guess it's just conjecture as to how any of us would react if we met and began dating...

That said...your sexuality is just that - YOURS. It is something you can share with another but not something that can be given over fully. If you are proud of your virginity and willing to wait until the 'right' one comes along then you should celebrate that choice and be firm in it. Of course, you will find those along the path that want nothing more than to the conquest of your virginity and perhaps even those who are intimidated by it but so be it, I think. Love is a powerful thing...it does not have to be present for sex, obviously, but oh so more powerful if it is. Therefore, I say do what you will and more than anything...do what feels right for you, not others. Good things can only come of it.

That's just my two cents...glad to have you on board...hope we can chat sometime...that was great for a first post!

 

[sexyspank]

Welcome

Welcome to Lit Caressa. Enter,enjoy and be happy




Wendy

 

[King Boone]

Hello Lady, it is really refreshing to hear from a younge lady that know what she wants and where she is going without lowering her morals. Stick by your beliefs and you will go far. Good luck..........

 

[CumToDaddy]

Hi Caressa,

(Wonderful name, by the way!)

Many and various are the ways to become ourselves. If your way is to retain your virginity beyond the average, then so be it. You sound like you're comfortable with that choice. You also sound like you will be a treasure to the man with whom you decide to share yourself with sexually.

In the meantime, there is an infinite world of fantasy to explore, and this is a great place for it. Have fun!

 

[Gamelover221]

I too love your name and wished you a merry welcome to Lit! I hope to read some of your future postings! Have fun and enjoy!

 

[Caressa]

Thanks for the notes of welcome everyone!

While I guess I did stand of my soap box a little about my virginity, I hope the people realize there is more to me (more to anyone actually) than just their sexuality.

 

[slinkystar]

I think its a great thing to be 24 and still a virgin. I don't know if many of you know this, but Gary Coleman, he played Arnold on Different Strokes, is 34 years old and is still a virgin, and he's a famous actor who probably could have been with most any woman. But he chose not to be because of his philosophy. Thats something to be admired. It doesn't mean that a person is dysfunctional because they won't have sex, it means they are smart. I wish I would have been that way and chosen my sexual encounters with more discression.

Anyway, I hope you find someone that is just for you, and there's nothing wrong with a little auto stimulation

 

[Caressa]

Auto Stimulation is my specialty!

 

[Everyday]

No soapboxes...

I don't think that your starting out by talking about virginity was in anyway preachy or self righteous...on the contrary I think that's a really great way to kick things off on a board like this. if the idea is to generate discussion, which you certainly did, what better way to start?

Now that we know something of your sexuality everyone will enjoy getting to know the rest of you. Its funny, this is a sexual forum and certainly most of the people here are interested in talking about sex (I certainly am) yet one of the first things i noticed is that that is but one of many things people come here to talk about. As for me, if were just about sex, i'd do it a couple of times, get off a couple of times and that would be it. Instead i think I'll stick around because this is a great place to kick ideas, personalities, likes and dislikes back and forth with others and yes, I great place to explore sexuality as well.

here's to the rest of you...

 

[Caressa]

Why thank you very much Everday!

I must admit to talking about sex...and exploring it in other ways...I must otherwise I wouldn't have found this site.

I'm always open to sharing more about myself - so you guys should feel free to ask away...I'm never quite sure what to just share about myself.

 

[Guest]

what's your current job?

 

[Ekim321]

Auto Stimulation is my specialty!

After 24 years, I guess you would be.

That wasn't meant to be sarcastic, Caressa. I just couldn't pass it up.

I think it's great that you have your virginity. You sound like "the perfect woman" to me. One that it would be fascinating to be around and get to know.

Have a great time here at Lit.

 

[Everyday]

Yeah, me niether...

...do you say hey...this is me! or wait till others ask...the eternal forum question...

Okay, after talking about getting to know the rest of you I'm going to come out with a somewhat sexual question...shame on me but it's not just about sex...

Being a virgin, does erotic lit/chat give you a fulfilling sexual outlet and if so, how? i ask because I'm asking myself the same question and interested to hear another viewpoint. I'm not a virgin (even tho my profile says so...lol) but this is a different sexual environment than the one I'm currently living in...

 

[Snork Maiden]

Hi Caressa

Hey Caressa,

Welcome to the boards (sounds rather theatrical doesn't it)

I am gonna get totally flamed for saying this I know.

Losing - keeping ones virginity is more a personal thing than an achievement.

Personally I don't see anything special in holding back apart from the lack of personal experience and pleasure. (Snork Maiden is very hedonistic).

I would rather be a good experienced partner for the man with whom I choose to spend the rest of my life, or a lengthy part there of, than suffer the inexperience and discomfort of my first time over again.

