Need Assistance wih Sub F POV

[tammybabe]

I am an author inching into the adult fiction field. I am exploring fantasies in BDSM.

I would like someone to help me with reflections from the sub female point of view. Why do women submit to corporal punishment and what do they get out of it.

If you would like to review and comment on my drafts, let me know.

Tammy

 

[snooper]

... Why do women submit to corporal punishment ...

The usual theory is that they submit in order to get what they want, or at least think they want. This may be almost anything from thrills ("More, more, harder, harder!") to security (If I let him hit me he'll keep me around) to absolution (I've been a bad girl and must be punished).

... and what do they get out of it. ...

The usual theories are that they get bigger and better orgasms that way (mostly according to men) or it's one way to keep the childish minds of men amused (according to most women).

 

[emap]

A sub female is sub because to her she is supposed to be. Why she likes being submissive to a man or woman varies wildly, though what Snoopy said does apply. Though have to say, his second comment is usually not why a woman will let herself be given corporal punishment, some of them think that way, some think it's because they did not follow a order and deserve to be punished, though when it comes to corporal punishment in a D/s relationship, she allows it because it brings her pleasure.

I have also done a story based in BDSM, though classed it under non-consent/reluctance since it fell more into that. Luckily for me I met several other women into it and was sent to several sites for research. I do not have any of the sites any longer, however a search on Google for BDSM or D/s should give you tons of informative sites, not to mention we have a BDSM section of the forums, exploring in there and asking questions would be a good idea if you are doing a sub/master story.

I would be happy to read your drafts if you want, though snoopy can tell you I have almost no sense of proper english, I am able to run sentences together into a mostly cohesive understandable manner.

 

[davesslave_9000]

from a sub's point of veiw

being submissive and activly prosueing this lifestyle i can say there are many reasons why a sub would submit to corporal punishment.

1 they may enjoy pain and in some cases do 'bad or wrong things' in order to received it

2 they may receive it willingly as a punishment for a misbehavier

3 it can in some people bring on or make better a physical orgasm

4 it can be an entrance for them into what the bdsm community calls subspace

there are things but most revolve around this i have noticed. there are many safe sane and consentual sites that can givemore information on these areas but if you would like to talk about it feel free to email me or let me know if you would like some links that may help out im sure i have saved a few over the years and i can dig them up for you

 

[fieryjen]

I would recommend reading some of the BDSM fiction on here that was written by females, with a female POV. Often, they convey quite well what you are asking about.

 

[emap]

I agree with Fiery, though not my version of it, don't get to into the feelings of it, just sorta happens. Very not BDSM in nature, though story requested by a guy, wasn't what he wanted anyway, he wanted a good stroker where she turns into a submissive, with a surprise that she does so I decided to not cover the emotional part a whole lot, just easier.

 

[myinnerslut]

just remember that not all submissives are masochists and not all masochists are female

and i would recomemnd going onto the BDSM talk forum and asking your question

 

[HappilyM]

Hope Lady C let's me do this

Castlerealm is an excellent resource, use a google search. While I was wrting my Alex series I spent a lot of time talking 2 subs that lived the lifestyle 24/7, the internet, here and at the bookstore. It is a mental approach that allows complete freedom, I know it sounds weird to an outsider, trust me I could not figure it out, untill... well let's just say sometimes my writing can change my marriage.

Corporal punishment, please do not think of it in terms of pain. CP, if you look at it from a fetish standpoint maybe it would make more sense to you. Some people like feet, some like long hair, some like schoolgirl uniforms, etc. CP can be a discipline, but it can also be a fetish. Also, it doesn't have to be, bring tears to your eyes - painful, just enough to highten your senses. I hope I have helped.

 

[Seattle Zack]

Not only do I enjoy reading (and writing) BDSM from a sub-female POV I think it also adds to the inherent drama of the scene, especially for short fiction. Sub-female POV drives the BDSM genre, so if you want to be successful, you need to master it.