Needs more sex....

[Dr.O]

I'm horny, day in, day out, horny.. Problem is my girlfriend isn't always as horny as I am.. So my question is ladies..

What does a man do to turn you on, get you in the mood, etc.. Now I'm not talking night long romance here, I'm talkin' get naked and get laid sex.. Plan and simple, for fun.

 

[SexyChele]

I prefer him to mix it up a little. I've dated men who only "get naked and get laid sex". Nothing like that to make a woman feel like a piece of meat.

Sometimes a little romance, sometimes an all night romance session, sometimes something quick and fun. It's all good. But if a man sticks to only one thing, I get turned off rather quickly. (Yes, even if it is always romance!) Variety is the spice of all good things, IMO!

 

[Dr.O]

Oh, by all means don't get me wrong here.. There is a great difference in love and sex.. I just perfer a little more sex than love I guess..

My meaning is for quickies.. Times when you don't have time to gentle rub her feet, and legs, thighs, then back..

Well you get the picture..

 

[Native Alien]

i like that way that you put that sexy, and i would tend to agree with you. want to really get me in the mood? then take a little time to treat me like a person and not a piece of meat. talk to me about things that i am interested in and have a passion for. preferably while cuddling and holding me close.

 

[Freya]

Oh, by all means don't get me wrong here.. There is a great difference in love and sex.. I just perfer a little more sex than love I guess..

My meaning is for quickies.. Times when you don't have time to gentle rub her feet, and legs, thighs, then back..

Well you get the picture..

If YOU want her turned on for a quickie...then that's your job to do. What excites her? What does she like at times when it's not a quickie? Do that to her...turn her on a bit, then get your fast, hard sex...but you can't expect that she will instantly be wet for you just cuz you feel like a quickie.

 

[Dr.O]

True enough, and you are right.. Guess generally the wrong "brain" is thicking at that point in time..

But there's got to be things that make woman... Mmmm wet now.. Just like a beautiful woman, breasts, nice ass, stuff like that does to guys..

Mayhaps I'm wrong but I am truly hoping that might be something.. *shrugs* But I'm patient, I will find something.

 

[peachykeen]

Dr. O it sounds like you are looking for some kind of magis switch you can flip into the "on" position. Guess what - it doesn't exist.

 

[SexyChele]

Well, this is something that would work for me (not sure how old you or your S/O are, so you might have to be a bit imaginative here):

When a man calls me at work (during the week) or on my cell (on the weekend) telling me that he thinks I'm attractive and sexy, telling me what he wants to do - explicitely. The calls are sporadic, but continuous. An email or two - in vivid detail. Maybe stopping off where I work and leaving a card to be delivered.

Yeah, okay, so it takes a day - but by the time I meet up with him, I wanna experience all those things he talked about!

But "instant" wetness? Maybe if I'm really, really, really horny and looking at porn. Maybe. Otherwise, I like to built up to it.

Remember, men are more visual than women. They can see something and - BAM - they are "on"! Women can, but more than likely you have to get into her head first.

But hey, I'm just one woman, ya know?

 

[throbbingcock]

Dr. O I have the same problem, she good for once a day, but me hard most of the time, she cant keep it up, Im frustrated too!

 

[millieteases]

Deal with it guys - we don't have on switches. If that's what you want, buy a blowup doll with vibrating orifices.

Don't get me wrong, I love quickies - but I love them because they're spontaneous. My spouse treats me with respect and he teases me like in some of the previous comments. He also has taken the time to get to know me - and he can pretty much tell when I'm responsive - to a quickie, to long, slow wonderful lovemaking or to something in between.

Get to know your spouse. And if you want sex and he or she isn't particularly into it, try masturbating. Sometimes he watches me and gets interested, sometimes I watch him and get interested and sometimes we just watch and are pleased that the other is having fun - even if the watcher doesn't want to do anything sexual.

 

[throbbingcock]

I was just saying I know what he means, but hey if she doesnt feel like it I just stroke it.

 

[ApplesMcgee]

There's lots of stuff...

There are things you can do that aren't all out sex. You can do the mutual masturbation thing. Maybe just watch each other masturbate.

You could just tease each other. You can do the phone sex thing. There are a lot of options.

The truth is, she may not be totally against sex. She just might be against sex in the traditional sense.

On the other hand, she just may not be in thd mood. I bet she wouldn't mind watching you get yourself off while you though about her though

PowrDragn

 

[Dr.O]

*laughs* Ok.. Point taken.. But I still like looking for the switch.. I'll have to play with this one.. See what I can figure out..

I like the email one.. Will have to play with that..

 

[lilpriss]

Hope I don't get blasted for posting this...

But I do have a hot button. It's a no fail way for me to get horny almost instantaneously. BUT... it's nothing that my partner can do to make it happen. It happens in my mind. I'm very very creative, very good at visualizing things. So if I don't relly feel like it, but I want to please my partner... I just conjure up something in my head... it's turn on for me to close my eyes and fantasize.

Quick things are... anal sex... first time with a new partner... getting caught...

You just need to talk to her... I had an ex who could look at me a certain way and I was soaked.

