need advice for rubbing girlfriend

[kal0]

we have decided against sex before marriage, but she likes it when i rub her pants. what is the best way to rub her pants?

 

[Nonchalant]

You're asking the wrong people. You should be asking HER. every woman is different, the only way you will know how to please her is to ask how she likes it, and pay attention to how she reacts to certain things.

hell, if you do it good enough, you wont have to wait for marriage to have sex. she'll surrender the booty.

 

[kal0]

i try and ask her, but the only feed back i get is when she says, that it feels really nice. she does have orgasms, she shakes and shivers, but i dont know how i am doing it

 

[lilnymph28]

rub her pants???? ok, that made me laugh.

Seriously, you need to talk to her and find a way to get her to open up about it. There is no definitive answer to this question, and as was just pointed out, every woman is different. If it helps, make a game out of it... something like, every time it feels especially good, she should tug on your hair or get vocal, so that you know you're having a powerful effect.

 

[kal0]

im not ashamed, but we're both conservative
thanks for the pointers people. i'll try them. the combination of the little game and just honestly asking her seems the best.

any further advice would be appreciated

 

[Dionysus2003]

Rub the pants right off her, and use your fingers to stimulate her either through the panties or on her bare vagina. It should still not qualify as sex, and you get a much better access to her clit and labias

 

[His maenad]

... she does have orgasms, she shakes and shivers, but I don’t know how i am doing it

Ok, I know I'm going to regret this but I am going to ask you anyway ... what makes you not consider this to be sex?

I think it's just silly to seriously think you're not having sex at the moment. In your view it is wrong to have sex before marriage: That's fine and I wish you good luck with that.
But then you should not be doing what you're doing now either.

Sex doesn't only mean intercourse ... not in my part of the world anyway.

Just my humble opinion and meaning no offense.



Good luck

 

[Erotisphere]

Ok, I know I'm going to regret this but I am going to ask you anyway ... what makes you not consider this to be sex?

I think it's just silly to seriously think you're not having sex at the moment. In your view it is wrong to have sex before marriage: That's fine and I wish you good luck with that.
But then you should not be doing what you're doing now either.

Sex doesn't only mean intercourse ... not in my part of the world anyway.

Just my humble opinion and meaning no offense.



Good luck

You have Bill Clinton to thank for that in America. He was the one that told the world that oral "sex" is not sex. Then why is it called oral SEX? And you wonder why today's youth is so confused?

 

[Bobmi357]

we have decided against sex before marriage, but she likes it when i rub her pants. what is the best way to rub her pants?

I bet you buy a car without test driving it or a house sight unseen? And then people wonder why AFTER they've said "I do", things don't turn out as rosey as they had hoped.

Sexual compatibility is an important issue, but its your life.

Ok, getting to the pants rubbing. I hope she's wearing them at the time. Otherwise I don't see what she's getting out of it, unless she enjoys watching you rub lint off her clothing.

Geez this sounds like pre-heavy petting from early high school.

Well I reckon it depends on what the pants are made of. Denim, cotton, a blend? Also you want to be careful that you do not rub too hard and create enough friction to induce a fire. Polyester has a high coeffecient of friction and burns wonderfully.

Tune in next week and we'll move on to "Breasts under winter jackets, theres gold under those layers!"

 

[Erotisphere]

Re: Re: need advice for rubbing girlfriend

I bet you buy a car without test driving it or a house sight unseen? And then people wonder why AFTER they've said "I do", things don't turn out as rosey as they had hoped.

Sexual compatibility is an important issue, but its your life.

Ok, getting to the pants rubbing. I hope she's wearing them at the time. Otherwise I don't see what she's getting out of it, unless she enjoys watching you rub lint off her clothing.

Geez this sounds like pre-heavy petting from early high school.

Well I reckon it depends on what the pants are made of. Denim, cotton, a blend? Also you want to be careful that you do not rub too hard and create enough friction to induce a fire. Polyester has a high coeffecient of friction and burns wonderfully.

Tune in next week and we'll move on to "Breasts under winter jackets, theres gold under those layers!"

Love your sense of humor, Bob. Needed a good laugh this morning.

 

[MMorJon]

Have the fire extinguisher ready...Make sure its an Air-pressurized water extinguisher incase those ployester start to flare up!

 

[Noor]

Okay, I have stopped laughing.

Seriously, you are having sex even if you are not having intercourse. There is a lot of sex you can have without intercourse. I would start with hands and kissing, that is usually where I start with a new lover anyway, its low risk and if they are no good with their hands or lips ...

If rubbing is where you want only to go, thn get used to each other's bodies by giving massages. There are books on massage that talk about sexual massage as well.

Be careful rubbing through pants, the seam can cause irritation, panties are better, no crotch seam, fingers to skin feel best. wash you hands first though.

Noor

 

[His maenad]

Re: Re: need advice for rubbing girlfriend

I bet you buy a car without test driving it or a house sight unseen? And then people wonder why AFTER they've said "I do", things don't turn out as rosey as they had hoped.

Sexual compatibility is an important issue, but its your life.

I completely agree with this. Of course it’s your own decision and I’m honestly not trying to attack you or anything but think about what bobmi wrote here for a minute.

Suppose you get married eventually and then you find out that she wants to have sex every other month and that’s it? Or you discover that she demands it 25 times a day while you’re satisfied with 3 times a week?

What if she doesn’t like 80 percent of the sexual things you love?

The truth is, that you have no idea what she is like when it comes to being intimate. That means you’re going to marry someone who is a complete stranger to you in certain areas. Important areas in my humble opinion.
Lets be honest here, sex is important in life. Wouldn’t it be an easier and happier life for you if you can spend it with someone who you can enjoy this with?

Do your beliefs allow you to divorce, should things not work out as you would like? If not, and she turns out to be disappointing, it seems to me that you’re going to have a most unsatisfying life. Please don’t underestimate the importance of sex in a relationship.

Of course sex isn’t the most important thing in the world and once you are married, it could work out perfectly. But do you really want to gamble on that? To be honest, it would freak me out … but again, that’s my humble opinion and I hope I don’t offend you.

 

[His maenad]

You have Bill Clinton to thank for that in America. He was the one that told the world that oral "sex" is not sex. Then why is it called oral SEX? And you wonder why today's youth is so confused?

That's what I was thinking as well. Sometimes I feel that logical things are being made so complicated these days. (lol ... I'm 26 and I sound like an 80 year old).

 

[ReadyOne]

Do a web sreach for "female sexual anatomy". When you understand what's under the pants, life should be easier. And when the pants come off, you'll know your way around.