Needed, fertile male preferrably in Ma, or close

[terriblegoblin]

This is an awkward situation, but I figured thats what this is all about. I need someone who is willing to impregnate my girlfriend. I am 41 and sterile, and she is 25 and wants a baby in the worst way. Basically what I need is someone to provide the means without having to spend $8000 for a fertility clinic. I know this is unusual, but i figured this forum was about as open as it can get. If there are any volunteers, feel free to PM me. If you are curious about what she looks like, feel free to check out my thread....



https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=371083

 

[Shadout]

Goblin - I have a suspicion that you're opening the biggest can of worms you could ever find with this. The reason that artificial fertilisation is such a complicated process is that it is a very complicated matter indeed. I hope for your, and your girlfriends, sakes that you have researched this and thought it through to the very end before you go ahead with it.

 

[UKrock]

if i were close

I'd be happy to. the idea of getting a woman pregnant turns me on LOTS

 

[terriblegoblin]

She and I have discussed it thoroughly. We also are fully aware of the "can of worms" we may be opening up. This is something we have discussed for over a year now. The act of sex certainly does not imply love. It is merely a means to achieve the result we want. I understand your concern and greatly appreciate it. If i was younger, then I might say I was not thinking this through. But I have been through a lot, including the death of my own son. Hence the vasectomy. This all occured many years ago, and I never saw myself divorced, or ever thought I would want another child ever again. But i do, and this is where we find ourselves right now. Again, thanks for your concern. I do appreciate it, knowing that even in this mixed up world we live in, there are people like you who are concerned for others well-being. Thanks

 

[UKrock]

She and I have discussed it thoroughly. We also are fully aware of the "can of worms" we may be opening up. This is something we have discussed for over a year now. The act of sex certainly does not imply love. It is merely a means to achieve the result we want. I understand your concern and greatly appreciate it. If i was younger, then I might say I was not thinking this through. But I have been through a lot, including the death of my own son. Hence the vasectomy. This all occured many years ago, and I never saw myself divorced, or ever thought I would want another child ever again. But i do, and this is where we find ourselves right now. Again, thanks for your concern. I do appreciate it, knowing that even in this mixed up world we live in, there are people like you who are concerned for others well-being. Thanks

you can sometimes get a vasectamy reversed

 

[terriblegoblin]

The success rate on a vasectomy over 15 years is very low, not the reconnection, but the ability to impregnate. I had my vasectomy in March of 1988, over 17 years ago. I have discussed this with my urologist and he said we had less than a 10% chance of succeeding

 

[UKrock]

The success rate on a vasectomy over 15 years is very low, not the reconnection, but the ability to impregnate. I had my vasectomy in March of 1988, over 17 years ago. I have discussed this with my urologist and he said we had less than a 10% chance of succeeding

seems worth a try before getting a stranger to do it

 

[terriblegoblin]

Yes, I know it does. Unfortunately, my medical insurance will not cover a reversal. And the costs of a reversal are as much as a fertility clinic. I am a field service technician. I don't have 8000 lying around. I wish I did.

 

[ChrisM45]

A close friend of mine had a vasectamy 14 years ago. He got married two years ago and she wanted a baby. They went to Florida and had invetro. They had a baby boy in July. The time period which has passed since the vasectamy does not matter with invetro. The body continues to produce sperm even after the vasectamy, it is just lost into the blood stream. This is just an option. Theirs did not cost $8,000.00. Gender selection costs that much if you want that performed. It is still fairly expensive, but have children is expensive anyway. I am just telling you that you have options.

 

[terriblegoblin]

I am not here to argue with anyone, and I know that everyone is only looking out for what is good for the both of us, but the average cost of an In Vitro procedure in the United States is $12,400 dollars according to the American Society of Reproductive Medicine. I don't have it. And a reversal right now is running, on average, $10,000. Again, more money than I have in my pocket. I know people are concerned, and like i said before, it makes me feel good, about people in general. You all are being so genuinely nice. If nothing else, this may have renewed my faith in people.

 

[ChrisM45]

Not trying to be argumentative, I agree that a reversal will not work, My friend had that done and it didn't either. Reversals are only good a few years after the initial proceedure. But, the average price put out by ASRM is exactly that, average. Some places are extremely high, and some places extremely low. I wouldn't suggest the latter. But some are reasonable. That being said, you do what you want. It was only a suggestion.

 

[terriblegoblin]

Thanks Chris. I do appreciate all comments. I live in Mass. Things in New England tend to run on the high side of everything. Hell, Our 1 bedroom apartment is costing us 1000 a month. I thank you for all inputs.

 

[Biggie74]

if i was closer then florida,i'd say elts discuss it and all,but since i am in fla and your in mass unless your planing a vacation,all i can say is good luck,and at the least,ask for a recent std test

 

[freepass4sex]

Can't help, but was touched by the responses and your replies. The two of you seem to have done your homework and thought things out. Sure hope everything works out and you guys get what you want...Good luck!

