new and tad shy

[mode]

Hello everyone. I'm sort of new here and I've been watching from the outside, due in part to my shyness, yet lately I've really wanted to introduce myself because I feel I need to communicate before I explode with my unfulfilled needs.

I'm really new to the BDSM world, having no experience, yet a whole head full of sexual desires. Im fairly shy, and that keeps me from actually exploring anything in real life. But about me: I'm guy in my early twenties living in the southwest. thats all i feel comfortable devulging for now


About the things I think about: I have a ton of sexual energy, and I perhaps this is where a lot of my fantasies spring forth from. I like to fantasize about being with a dominant woman, who (in my fantasy, under a guise of concern) decides that I must be constrainted and wear a chastity device. In my need to quench my sexual thirst, I jerk off frequently. Is that an odd fantasy? Do many men have that? In my vanilla world of dating, i've been pretty scared of my own thoughts so I never dare let anyone im with know about these things My fantasies of course go a little deeper. I guess i get off on power exchanges, and giving up my power to a woman I can trust. I want to feel the exquisite frustration of pleasure denial, and have the only pleasure i get through the half reward / punishment of taking a strap on. only to be let out every now and then as a reward.



anyway, nice to find a place where maybe i can indulge a little and let loose. i hope to talk to some interesting people in the near future.

 

[FurryFury]

Hi and welcome!

I think your fantasy as so far described isn't very different from that of many men. I happen to believe that any fantasy is fine, it's what you choose to do about it in RL that makes the difference though. At one time I thought my fantasies were shameful and wrong. What a gigantic waste of years and opportunities that understandable but incorrect belief made me make!

I hope you enjoy your time here.

Fury

 

[Evil_Geoff]

Good morning mode, welcome to Lit!

Your fantasies/desires are not terribly "out there" or "extreme" as BDSM fantasies go. Truth of the matter is that what you shared so far is actually pretty tame. You've come to a place where most kinks and fetishes are accepted and welcome, Female Dominant/submissive male is pretty common here.

To get over your shyness and help find self-acceptance you might want to try joining a group in your area. You might find something local, or within reasonable travel distance at:

SceneUSA - http://www.darkheart.com/sceneusa.html
or
Caryl's BDSM Page - http://www.drkdesyre.com/ (has a great list of groups both real-time and online)

Happy hunting!

 

[Ebonyfire]

Welcome Mode

It is interesting that you post today. I have been chatting with a 21 year old man who lives close to me. He is a lot like you, and often feels alone in this thoughts.

He also says that he finds that many of the Dommes he speaks to will not consider someone very young like himself.

I find it interesting that the young people today are finding themselves a lot sooner than we did. By we I mean the 40-50+ group that I belong to. That is a good thing. The ability to know your own mind is a blessing. And I am sure if you are persistent, you will find what you seek.

Geoff has given you excellent advice. I gave the same advice to my young friend. I provided him with links of the munches and groups that he could visit. Finding like minded friends and developing like minded contacts is the best way to find what you seek.

Good luck to ya!

Eb