Need some advice AGAIN

[belthazor]

I was on here before with a little problem that I had oh, about 4 months ago I think, so here goes:

I have been friends with this woman for 3 or yrs. I first met her at work. She's 42, married and looks real great. I'm 24 yrs old. We basically see each other at work. I've been to her house twice to fix her computer. 1) Reformat and reinstall the operating system and 2)I put in a new hard drive. That was a little over a year ago. This year would turn out to be a life changing year. I've always had an attraction to her since I met her. But I never told her. I thought maybe she would think I was crazy and stupid something like that. Well, in August of this year she revealed to me her feelings for me. And I did the same. Now mind you, this was happening when she quit working where I was working to work with her sister. She would come by at lunch at we would chit chat. 2 months later we started acting on our feelings. I didn't have to be at work until 9 but I was getting there at 8:15 or 8:30. Nobody was there yet. She would be there before me waiting. We go inside and we kiss. Not just any kissing. We did that off and on. We both tried staying away from each other but it didn't work. But things have been heating up as of late. This past Tuesday morning before work, for the first time in my life (and I'm not lieing either) I had a womans hands down my pants while we was kissing. We had to stop though because the employee's started to get in. During the work day we chatted and she just can't stop thinking about me. Thinking about my genital area. Now not more than 3 hrs ago, I'm here at home and she's at home and were chatting. Here's part of the transcript. Names have been changed:

her: I WISH I COULD GET YOU OFF
her: IN PERSON
me: I wish that would happen
her: I WISH YOU COULD LAY ME DOWN AND SPREAD MY LEGS AND LICK MY PUSSY
me: I want to so bad
me: Just stick my tongue in there
her: AND THEN STICK YOUR FINGERS DEEP INSIDE ME
me: and lick your pussy juices
her: UNTIL I BEG YOU TO RAM YOUR THICK COCK IN ME
her: OVER AND OVER
her: UNTIL I PRAY TO GOD TO FORGIVE ME FOR WANTING YOU SO BAD
me: You think that will happen
her: IF YOU WERE HERE RIGHT NOW YOUD BE FUCKING ME FOR SURE!!!!!!!!!!!


Oh and here's another one:


me: Were gonna have to get a hotel if were gonna do this
her: THAT WOULD BE ADULTRY
me: I know
me: Maybe we shouldn't
her: SHOULD I DO THAT
her: I WANT TO SO BAD
her: ITS ALL I THINK ABOUT
me: But it has to be right in your heart
her: MY PUSSY SAYS YES YES YES
her: I CANT FORGET ABOUT THE FEEL OF YOUR DICK
her: AND YOUR BELLY
her: I WANT TO SEE YOUR BODY NAKED

I've cybered before and know enough that most of its fake but this doesn't seem fake to me. It seems to me that she really wants to do this. I guess what I'm asking is should we continue doing this or do I tell her that we need to stop before this gets waaayyy out of hand? I love her and she loves me. Last weekend she told me she was gonna tell her husband that she was in love with me, but she didn't because "I guess its not time yet." To me, it seems like she is no longer happy in her marriage or she's not getting any attention or something. What do I do? Any suggestions?

 

[hewolf]

My friend, if you are going to do something like that you should at least take responsibility for making a decision instead of asking others whether you should so it or not.

You know the answer already.

 

[MissTaken]

Wow.

Slow down.
If it is meant to be it will happen. YOU need to worry about YOU. Can you deal with being party to this "adultry" as you, yourself have called it? Even is she has not qualms, what about you?

And further, tread carefully, if she is willing to cheat on her husband, leaves him for you, what are chances she will do teh same to you?

Only you know those answers, but I urge caution and patience.

She seems to be talking from her hormones, not her heart....that concerns me for you.

But again, you know best.

Take care,

MissT

 

[EJFan]

My friend, if you are going to do something like that you should at least take responsibility for making a decision instead of asking others whether you should so it or not.

You know the answer already.

this kind of advice makes for a quick end to a thread... BUT IT'S RIGHT. good point, hewolf.

i'm going to give my opinion anyway. i remember your first thread and this certainly makes things more dramatic, doesn't it.

i'll just say what i said the last time. if she's willing to cheat on her husband, be prepared for her to lie to you somewhere along the way too. a responsible woman in her situation wouldn't drag someone down with her. if it's just for "play" sake, that's fine... but if you or she are expecting anything substantial out of this, you're already fighting an uphill battle.

 

[Bobmi357]

Ok look at the facts....

1) Your 24 and single.
2) She's 42 and married.

The age difference doesn't bother me. Nor does the fact that she's married. What does bother me is that she's willing to ignore her marriage vows and you're willing to go along with it.

If I were in your shoes and wanted to continue this relationship, I'd stop her right here and now and tell her "Honey, until you've got divorce proceedings going, there's nothing we can do."

I didn't leave my first wife because of my second wife, I was already planning on leaving her when I got lucky and found wife to be number two. And when that happened I explained to my second wife that I would NOT meet with her until I was out on my own and divorce proceedings were underway.

The last thing you want to do is become embroiled in someone else's divorce, or be considered as grounds for that divorce. Once she's separated from her husband and started the divorce process, its a new ball game.

I'm also troubled by the evasion she gave you. I've known several women that have been strung along for years by married men that never could seem to find the "right" time to tell their wives they wanted a divorce. Why should they? They were getting laid inside and outside of the marriage.

My advice is to back away from this, tell her you'll be there if she leaves him. If she doesn't, well you're young, you'll get over her and find yourself someone else.

 

[Dstorage]

My advice is similar to what you have been hearing already.

This sort of situation pretty much never has a happy outcome. Are you wanting to marry this person? Serious question there, because if you are then possibly you might throw caution to the wind and go for it, because finding a soulmate would probably be worth all of the bad mojo this has potential to create. Otherwise be prepared at some point to be an unwilling participant in a nasty divorce.

But like was posted earlier, you already knew these things in your heart when you were posting this.