Need a woman's advise

[tazzy26]

I need a little advise. I am good friends with this girl I have known for about 4 years and want for us to be more. When we met I was 22 she was 15 and even though I always thought she was a little hottie I never made a move because of her being jail bait.

She is now 19 and I am 26, we've been great friends and at times I get the feeling she wants the same as I do but is afraid to say anything. I asked her out about a year ago but she said she didn't want to be more then friends.

The thing I am trying to figure out is right now we spend a lot of time together, when I see her I always give her a hug and kiss on the forehead or cheek. She has said in the past we could never be more then friends but when I am around she walks around the house in a t-shirt and tight ass shorts with no bra or panties on underneath, you can clearly see that.

I have been laying in bed next to her when she wants to take a nap, I massage her back and neck, plant little kisses on her neck and you can tell she enjoys this, yesterday she was leaning over to get something on the side of her bed and gave me a clear view of her sweet shaven pussy. She is cute, has a beautiful smile that melts my heart, she has a 34C bust and such a sweet squeezable ass. When I am near her I get very aroused and my stomach feels like it's tied in knots, I want to be with her so bad but I am shy and don't know what to do or what to say to her and like I said I get mixed feelings from her.

Ladies any advise is greatly appreciated, I have known this girl for 4 years and I love her with all my heart, out of all the girls I have dated in the past she is the one I can see myself spending the rest of my life with! Drop me an email at theshyguy1182@hotmail.com , PM me or post a message here.

Thanks,
Tazzy26

 

[MissTaken]

Tell her.

I am sorry to be blunt, but if you don't just put your cards on the table, then you remain in a limbo state. Limbo is more difficult to manage than rejection, my dear.

And perhaps, when faced with the issue, she will explore herself a little further

Or not. Either way, you need to know.

Good Luck and best wishes.

 

[cymbidia]

Tell her.

I am sorry to be blunt, but if you don't just put your cards on the table, then you remain in a limbo state. Limbo is more difficult to manage than rejection, my dear.

And perhaps, when faced with the issue, she will explore herself a little further

Or not. Either way, you need to know.

Good Luck and best wishes.

Excellent advice. You'd do well to act on this advice just as given.

There are no magic words to help you with this situation. Truth is *always* the best course in affairs of the heart/mind/soul/body.

If you tell her, then you'll know how she feels about taking a relationship with you further. In any event, no matter her feelings in this, maybe just knowing if it's a "yes" or a "no" will help ease those knots in your stomach.

 

[tazzy26]

Believe me your bluntness is appreciated! I have wanted to tell her how I felt at least 100 times in the past 2 weeks. I just don't want to loose the relationship we have. In the past I have seen it happen where friends admit their feelings for somebody and gets rejected and the friendship is never the same and I don't want that to be us. I guess in the long run anything is possible and I need to tell her. I do love her with all my heart.

I am going to give it a shot on Sunday night. Oddly enough I have to take her shopping for some new panties, her puppy decided to eat the ones she had. She lost her license so I am also sort of her taxi to and from work and run her where she needs to go. After we go shopping tomorrow night I am going to take her to the beach, I figure it's a romantic place being under the stars. Now the trick will be getting the words to come out right, I tend to get a little tongue tied around her at times.

 

[La Huesera]

You might also tell this girl that if she wants to just be friends thats fine...HOWEVER..its not cool for her to walk around the house in her bra and underwear in front of you. I have lots of guy friends that are just friends.. but I respect them also as men and would not put them in such a situation. If you asked her out last year, she knows that you find her attactive... what she is doing now is just feeding her ego. Just put it on the line... "Either we go out and see how it goes, or when I'm around I would like it if you had something on." And please..PLEASE don't let her get away with the "oh..I didn't know it was bothering you..". She knows what she is doing. Hell, we all do..right girls..lol

 

[MissTaken]

~nods head~

You are welcome.

In terms of ruining friendship: Apparently, this friendship is difficult for you at best. Also, if the friendship is a solid as you hope it to be, it should remain in tact.

