Need advice im young and curious

[noise]

I am 19 and over the last year have had a lot of "gay" fantasy i read a lot of gay erotica and love it.
Lately i have really wanted to act out the fantasy and just try stuff, i have been thinking of using the internet but have no idea where to go or whether its safe
i also feel my age and inexperience would put off guys

Am i too young to want to do this/feel this way?

 

[neonflux]

I am 19 and over the last year have had a lot of "gay" fantasy i read a lot of gay erotica and love it.
Lately i have really wanted to act out the fantasy and just try stuff, i have been thinking of using the internet but have no idea where to go or whether its safe
i also feel my age and inexperience would put off guys

Am i too young to want to do this/feel this way?

First, you are who you are - age has nothing to do with desire. Most people who are gay or bi, when looking back, have indications by the age of 6 or so. The first place I would recommend looking is LYRIC and their national resources page. They are an organization run by and for lesbian, gay, bi, transgender and questioning (like you) youth up to age 24. By going to the national resources page, you might be able to find similar organizations close to where you live.

If you're worried about going to someplace physically, and would prefer to find people to communicate with first, they also list groups for online support - at some of these sites you might be able to start communicating online with other questioning youth.

You are right to be nervous about using the Internet. It can be unsafe. And rather than being a barrier to finding someone, your age and inexperience make you "fresh meat." I am not saying that you won't find nice people that way, but it will also bring out the predators, people who will not have your interests in mind.

I understand the power of sexual desire (I post here, after all) and your desires are natural and good. And if you are looking for sex, I hope you find it. First thing is to figure out how to stay safe from HIV and STIs (which can increase your risk for getting HIV). Second thing is to figure out how to talk about it / insist on it. The Stop AIDS Project is a "peer education" program run by and for men who have sex with men - it makes safe sex pretty damn hot. They also have a project called .dotmen for men who use the Internet to hook up, if you decide to go that route.

I wish you luck! And I hope you find what you're looking for. Keep us updated, OK?

Neon

 

[DerelictionOfSanity]

Good advice from Neon. Additionally, depending on where you go to school, there may be free counselling, which may help you deal with being gay or curious or whatever (If you're feeling uncomfortable about it, or freaking out about what to tell people).

On the internet, there's a good general resource about masturbation/sexuality/sexual health called jackinworld. If you're looking for gay porn and other such materials, literotica stories are a good place to start.

If you meet someone for sex, remember:
1) Always use condoms. You don't know this person and if they are willing to have sex with strangers, they might have an STD and not even know it.
2) Always meet in a public place first. While there are lots of nice people online, sexual predators do exist. You want to confirm that he is who he claims to be.
3) Be careful, but have fun.