Communication is the fastest way to learn more about her and what she likes. You could play the game, things I'd like to try... and make a list of things you'd like to try out with each other and then check them off as you do them.

Watch her reactions... see what affects her the strongest... Some of the most intense feelings come from, not a physical sensation, but the brain.

 

[throbbingcock]

Than I need to take a communications course, because both of us know nothing about communicating.

 

[huskie]

Hope I don't get blasted for posting this...

But I do have a hot button. It's a no fail way for me to get horny almost instantaneously. BUT... it's nothing that my partner can do to make it happen. It happens in my mind. I'm very very creative, very good at visualizing things. So if I don't relly feel like it, but I want to please my partner... I just conjure up something in my head... it's turn on for me to close my eyes and fantasize.

Quick things are... anal sex... first time with a new partner... getting caught...

You just need to talk to her... I had an ex who could look at me a certain way and I was soaked.

Communication is the fastest way to learn more about her and what she likes. You could play the game, things I'd like to try... and make a list of things you'd like to try out with each other and then check them off as you do them.

Watch her reactions... see what affects her the strongest... Some of the most intense feelings come from, not a physical sensation, but the brain.

Damn good advice, lilpriss!!!! That is really the best idea I have heard yet. I'm going to try that with my wife. Maybe I can get her snooty butt to open up some in bed??

I don't know why every one says your so dumb?

 

[lilpriss]

HEY! Who's "everyone" that thinks I'm "so dumb" !!??? I'm a frickin genius!

 

[Minout]

Maybe this is just me but most of the time if I don't want to have sex it has nothing to do with not being interested in sex or my inability to get turned on it's because I'm tired or busy or have stuff on my mind. Mostly it's just a timing thing. Make a deal with her. You'll do the laundry or wash the kitchen floor or cut the grass or take the kids to the park for an hour (or 2) or.... whatever thing it is that is preventing her from giving you her undivided attention for 1/2 and hour. It would probably work for me!



Minout

 

[Puppi]

I'm horny, day in, day out, horny.. Problem is my girlfriend isn't always as horny as I am.. So my question is ladies..

I'm in the same/similar boat...only I'm an oversexed woman.


~Puppi

 

[huskie]

HEY! Who's "everyone" that thinks I'm "so dumb" !!??? I'm a frickin genius!

Oh never mind......... j.k.

 

[lilpriss]

Oh never mind......... j.k.

Whew, there for a minute I thought someone was being a shit!

 

[looking4fun]

I like the email one.. Will have to play with that.. [/QUOTE

I would recommend starting off on the conservative side on your emails. I thought this would be a great thing to do & I sent my wife an email (which I normally don’t do, as she is rarely on the computer). Any way I sent her an email on Valentine’s day this year right when I got to work (8:00 AM). Stating I would be home for lunch at 12:00 along with a surprise for her. Then I sent another at 11:00 stating I can’t wait any longer & I was on my way home now. Then I ended my email with something like this:

“I can’t get any work done because I have been thinking about you all morning & can’t get you out of my mind. The scent of your perfume, the kiss I got before I left this morning & the thought of making love to you after I go down on your sweet pussy.”

I get to the house at a little after 11:00 with roses & gifts. Expecting her to be naked in bed. However that didn’t happen & later when I asked about the email. She said it was a turn off & vulgar. Maybe I married June Cleaver???

 

[BlackSnake]

Re: Re: Needs more sex....

I'm in the same/similar boat...only I'm an oversexed woman.


~Puppi

You know it. When I'm busy with work and there no one around I'm find, but as soon as I hear the distinguished sound of heels on the tile in the hallway I'm instantly hard. The anaconda is awakened. Thank goodness my girl still likes me...why I have no idea

 

[BgMma]

Since my guy has been ill for a year now, I am so undersexed I am to the point of buying every toy I can find. I would love to have flesh and blood, but that's not right.
Anyhow, if I were to go for a quickie liason, nothing gets me hotter than the spontaneous. Find her in the supermarket and dive into the bathroom. Try the mall.
If you dont' like the chance of getting caught, you can wait until she doing dishes, or cleaning the bathroom. That is, if it's your lady who does the cleaning!
Surprise her after a bath or during. Right after she gets home from work, don't let her have a chance to tell you to wait, and chances are, she will be excited. Now, I dont' mean maul her, but take her and toss her on the bed! Or the floor, if the bed is too far away.
The key is to find what she likes the most. Even if you have to ask a few questions and wait a few days, if you find out what she wants in a fantasy, you will find her quickie button.
But we don't have an auto button. If she kicks your ass, she really wasn't up to it.
These are just suggestions. I found them exhilarating!

 

[Guest]

Re: Re: Needs more sex....

I'm in the same/similar boat...only I'm an oversexed woman.


~Puppi

I've got the same problem. I love sex and all the things you can do with it but my fiance has totally lost his sex drive. I've tried everything. I'm pretty open about doing most stuff, roleplays, anal, bondage, dressing up etc. but he doesn't like any of it. He says he doesn't have any fantasies and that it's not me. I'm so sick of having to try to talk him into sex and then only getting it after he's made it obvious he'd rather be doing something else. Any ideas?