Need some advice please...

[lilinnocent4u]

I've been talking to a guy online now for a few months. Although I've shared my pics and done videoes for him, he has yet to send any of himself back. He said I had to earn it first. He also has my number so we talk to each other some but he always blocks his number. Naturally this has lead me to have some major trust issues with him. He has talked about wanting me to come visit him but my gut is telling me something is up. I guess I need some advice from someone on the outside looking in to see things clearly. My feelings and emotions are too involved. Am I wrong to have misgivings because I don't trust what he's telling me? I really have no idea if his name, age, looks, and location are what he says them to be.

Thanks.
lilinnocent.

 

[Bigbobnc]

I've sent you a pm with my thoughts, take care and be safe.

 

[Cattypuss]

I've been talking to a guy online now for a few months. Although I've shared my pics and done videoes for him, he has yet to send any of himself back. He said I had to earn it first. He also has my number so we talk to each other some but he always blocks his number. Naturally this has lead me to have some major trust issues with him. He has talked about wanting me to come visit him but my gut is telling me something is up. I guess I need some advice from someone on the outside looking in to see things clearly. My feelings and emotions are too involved. Am I wrong to have misgivings because I don't trust what he's telling me? I really have no idea if his name, age, looks, and location are what he says them to be.

Thanks.
lilinnocent.

This sounds so dodgy to me that I'm scared and I'm not even you.

Seriously, be very very careful.

 

[califwineguy]

I agree with the concerns expressed by others here... You should be very careful and trust your instincts... Be careful!

 

[Bandit58]

My advice? RED FLAG. If your gut is telling you something is up, it probably is. And ON NO ACCOUNT go and visit him. You don't know anything about him.

I would offer him an ultimatum - I would want to see a pic and a phone number or I would be blocking him. If none are forthcoming, then do it. He's probably married, or at least involved with someone - or maybe he lives with his mum

If there's no trust, there's no real relationship. BE CAREFUL

 

[EJFan]

I've been talking to a guy online now for a few months. Although I've shared my pics and done videoes for him, he has yet to send any of himself back. He said I had to earn it first. He also has my number so we talk to each other some but he always blocks his number. Naturally this has lead me to have some major trust issues with him. He has talked about wanting me to come visit him but my gut is telling me something is up. I guess I need some advice from someone on the outside looking in to see things clearly. My feelings and emotions are too involved. Am I wrong to have misgivings because I don't trust what he's telling me? I really have no idea if his name, age, looks, and location are what he says them to be.

Thanks.
lilinnocent.

yeah... as the others said... there's a whole lotta bad waiting to happen here.

or, as we say in poker, this situation is negative EV

 

[mark_j]

I've been talking to a guy online now for a few months. Although I've shared my pics and done videoes for him, he has yet to send any of himself back. He said I had to earn it first. He also has my number so we talk to each other some but he always blocks his number. Naturally this has lead me to have some major trust issues with him. He has talked about wanting me to come visit him but my gut is telling me something is up. I guess I need some advice from someone on the outside looking in to see things clearly. My feelings and emotions are too involved. Am I wrong to have misgivings because I don't trust what he's telling me? I really have no idea if his name, age, looks, and location are what he says them to be.

Thanks.
lilinnocent.

Run Away

The guy is either a nut ball or married.

 

[Mac98]

Intuition is a very powerful thing. In my experience, it's always been triumphant over emotions and even over raw logical reasoning. I say it's always best to go with your gut, even if you have paranoid tendencies.

Hell, confront him! Tell him what you think, maybe you'll end up seeing for yourself without having to meet him face to face...

 

[frisky-leo]

I agree with the opinions already stated. If he is 'hiding' from you, you don't need or want what he has. He is just using you for free porn. I would cut my losses and look elsewhere for what I needed.

Above all, trust your gut, and always take care of you.

 

[sahara2253]

I think sometimes it's hard to take a step back and look at things clearly when you're involved.

 

[Eilan]

don't ever be afraid to ask for guidance either here or in private.

 

[BaltoBoy]

I agree with everyone else. This SCREAMS married.

 

[fgarvb1]

I agree with everyone else. This SCREAMS married.

Or abuser or serial killer or fill in the blank...

Move on girl!