Take Care

Best of Luck

~got my pom poms out to give you a little cheer in support!~

 

[tazzy26]

The friendship part is hard for me because I want it to be more, I would consider her one of my best friends if not the best friend I have. We have had our differences in the past and gotten into a few verbal arguments but deep down I know she does care about me. What I am not sure on is how deep her feelings go.

As for her running around in bra and panties, that is not what I said. I said is when I am around she walks around the house in a t-shirt and tight ass shorts with no bra or panties on underneath, you can clearly see that she has nothing on underneath.

Sure it may feed her ego, and I am sure she has seen me checking her out but her walking around like that does not bother me or offend me. If anything I find it cool that she feels comfortable enough around me to feel free to do that and hey i'm a guy!

I know I need to tell her how I feel, it's just a matter of making sure the time is right and making sure I get the words right because I don't want her to think it's that I just want to get her into bed.

I know I am not like most guys because sure sex is important but to me there are so many other things in a relationship that are more important. I tend to think with the right head when it comes to relationships.

Today was another odd one because on Saturday I usually don't hear from her, she works and by the time she gets home she is usually too tired to do anything and heads to sleep. Yesterday I we had to go somewhere before taking her to work and she asked me why people are staring at her did she have something on her face or shirt. I said to her I don't know how you see yourself but honey your a little hottie and people are probably checking you out. I game her a little kiss on the cheek and said what is there not to love about you, your sweet, beautiful and smart. I had just checked my messages and there was one from her saying do you remember what you said yesterday? There is something I need to tell you and things we need to talk about.

I know the time is right, and will take her to the beach tomorrow night and have a long talk with her. It is eating me up inside not telling her exactly how I feel and I think she is starting to feel the same. At times when we are together there are moments of awkwardness where it's like one of us wants to say or do something but don't.

I appreciate all the words you people have written, and after I talk to her tomorrow night I will let you know how it goes!


Thanks Again,

Tazzy26

 

[Mz_Scarlett]

Good luck tonight! I wish you both the best

 

[Aphrodisiac]

" honey your a little hottie " ....


Sorry some how I find that very funny !! LOL


And good luck !

 

[LedAstray]

WELL?????

What happened??? How did it go???? Did you get to talk to her?????

Enquiring minds want to know!

 

[JUDO]

Honesty

TSG -

Just as has been said "be honest." Let the truth set you free from your fears. Whatever is inside your head, just let it come out. If she can't handle what goes on inside your head, you will not last. If you can't be honest with her, she will never truly know who you are. And, unfortunately, the day will come when she does.

Good vibes to you both.
- Judo

 

[SweetBrat73]

I just mainly want to praise you for not going after her when she was under age!!! You're a very decent man and we need more of them around!!! I think you should just tell her how you feel. I personally wouldn't be flaunting myself in front of my male "friends" even if we were extremely close!!! Unless she just likes leading men on...I'd say she wants you too...just tell her outright how you feel...good luck to ya hon

 

[tazzy26]

Hey,

Sorry it's been a while but I have been very busy! Just started a new job which takes up a lot of my time. I did exactly what I said I was going to do and told her exactly how I felt but so far nothing has really changed. She told me she was glad I told her and it is something we can work on in the future and see how it goes.

I told her if she wants to take things further I am leaving it in her hands, she needs to make the next move.

Right now she is not ready for a relationship because she wants to further her education and career first before she settles down and starts dating anyone but wants to be friends and continue to spend time together.

I let her know that walking around with tight shorts and a t-shirt with nothing on underneath was driving me crazy and asked if right now we can't be more then friends please don't dress that way when I am around. She said she didn't realize I noticed or was checking her out and didn't know I looked at her in the way, she was sorry if it made me uncomfortable and would try to be more considerate of my feelings.

I will still give it a little more time because I just started a new job myself and know I haven't had much time for her or anything else either but if things don't change I plan to just move on.

Catch you later!

 

[Mz_Scarlett]

I know it wasn't exactly what you were looking for, but at least now you have clarity- and that in itself is worth it's weight in gold!