New at this...seeking advice in finding soulmate

[phillyriter]

If anyone has ideas how to find my muse, please advise. Attractive Philly guy seeking local slim smart single soulmate. Me: pensive, creative, somewhat anti-social.
I like museums, music, the shore in winter, reading, good conversation, coffee, writing, giving pleasure and building a deep, lasting D/s relationship.

 

[Naked Hunny]

*doing Vanna pose* does this look like the personals to you?

 

[Hecate]

It does .. a little ... but..

.. had he posted it there I never would have read it and ... hmmmm .. it sure gave me something to dream about *winks*

 

[Naked Hunny]

Thanks for making me giggle sweetie I needed it!!

 

[Ezzie]

I met my soulmate online. I don't want him for anything sexual or more than friendship even though he wishes I did. See, my soulmate is a married man. He's extremely attractive, smart and a very terrific person but I won't interfere in a marriage. But I do have some advice for you, Philly. You won't ever "Find" your soulmate, you'll just be having a normal day and she'll appear. I'm a strong believer in that. Good luck to you, I hope you get what you're looking for.

 

[JHolley67]

Here's the secret....

Hey, man. I know this is going to sound pretty Zen, but the only way you'll ever find your soulmate, your twinflame, is to stop looking.

I had just gotten out of a horrible relationship and the last thing on my mind was growing a new heart and putting it back on the chopping block.

I found my partner within a few days of that. So chin up and pretend you don't care.

Jason

P.S. If this works, let me know so I can shit myself. ha ha

 

[phillyriter]

Thanks to all for the ideas. Yes, this might be the time for me to concentrate on studies, new career, etc. Hard as it is not to try to control things, maybe I should just take my mind off it and let the cosmos take over.

 

[Skibum]

I met my soulmate online (on this site!). I was not looking for her, and in factI knew her for several months before I knew she was my soulmate. I'm not sure I would have found her if I'd been looking. There is something about guys who prowl the net looking for women that tends to turn women off.

 

[phillyriter]

Yeah, think I'll just sit back and forget it awhile. It's a new world we live in. It used to be you see someone first, then get to know about her. The visual preceded the mental. Now everything is turned around: I can list qualities I'm interested in, then see if anyone responds. But my opportunities for socializing are limited, so this is a great new thing to try. Especially thought I'd start to correspond with smart, erotic, creative women here. Oh well, on to other pressing matters.

 

[Hecate]

Hi phillyriter,

you have to approach this way of meeting people as something wonderful and embrace the option. Here we are less temtpted to "judge a book by its cover" but more by the "content", you can show any side of you without fear because you are anonymous for as long and as much as you decide to be ... but as a matter of fact, finding a person you are compatible with is not any easier in general when on the internet. In the "real" world (as in "visual") you are likely to find someone compatible to you when going to places that are reflecting your interest, same on the internet ... with the advantage to be able to "choose" from a multitude of people in regards to places and races that you are rather unlikely to ever meet "in real live" - at least as far as chance encounters go.

But just as it is "in real life", the harder you seek the less you are likely to find that matching person - so I would suggesg you just relax and take this place for what it is - a haven of recreation. Be here just for the fun of good company, learn to know "the crazy bunch" and take your time to find out about all of us.

As you may have noticed we have quite a few relations around Literotica that started on this site - but they too needed a slow development of trust and caring affection, turned from friendships to more .. and hey, after all I do think a good frind is pretty close to a soulmate already .... so why not relax, stop "searching" and just see what happens ... but that means you have to "jump right in", post, flirt if you like and sooner than you know you will be feeling "home" and who knows, maybe your Ms. Right is just about to sign up tomorrow ... or she has already but still have to meet ... in any case I would guess you are hooked up on corresponding with the lovelies of Literotica sooner than you may think - just give us time to learn to know you by joining our conversations. Don't wait for us to come to you - come out to play with us!

Take care and enjoy, best things grow on open and relaxed, joyful and caring ground.

 

[phillyriter]

Thanks for your thoughtful words. I was drawn here first by the opportunity to read some good, fresh stories by a diverse, uninhibited group of authors. This is my first time joining something like this, and I really have to stumble and grope around to see how it works. I don't even know the terminology.
So I read some, then submitted one, and even volunteered to edit for others.
I thought the general board was open to all kinds of ideas, so I naively put one out there. I saw the personals bulletin board and placed an ad in the "right" place. I didn't come here looking for a woman: (prowling...yukk, what a thought!) finding a companion was an afterthought. What I crave is mental stimulation and good communication and I won't get it at work or at bars. There's a higher power that provides me with what (he, she, it) knows I need, and when it's time, it will happen. Peace to all.
(OK, what's all this virgin...experienced...guru stuff?)

 

[Skibum]

phillyriter, I didn't mean to imply that you were "prowling", I just wanted to direct you to a more appropriate forum for your search. I do believe it is possible to find someone through personal ads, but you do have to admit that there are more guys out there looking then there are women. You would have to be incredibly lucky to find a soulmate that way. But again, it IS possible. Good luck, anyway!

The Virgin, Experienced, Guru, etc. titles are based soley on the number of posts the person has made on the board. Some of us have no life, so we wind up with a ridiculous number of posts, thus qualifing as gurus, or ultimately, choosing our own title after 1000 posts. You get experiencedat 30 or so, and get to be a Guru at 500.

[Edited by Skibum on 12-05-2000 at 10:22 AM]

 

[phillyriter]

Hey skibum, thanks for clearing that up. I thought it might be something like that. It kind of looks like a program or something, but the "create your own" part threw me.
As I said, it's mental stimulation I seek right now, and I'm getting the hang of this thread and post stuff. It's all weird and wacky fun to me! The best way to learn is by doing it.

 

[Skibum]

We aims to please! Make sure you let us know how the search turns out!

 

[Hecate]

As I said, it's mental stimulation I seek right now,

Exactly .. although I hope at least the stories will stimulate some other parts too and not "only mentally"

and I'm getting the hang of this thread and post stuff. It's all weird and wacky fun to me!

as for weird and wacky fun - looks like you are gonna fit in nicely with the rest of Literotica *lol*

The best way to learn is by doing it.

Hope to see you around as you "practice",

 

[phillyriter]

It's not just my intellect that gets stimulated...oh my! Oh, there it goes again...I feel dizzy...no blood available for my brain??

The stories are a nice escape hatch to fantasy land- worlds apart from the mundane, pay-the-bills, go to work, usual day to day crap.

(I sometimes wish more writers would take advantage of the volunteeer editors, but hey, imagine if someone told e.e.cummings to go re-do everything with caps? Haha.)