 

[m468h]

I've been talking to a guy online now for a few months. Although I've shared my pics and done videoes for him, he has yet to send any of himself back. He said I had to earn it first. He also has my number so we talk to each other some but he always blocks his number. Naturally this has lead me to have some major trust issues with him. He has talked about wanting me to come visit him but my gut is telling me something is up. I guess I need some advice from someone on the outside looking in to see things clearly. My feelings and emotions are too involved. Am I wrong to have misgivings because I don't trust what he's telling me? I really have no idea if his name, age, looks, and location are what he says them to be.

Thanks.
lilinnocent.

He's a horny married guy and you are feeding him everything he wants.

 

[Noor]

I've been talking to a guy online now for a few months. Although I've shared my pics and done videoes for him, he has yet to send any of himself back. He said I had to earn it first. He also has my number so we talk to each other some but he always blocks his number. Naturally this has lead me to have some major trust issues with him. He has talked about wanting me to come visit him but my gut is telling me something is up. I guess I need some advice from someone on the outside looking in to see things clearly. My feelings and emotions are too involved. Am I wrong to have misgivings because I don't trust what he's telling me? I really have no idea if his name, age, looks, and location are what he says them to be.

Thanks.
lilinnocent.

"earn it first?"

At best he is an evil control freak, and I don't want to even think about the worse.

What has he done to earn your gifts to him? You sent him videos?

Run away now, this is bad news. Always go with your gut, that is what keeps you alive.

You are not wrong at all to have misgivings, you should have more than misgivings, you need to disappear on him.

Before you give him the ax, copy everything you know for sure like an emails with complete headers, times when he has called you, anything else you know for fact and give it to someone else to hold. Tell this him that you have done so, but do not tell him with whom. Or tell him its your neighborhood beat cop or something. protect yourself. This situation has BAD written all over.

If he threatens you call the police, they can trace out his number even if its blocked.

 

[Noor]

Intuition is a very powerful thing. In my experience, it's always been triumphant over emotions and even over raw logical reasoning. I say it's always best to go with your gut, even if you have paranoid tendencies.

Hell, confront him! Tell him what you think, maybe you'll end up seeing for yourself without having to meet him face to face...

I am not so sure it is safe to confront him, you have no idea what he will do, and he could tear you to bits emotionally. Not to mention if he wants to physically hurt you, he knows who you are and you wouldn't know who he was if he walked up to you.

I know what confronting someone whom I had always known to kind and reasonable was like when they turned on me, it was horrible and I still have after effects. I should have just walked away.

 

[RestlessRob]

Relationships must be built on mutual trust and respect. This man is asking/expecting you to give him whatever he wants but he won't provide you with anything concrete in return. There is a reason he is being so secretative and it's not good news. I have found that a persons actions often speak louder and more truthfully than his words.

Any man who wants to meet you should show you respect and trust and provide the things you need to make a decision about meeting him. Even if he did provide some of the things you would like you still need to be very cautious and always meet in a very public place the first time.

Please take the advice of all the wonderful people who responded to your thread and be safe. There are so many bad things that could happen to you and innocence lost can never be regained and the scars it can leave behind will be yours for the rest of your life.

Take your time growing up and keep that innocence as long as you can.

 

[subwannabe]

I say don't be careful, don't even go and get rid of this guy. Bad news is screaming at you. I guess you need a hearing aide to hear it.

 

[MisterSir]

I say don't be careful, don't even go and get rid of this guy. Bad news is screaming at you. I guess you need a hearing aide to hear it.

Be fair. It IS hard to see things objectively when you're involved.

 

[subwannabe]

I know it is hard to see things objectively when you're involved but, isn't that the reason she posted? She herself had enough inklings that something was not right and she was asking for objective advice from those who could be objective and were not involved. I still have the same advice, don't be safe, don't be careful, and don't even go. There are other fish in the pond and she doesn't need the trouble that is sure to come from this - even if it winds up being nothing but hurt feelings.

 

[silverwhisper]

lilinnocent, block his phone#, treat his e-mail as junk, etc. what the fuck has he done to deserve a single fucking thing from you?

look at this as a learning experience. horny/lovelorn guys online are a dime a dozen. if anything, they should be fucking earning your pic, not vice versa.

ed

 

[satindesire]

lilinnocent, block his phone#, treat his e-mail as junk, etc. what the fuck has he done to deserve a single fucking thing from you?

look at this as a learning experience. horny/lovelorn guys online are a dime a dozen. if anything, they should be fucking earning your pic, not vice versa.

ed

^^^THIS!