Needs more sex....

[BgMma]

I know it may be hard, but you need someone who is compatible to you.
If you haven't been in a long term relationship, then it is easier to get out now. It is obvious he isn't on the same level as you sexually and although sex isn't everthing, a healthy relationship may suffer.
If he is ill, then that is different.
The same with any relationship. If there is something lacking, say communication, then you are never going to be happy. If the physical part of the relationship is lacking, you may end up going elsewhere and it would be better for all involved if you just left him instead.
Since you say the he seems to want to be doing something else, it seems to me that he just isn't driven sexually. It is rare for a man, but he may be asexual. He likes or loves you very much, but he doesn't need sex to complete himself.
I don't know if this makes any sense, but I tried!

 

[Guest]

No, bgmma you made complete sense. I do wonder sometimes if maybe I should find someone else. It's just so hard. After being with someone for 3 years you get in that kind of comfort zone. I've had people say the same thing you have and usually I'll just say yeah, uh huh and try to change the subject because it's embarrasing to say "oh I love him and I don't want to leave" because I do have doubts and it makes me realize that I'm ignoring them so I can stay comfortable. I still try to get suggestions and to try new things but it may come down to the point where I say that enough is enough, there is no change his feelings and I'll just have to let the relationship go. I appreciate your honesty though.

 

[Camilla]

What does a man do to turn you on, get you in the mood, etc..

"Hey, baby, let's have sex" works for me.

 

[BgMma]

Felicia, you are halfway there. YOu know about the comfort zone and you have tried all you can think of. Now, it's just the idea of letting go.. I went through the same thing, and I can tell you that there is a rough road ahead, but keep your chin up and do some explroing, get to know what you really want, and then you are on your way to being happy.
There is nothing wrong with still loving him, it is natural when you hve been in a long relationship. Just be honest with him and ask him to do the same and then, if you guys can part ways on a good note, at least you can both move on with a smile.
In fact, you can still love him, but you don't have to be in a realtionship to be that close. It does depend on the person, because if he gets clingy, then you have to run and FAST.