New Dom

[dee98625]

A new Dom wants to control me and turn me into a sissy slut. What should i look out for?

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

A new Dom wants to control me and turn me into a sissy slut. What should i look out for?

First, you should look out for a new Dom wants to control you and turn you into a sissy slut. I'm not sure what comes next.

 

[SilkVelvet]

er..a sissy slut.. hmm.. could that be a sub whose safe word is " Mummy!" in a high pitched girly wail ?? Confused Brit here..thinking of Sissy Spacek..

 

[Rantalith]

A new Dom wants to control me and turn me into a sissy slut. What should i look out for?

I would be very careful with a new one. They might not know about safewords/phrases, or respecting limits. I think I would sit down with them and ask what they want out of it and what you want out of it.

Bottom line...communication, communication, communication and more communication.

 

[dee98625]

I think you are correct on talking. I will be meeting him in a public place first. Thanks for the advice

 

[Richard49]

A new Dom wants to control me and turn me into a sissy slut. What should i look out for?

1) so you are a male sub?
2) he is new to Doming or just new to you
3) where did he find you
4) Do you have any reason to trust him

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

Hi Dee. Welcome to our Community. I'd like to point you in the direction of our Library, it's loaded with threads on all sorts of information for both the inexperienced and the experienced. Check it out.

Like Richard, I'd like to know a bit more about you before I answer your question. Are you a male sub? Do you have realtime skin-to-skin experience in the BDSM lifestyle, or has your experience been online or phone? If you have never had a realtime experience do you know about how to set up a safe-call? How much do you know about the person you are considering?

I'd highly suggest that you read the following:

Safe, Sane and Consensual: Words to Live By

Online Safety; Tigers in the internet zoo (this thread discusses some realtime safety issues as well)

Without knowing much more about your situation, i'd suggest you slow down and take your time and learn as much as you can about the person you are dealing with before you them. Don't rush into anything.

Take care,

~anelize

 

[InnerDarkness]

A new Dom wants to control me and turn me into a sissy slut. What should i look out for?

I guess I would want to ask how much you know about this person, how long you have known them and how much you have talked about this....and....is this something that YOU want, because for me...the Dom/sub relationship should be mutual...not just something the Dom wants...but it should be communicated about THOROUGHLY before hand and be something that you BOTH want...

 

[SilkVelvet]

Re: Re: New Dom

the Dom/sub relationship should be mutual...not just something the Dom wants...but it should be communicated about THOROUGHLY before hand and be something that you BOTH want...

I thoroughly agree with InnerDarkness there, because as a newbie, ppl on lit gave me some great advice and I then went with my instincts and said no to the Dom after me, because it didn't feel right for me because of the lack of communication and agreement.

(I still don't get what a sissy slut is..but then I am English)

 

[dee98625]

Yes i agree that talking is important and i am glad that i listened as he thought that the use of safe words took away from his fun so when i could not convince him i broke away and stopped it all together.
Thanks for the advice one and all

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

Yes i agree that talking is important and i am glad that i listened as he thought that the use of safe words took away from his fun so when i could not convince him i broke away and stopped it all together.
Thanks for the advice one and all

Good for you Dee, I'm glad that you made the decision that you did.

~anelize

 

[Rantalith]

Yes i agree that talking is important and i am glad that i listened as he thought that the use of safe words took away from his fun so when i could not convince him i broke away and stopped it all together.
Thanks for the advice one and all

Sorry that it did not work out. But if he did not want ot use safewords, then you are better off without him.

I can not understand how/why a Dom would not want to use safewords.