Need some help here.. Mixed signals??

[Lizard_king309]

I have a dilemma...

My friend's girlfriend has been talking a lot to me lately about him. How she doesn't like how he is and how he acts and that he never shows her how much he loves her and they never do anything. He has a new job and he's rarely home and she can never get a hold of him because he's not home. She tells me all this and says that she's tried to dump him but he just said that they're not breaking up in a hostile tone. She also says that she's afraid of being alone.

Myself I have just broken up with a girlfriend for a year for some unknown reason and have been talking to her about it lately because she's my friend's girlfriend so I can trust her. She's always told me not to worry and she'll be there to listen and that I'm a really nice guy.

Before she started going out with my friend she wanted to go out with my and I got her number but lost it so I couldn't call her back. All these things that have been going on lately have led me to believe that she'd like to be with me. I have that gut feeling that she wants to be with me. I don't know what to do. I'd like to be with her. How would I find out if she'd like to be with me? and if she would what would I do?

 

[mrbenh]

I have an idea....

wine her
dine her
69 her!

 

[White_Tigress_]

Lizard, be careful though. She may only feel this way because she feels secure and vulnerable around you.
This is a tough one, and I think it should just be played out. You may have yourself hurt in the long run if you decide to talk her into dumping her b/f, and going with you. She sounds scared of him as you said, so if she did dump him, he can easily munipulate her into coming back (from her fear).

First if she was my friend and she wasn't happy with the guy, I would help her to get out of that relationship with her head held high. Then she needs to feel single again for a short time, so she can get her head straight and know she made the right decision.

Then if you are still by her side, you will then feel it in your gut and heart how she truely feels about you. She won't have that vulnerable state of mind anymore, and sure she'll feel secure, but thats a sign of a good friendship (which every relationship should be anyhow).

Be careful, sounds like a sticky situation to me.