Men like to think there is something special in a girl who keeps chaste and those who don't are just easy. That's just chauvanism in my experience and opinion. Women should have fun too without having labels applied.

I applaude your restraint, be sure its for your own reasons though life is too short, before you know it your a lover, a mother and then just another.

This is my own opinion please don't take offense.

Have fun

SM

 

[Guest]

you've some good points, but if she wants it to be special, can you really blame her?

 

[Caressa]

Snork Maiden

Oh my goodness...I absolutely don't take offence and I actually agree with your point. I didn't bring up the fact that I was a virgin because I thought I deserved praise. It was more an icebreaker plus I really wanted to hear other opinions on the subject.
Some people do tend to lean towards thinking that if someone is a virgin over 21 then something is wrong with them - they are unattractive or people just aren't interested in them or whatever.

Not to say that I'm beautiful and I have to fight off men to keep what is important to me. But I have had opportunities and just never felt comfortable in pursuing the options - for me the times weren't right or the guy wasn't right and I don't believe in settling.

However I remain positive that one day I will meet the right guy at the right time and I will shed all of my previous inhibitions - and my friends joke that once I do finally start having sex that I'm probably going to be a wild woman...I think they are right!

 

[Caressa]

Re: Yeah, me niether...

...Being a virgin, does erotic lit/chat give you a fulfilling sexual outlet and if so, how? i ask because I'm asking myself the same question and interested to hear another viewpoint. I'm not a virgin (even tho my profile says so...lol) but this is a different sexual environment than the one I'm currently living in...

Yes...I tend to do very well with erotic lit/chat - plus I've found some other avenues...audio erotica (by males) has done wonders...and I've even ventured into phone sex. I mentioned before that I'm a very sexual person and I find that lately my hormones have been RAGING!!! Since I have an unbelievable imagination all of this stuff is great because I'm able to live out this sort of fantasy life where I do whatever I want (well...you know what I mean) and still maintain my integrity.

BTW...what is the sexual environment you are currently living in...if I masy ask

 

[Caressa]

Re: Yeah, me niether...

...Being a virgin, does erotic lit/chat give you a fulfilling sexual outlet and if so, how? i ask because I'm asking myself the same question and interested to hear another viewpoint. I'm not a virgin (even tho my profile says so...lol) but this is a different sexual environment than the one I'm currently living in...

Yes...I tend to do very well with erotic lit/chat - plus I've found some other avenues...audio erotica (by males) has done wonders...and I've even ventured into phone sex. Although I do have to say that personally, I just can't have random phone sex with just any guy...I enjoy it more and feel no guilt afterwards if I know something about him and chat with him for a while.

I mentioned before that I'm a very sexual person and I find that lately my hormones have been RAGING!!! Since I have an unbelievable imagination all of this stuff is great because I'm able to live out this sort of fantasy life where I do whatever I want (well...you know what I mean) and still maintain my integrity.

BTW...what is the sexual environment you are currently living in...if I masy ask

 

[eroticfiction]

Caressa, Dear I say get laid as soon as you can. You could be hit by a truck next week and you would die a Virgin! Is that what you want? Tradition dictates that sex is to be "special" and "imporant" for a woman, something she saves for a perfect man. Let me tell you sister, there is no perfect man...They are all flawed in some way (same with women). "Mr. Right" is a figment of your imagination.... (and was a figment of all of ours at some point or another-just like Mrs. Right is for men).... I say, "If he has a hot body and a good personality (today) and he can turn me on right, then I shouldn't turn him down because I may or may not live to regret it.." You only have one go around in life. Make it count...........Get yours girl!!!!!

WELCOME to literotica!!!!!!!!

 

[Snork Maiden]

timing

I am glad you weren't upset, and I am pleased you brought the topic up.

To be honest, sometimes I look back at my first time and wonder if it was right, whether it could have been better, should I have waited longer.

I wonder how many other people, men and women have similar thoughts.

Ofcourse the answer to all of these questions is 'I will never know.' Thats part of the Life's experience and adventure. But one thing is for sure. It doesn't matter how many times I do it in my life, I will always remember my first, and I guess many other people will too.

I hope that when the time is right its the most pleasantly memorable experience of your life. Sincerely SM

 

[Caressa]

EroticFiction:

I've actually had that thought and as awful as I thought it would be to die a virgin, it hasn't changed my mind yet.

As for Mr Perfect, I know that he doesn't exist...and Mr. Right might be just a myth...but I do believe in the right guy at the right time.

Can you honestly blame me from refraining from a list of Mr. Absolutely Wrongs?

 

[eroticfiction]

No Dear,
I don't blame you..........I am just saying "Find a hot one" and get yours girl!!!! Sex is truly an amazing thing and I hate to see anyone miss out on it.......Good Luck finding a good one to slap it on...