Hi, I'm a 20 yr. old married bisexual girl who feels like she's at a bit of a crossroads. I'm just coming off my first "relationship" with another woman. Albeit short, my husband and I did have a couple threesomes with her. Unfortunately, it ended badly, and it hurts to even mention her. I'm still attracted to women, but I wonder if I should just drop any idea of being with another and just be with my husband. When I brought my thought up to him, he asked me to give it careful thought, because he saw how much I enjoyed the experience. I can't deny this. The draw to another woman is strong, but on top of my reluctance, it's hard to find another bisexual girl who isn't attached to someone else. Should I (1) drop the idea and just remember the VERY brief experience we had, (2) look for another [somehow...], or (3) just admire girls from afar until I notice one admiring me back?
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Hi Ayane! How neat to see one of my JS favorites found LitErotica.
I would say yes, drop the idea for now. There are other threads with similar questions, and my view is always that same-sex cheating is still cheating. Such is the dilemma of many bisexuals I know...but the fact remains (in my eyes) that if you are to be committed to your partner, then you've got to give up other dalliances - men and women. (This goes for straights and gays and everybody else who's not in an open relationship.)
You mention that there's still pain from the last woman you had a relationship. I'd tread very lightly for this reason.
I would say yes, drop the idea for now. There are other threads with similar questions, and my view is always that same-sex cheating is still cheating. Such is the dilemma of many bisexuals I know...but the fact remains (in my eyes) that if you are to be committed to your partner, then you've got to give up other dalliances - men and women. (This goes for straights and gays and everybody else who's not in an open relationship.)
You mention that there's still pain from the last woman you had a relationship. I'd tread very lightly for this reason.
To clarify, the only times I was ever intimate with her were during the threesomes with my husband. He and I agreed that we would both be present if anything ever happened with me and my girlfriend (actually I requested it be that way). Is this still cheating?
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As long as he is aware and accepting, and it isn't driving a wedge between you, it is fine in my book, and I think most people agree.Ayane said:
