need help with a girl..

[Xt4cY]

i apologise for my spelling and grammar mistakes, could never get a hang of it, but anyways here's my dilema, maybe all of you can help me out.

Me and my girl friend started dating about 2.5 years ago and things slowly went down hill. We were both constantly exhausted leading to a break up. Well the thing was she is my dream girl, in part perfection. However, she seems to be depressed alot and never knows what she wants to do. She told me she cries for no reason and things like that. I keep giving her a shoulder to cry on and askin her to confide in me, but she sais she doesn't even know how or why.

Anyways the question is how do i give her a time of her life, that she would never forget. She's a nature girl, but all the parks and things like that we've already visited. I'm running out of ideas of places to take her and flowers for no special reason are almost starting to be repetative. She loves erotic stories on here.

What i'm trying to think of is something romantic and fun and exciting that would completely blow her out of the water. Any and all suggestions would be greatly appreciated

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[Artemisia]

Well, first off, I don't think romance is your problem. It sounds like she's having a really rough time of it. Have you asked her what makes her sad? She could be going through a chemical imballance, or merely depression like you mentioned. I think having her talk to a professional at this point is a really good idea. it's great that you're there for her, but there are some things mates can help.

But if you want to sweep her off her feet, here's an idea.

Perhaps you should start by getting her out of the area. A departure from the norb by sweeping her off for a weekend getaway. I'm sure you can find a nice Bed and Breakfast in your area, or even try driving out of it for a change in scenery. Basicly, spend the weekend in a stressfree envrioment in a way you never have before and just help her to relax and forget her troubles.

Have you ever thought of taking her to a spa for a day of pampering? It might be hard on the wallet, but a good massage and day of special treatment can do wonders for a girl's morale! Perhaps you can even plan a spa getaway for two and spend it with her, or, just take her out to dinner at a nice resteruant and make love to her afterwards.

Find out what kind of story is her favriote, ask her if there's anything new she'd like to try in the bedroom. Try acting her favriote scenes, incoperate toys, expecially if you haven't tried it before. Roleplay can also be very enjoyable. Rosepetals, liquid chocolate, candle light are just a few romantic ideas. Take a warm bubble bath together and take your time washing her squeaky clean.

Overall, I think you should make sure she knows how much she means to you. Tell her much you love her and how exciting and attractive she is to you. Tell her what you like about her the most: the way she makes you laugh? Her smile? How about her personality? You can never go wrong with some sweet compliments.

 

[Xt4cY]

all those ideas sound good one little problem i forgot to mention, she lives with her parents and her parents keep telling her how she should be with someone for money and love will come eventually, so she can't stay out too late or really go anywhere because her parents while we were together kept hammering her how i'm a bad idea. So i can't really goto her house or anything like that.

 

[grrrlieone]

Maybe her parents are part of her problem. A person's life at home has a big impact on their state of mind and state of being.
I have suffered from depression since late childhood. There are many contributing factors. I strongly recommend that she sees a doctor about her issues. They could easily be helped by medication. Hopefully your girl can get over this quickly. It took me years to get myself together.
Try to be understanding...even if you have no clue. Morale support is necessary for her to get well. Remember that she may have no control of her moods. If she says she isn't sad because of you....believe her. Try to keep her active. It helps too.

P.S. If she is uncomfortable seeing a psychiatrist, most family doctors will write prescriptions for anti-depressants and related drugs. Good luck to both of you.


-Grrr

 

[qwertyok]

yes, get her to a doctor

 

[Xt4cY]

that's what i'm trying to suggest to her the understanding part i got it covered...cuz she keeps thanking me for it..and being there for her...so i guess i just gotta give her time and try to brighten up her day everyway i can think of how

 

[DuchessMorgan]

I can tell you right off the bat that her issue is most likely that she has clinical depression or bipolar disorder. When someone tells me that they cry for no known reason...then the next step is to look into some type of physical reason. If she has such a disorder, not to worry, there are many medications that can help her to live a normal and happy life. I speak by experience. Good luck to you.


Go to psychcentral

 

[flyindolphine]

i think that all what she needs is lots of attention, love and kisses. The spa idea and weekend escape sounds very very very tempting.

 

[jaded_lily]

take it from someone who knows, get your girl to a physcologist, and this girls parents need to get their priorities straight, get into a relationship for money. Oh come on, sounds to me like her parents are gold-digging jerks. And i would bet are a good part of her problems. Your girl needs to get out on her own and away from her parents. I think she would benefit from therapy, she won't talk to you about it right, she might talk to a therapist about her probs. I had the same problem, didn't really have anyone to talk to, couldn't talk to my husband (at the time b/f), so i checked myself into therapy, and it does help.


Talk to her about it. And get her out of her parents house, they are gonna be the death of your relationship with her.