 

[bimori]

Thanks Chris. I do appreciate all comments. I live in Mass. Things in New England tend to run on the high side of everything. Hell, Our 1 bedroom apartment is costing us 1000 a month. I thank you for all inputs.

Hi I would love to help you with your problem I live just north of you In New Hampshire .

 

[easyman67]

Hey Goblin

She and I have discussed it thoroughly. We also are fully aware of the "can of worms" we may be opening up. This is something we have discussed for over a year now. The act of sex certainly does not imply love. It is merely a means to achieve the result we want. I understand your concern and greatly appreciate it. If i was younger, then I might say I was not thinking this through. But I have been through a lot, including the death of my own son. Hence the vasectomy. This all occured many years ago, and I never saw myself divorced, or ever thought I would want another child ever again. But i do, and this is where we find ourselves right now. Again, thanks for your concern. I do appreciate it, knowing that even in this mixed up world we live in, there are people like you who are concerned for others well-being. Thanks

As Woody Allen said, "Sex without love is a pretty meaningless gesture, but as meaningless gestures go, it is a pretty good one". Sounds like this would not be meaningless. It sounds like the two of you have thought this through. I applaude your efforts. See the PM I sent.

 

[terriblegoblin]

Easyman 67

Thanks for the support. I know, this is the most unusual place to do this, and yet, I didn't know where else to go. Not like I could take out an ad in the Sunday paper. The gesture from someone certainly would not be meaningless. We would be most thankful to be able to do this. The PMs I have gotten from several people have all been supportive and concerned. Thanks to all involved, and I hope we can finally get what we want.

 

[ickle_stace]

are you sure its safe to advertise to just anyone, if you want them to have sex with your partner, then it'll have to be unprotected which means risks of STDs, are you gonna make sure they're clear first, because if she was to catch chlamydia or something, she could risk an ectopic pregnancy which would decrease her chances of getting pregnant again in the future.

i sound like a doctor arghhhh lol

 

[terriblegoblin]

Yes, we plan on screening the "volunteers", and hopefully this will eliminate any problems. Like i said before, you all have been supportive. I have been surprised by the PMs I have received. They haven't been vulgar, or rude. Just supportive and friendly. Thanks again.

 

[bosoxrox]

If this is sincere

I did this once for a a lesbian couple, It worked fine and the boy is going to graduate H.S. this spring. The medical file I used will of course need updating since then but should'nt be an issue. I need to tell you that although you may want a clean break some contact through the years is required as questions do come up that you may want answers to. -- (alot in the begining hardly ever as the child grows up). You may e-mail me direct at vze2mvte@verizon.net please type the word redsox in the title bar to avoid my spam detector--thanks and good luck David

 

[terriblegoblin]

David, thanks for the info. I sent you an e-mail. Hope you get it. If not, let me know. I check this thread every day. Thanks again

 

[swjunckie]

good luck you two.

I do hope things turn out okay. You may want to get a binding legal agreement written up for the surrogate father. With this day and age, and recent court judgements, it is a risky financial proposition. I know, I'm in your same position. I am not with my ex-fiance and I now have to find myself someone who doesn't want kids or someone with some kids (or wants to adopt). You guys may want to think about that one.

Good luck!! I'll be watching this thread for news!

 

[mkj808]

What are the specifics of this?

Hey Goblin, Would race play a major role in your decision? Would you have a legal document stating that the donors will hold no liabilty during and after the pregnancy? Would you like to know the persons medical and mental history? Will I.Q. play an important factor? These are just a few of the important things you have to think about. I wish I could help your situation, but you are a bigger man than most to even consider this. Believe it or not, this will be emotionally traumatic only because one day you will have to explain to the child why you don't look similar and why you guys did it. Maybe the child will be ok with it, but you have to consider what if they don't respond well to the news. Either way, you have my support even though it doesn't sound like it from this posting. I don't think I could do something like this. But one will try anything to acheive happiness. Please keep me informed of what the outcome is like.

 

[caramelgirl_2]

Wishing you the best

As a woman who no longer has her plumbing (lol) I can relate to your post. I met the man I would have liked to have children with after I lost the capability. Although I made peace with the situation and my partner already has a child and isn't eager to have more, there is a certain kind of feeling--not regret, not really sadness, but a kinda melancholy-- whenever I look at my partner sleeping. I sometimes think, we would have had beautiful children.
But children are a lot more than having them. They are a huge responsibility, and it didn't fit either of our lifestyles, so, I'm in a good place.
But I do commiserate with those whose situations are different.
I wish you the best in your search. (How different is this from looking for someone to "play" with? The same dangers apply as having sex with a stranger. Screening helps).
BTW...my partner of three 1/2 years was a stranger I had sex with at a hotel. One night turned into forever when I wasn't even looking for it.

 

[khatnyp]

g-luck

Can't help, but was touched by the responses and your replies. The two of you seem to have done your homework and thought things out. Sure hope everything works out and you guys get what you want...Good luck!

i agree .. good luck goblin and goblins girl hope ya find what your lookin for