Need help with a BDSM/non-consent subplot.

[LordOfHell]

Hey all, I'm currently working on a long-term series, and at one point, there's a prolonged subplot involving a non-consensual domme/sub relationship. I've never done any BDSM before (I'm a casual fan) so I wanted some opinions about the idea before I started. Before I get to my explanation, though, I'll let you know a bit about how I write: I primarily go for "rule of sexy" and strive to make a scene enticing, even if I have to bend realism a bit. However, I still strive for as much realism as I can fit, and hope to find a golden mean between the two. If I must choose, though, I'll take eroticism over realism almost every time.


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Now, here's the setup:

The main character has befriended a girl who turns out to be a fairly successful porn star. After about a month or two, she falls for him--HARD. Although he's definitely attracted to her, there's someone else in his life and he plans on remaining faithful to her. However, she's used to getting whatever she wants from guys, someone she genuinely likes saying "no" to her pussy is a blow to her ego. Furthermore, after an incident in which he saves her life, knight-in-shining-armor style, she makes up her mind that she's going to have him, no matter what.

So, what she basically does is find a way to trick him into her dungeon for a number of weeks until she can "break" (train) him. Since this is non-consent, I plan for him to resist at first but slowly begin reciprocating until he becomes a total slave. The whole thing will be written from his perspective, so I want to write him in a constant state of being both horrified and aroused. However, I'm having trouble figuring out how this should be done, since I've never been involved in BDSM myself.

I'll take any comments/suggestions you've got, but my primary question is this: what would be some interesting things for her to do to "train" him in this manner? I'd love to hear from some experienced doms/subs on this matter.


In advance, thanks for any help you can give!

 

[RicoLouis]

I think anyone in that postion, would as if you do anything you know you shouldn't, is while having sex he likes it, maybe hesitant at first but gets into it pretty quick, tries to resist but gives in, its after the fact though when he has time to think about his actions that he will question it. Humans don't always think when there doing something.

 

[Carnevil9]

The operative concept here is cognitive dissonance. You cannot maintain two contradictory beliefs for long, so the more she forces him, eventually it becomes how he thinks of himself, and it drives out his independent, true-to-his-girlfriend self.

 

[LordOfHell]

Interesting, Camevil. I like the way you put that.

What are some tricks/tools she could use to enforce that sort of change, if you can think of any?

 

[Carnevil9]

She has to coerce him into making a conscious choice. For example, she could tie him up and tease him until his balls are so blue that he is in intolerable pain. His only way out would be to beg her to get him off. Once he succumbs to that, he knows that he has cheated, and it was his own choice (the fact that it was coerced is lost on the subconscious), and he is on the way.

Or she could deprive him of water (or food, but that would take a long time) until he is begging for it. She won't give him a drink until he licks her pussy to orgasm. Etc.....

 

[LordOfHell]

That's exactly the type of stuff I'm looking for. Thank you.

Is there anyplace I can read about these sorts of training techniques?