Never had an Orgasm in Oregon

[Guest]

Hi there all. I am a happily married 23 year-old woman in Oregon.
I was a very sexual person before I was married, but my husband just doesn't do it for me. Also, I have gained some weight since being married, and just don't feel that I am the hot young sex goddess I used to be. Back in my wilder days, I enjoyed lots of wild things including bisexuality, group encounters and more. I have had some pretty geat sex and sexual sitiuations, but I have never reached orgasm. I am grieving the loss of my former sex life and would also like to discuss my orgasm issue. Please drop me a line. icequeen129@yahoo.com

 

[iceprincess]

 

[wolffe99]

No O?

I am curious, in all this time, you have never orgasmed? Can you mastrubate to orgasm?

 

[wildrose69]

That is very sad...honey, believe me you dont have to be a sex-goddess to reach an orgasm....is your hubby into oral?? My way of being pleasured and it still works!! And I'm much older than you....but still enjoy good sex as often as I can....

 

[Coven911]

How can that be???

With as much fun as you say you have had, but you have NEVER orgasmed??? Wow. I am guessing that you did the foreplay thing??? Hmmm....there are people who for whatever reason just do NOT orgasm. You may be one of those.

 

[Guest]

Take time to learn

I am a college professor who teaches human sexuality. Many of my young women students have "orgasm issues." Not only will your husband "do it for you," no man will do it for you. Men do not bestow orgasms on women. Women who orgasm easily have learned to have orgasms by becoming aware of their bodies and what works for them. There are a number of books on the topic. A simple program is called "Becoming Orgasmic." It is a book and video combination. It may seem silly to do something so programatic and you might feel like you don't want to take the time. However, the sooner you take charge of you sexuality and learn to have an orgasm, the better life will be. Many times, the inability to have an orgasm creates emotional distance between partners. It would be best if you could get your husband involved in the learning process. There is really no reason that any woman should live to be 23 without having an orgasm. And orgasm therapy is one of the most successful therapies that psychology offers.

On the other matter, I hate to see intelligent women marry as early as you, especially if they are going to turn around and grieve for their former life. If you don't work these feeling out, you will quite likely have your former life back before you know it.

Feel free to e-mail me if you want more information.

Steve

 

[StevenWill]

oops

Sorry, IcePrincess, I wrote the above note before I logged in. Best of luck with your quest for orgasm.

Steve

 

[Experienced Teacher]

Hope I can Help

Hi Iceprincess,
just sent you an email and I hope I can help you. Ken