New dom new sub

[Dontgiveup]

I'm new at this and so is she.

How do we start?

 

[subtleone]

I'm new at this and so is she.

How do we start?

Read, read and read some more; stick around and ask intelligent questions (of each other as well as on Lit) - then you'll know where to start.

good reading

Oh!! And dont forget to have fun Welcome

 

[CutieMouse]

I'm new at this and so is she.

How do we start?

Here's a link to a post I made asking a similar question last week; it has a list of websites wtih checklists (to determine each other's limits/desires/needs/interests), as well as a few books for research purposes, and I think there's also a link to the BDSM Library pinned to the top of the BDSM Talk forum, which is a good reference source, as well as launching pad for ideas/questions/etc.

Asking questions here is always an interesting and educational experience. If you can narrow down questions, it will help people give opinions or advice that might better fit your situation... for example "How do we start?" is a big (and common) question.

Welcome to Lit.

 

[myinnerslut]

well, what are your focuses? D/s? sadomasochism? bondage? etc....

what do you like? ropes and knots? toys? puppyplay? anal? etc....


tell us what you like and mabye we can give you some ideas. welcome to lit

 

[Evil_Geoff]

You START with communication.

Communication with yourself - if you don't know what you want and need, how can you possibly get it from someone else?

Communication with your partner - if you don't share your wants and needs with them, how can they possibly work with you to fulfill them? If you don't listen to them, how will you ever know what their wants and needs are to fulfill them? No one comes equipped with the Mind Reading/Thought Broadasting option activated.

Communicate your expectations, your values, your morals.

Communicate who you are as an individual.

And listen to who they are, what they expect to get out of all this, etc.

Communication works both ways, and it is the foundation that allows trust to build and grow.

*nods* Yup... start with commnication.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

You START with communication.

(etc., etc. - you already read it)

*nods* Yup... start with commnication.

And make communication in integral part of every step you take thereafter.

 

[Dontgiveup]

You guys are all great. Good advice thank you

I'm on my way to read and communicate

I'd love some more advice if there is any.