Natural Vs. Cut

[littlebitshe]

Well, I want to get some opinions and maybe a little of information along the way. My SO and I both swing and we are fairly new to the lifestyle but we enjoy it very much, so far. We met this couple online and everyone is interested and we all decided that we would like to meet up this Saturday.

I've continued to chat with them and was doing so last night. I was chatting with the husband and he mentioned that he is natural. I wasn't sure what he meant so I asked, "Natural, as opposed to what?". He said that he wasn't cut (circumsized). Immediately my stomach dropped and I wasn't sure what to say. I've never been with anyone that is "natural" and the unknown, in this area, kind of scares me and makes me uneasy. Am I overreacting? Is it really not that big of a deal? What are the most noticeable differences? I think the thing i'm most worried about is performing oral on him. I just don't know what it will be like and I don't know how I will handle it. Any info and advice is very much appreciated!! I'm trying to keep my mind open to this, but like I said... It's scary for me.

 

[Raven_Sunset]

I've been with both..... it does'nt bother me either way. It was a little odd the first time, but you'll get used to it.

 

[SweetErika]

Well, I want to get some opinions and maybe a little of information along the way. My SO and I both swing and we are fairly new to the lifestyle but we enjoy it very much, so far. We met this couple online and everyone is interested and we all decided that we would like to meet up this Saturday.

I've continued to chat with them and was doing so last night. I was chatting with the husband and he mentioned that he is natural. I wasn't sure what he meant so I asked, "Natural, as opposed to what?". He said that he wasn't cut (circumsized). Immediately my stomach dropped and I wasn't sure what to say. I've never been with anyone that is "natural" and the unknown, in this area, kind of scares me and makes me uneasy. Am I overreacting? Is it really not that big of a deal? What are the most noticeable differences? I think the thing i'm most worried about is performing oral on him. I just don't know what it will be like and I don't know how I will handle it. Any info and advice is very much appreciated!! I'm trying to keep my mind open to this, but like I said... It's scary for me.

I understand where you're coming from because I was nervous about my first (and only, to date) experience with an uncircumcised partner, too.

It really was/is NOT a big deal, though! In the end, I was excited to have a different experience and I found I liked the differences. A "natural" penis is usually a lot more sensitive, and I like knowing my partner's getting the maximum amount of pleasure out of it. Sex felt different - it was more of a 'gliding' than 'rubbing' sensation; I like both, but I can see big benefits for each, and variety is very nice!

I asked this partner what he liked beforehand and to give me feedback during, since I didn't have experience with him or uncircumcised men. I also read up on how to put a condom on an uncut cock (I make it my business to know how to use condoms properly because, believe it or not, a lot of guys have bad technique in this area!), looked at pictures and got a basic understanding of the differences.

Both of those things helped a lot and all went well, so I'd suggest doing similar. It's basically a matter of conquering the fear of the unknown and having a partner who's willing to communicate about what they, specifically, like and dislike because no two people are the same, even if they have the same style of equiptment.

On a side note, my research and experience led me to gaining a very different view on circumcision. After learning about the procedure and how much pleasure it takes away from the man, I decided it would never be right for my husband and I to make that choice for our future son. It's one thing if it's medically necessary (that's very rare, but it happens), but quite another to decide for our kid based on our personal preferences and/or ignorance. When he's old enough to fully understand the consequences, he can decide for himself.

I mention this because I see it as a big benefit of considering taking an uncircumcised partner. Had I just dismissed it as 'gross' or 'too scary', I probably wouldn't have learned about circumcision and likely would have made an uneducated decision if we have a son.

So, it was an excellent experience overall for me. Of course you'll have to decide on the best route for you.

 

[necroerotica]

Well, 'natural' is just that - natural. I'd hesitate to say "It's how it's meant to be", since I don't want to offend anyone who's cut, but I really can't understand why anyone would want to be cut.

Yes, there's the whole medical argument, fair enough.

Hygiene? Frankly, if you can't be bothered to wash it, you don't deserve to be sticking it anywhere.

Religious reasons? NOT gonna go there. I'm just sayin' - if your God didn't want you have it in the first place....

Body Modification? Wait - I though that was meant to be unique to you.....


To answer your original question - it won't be a problem. Just pull the foreskin back, and et voila, it's the same as a circumsized penis.

 

[emap]

Oh no don't just pull the foreskin back, some men you can't it's way to painful for them to just pull it back. Ask him what he does and does not like to be done to his dick. If you just start doing your own thing he may not be a happy camper, that is honestly the biggest difference between cut and uncut cocks, uncut can have a whole slew of things you can't do and have him enjoy.

The other difference, looks. Uncut cocks look different than cut ones, I got a small foreskin guy so it didn't feel all that different to me, but some women swear up and down uncut feels better, some swear cut feels better and is their only way to orgasm, though usually those are jewish or think uncut cocks are disgusting.

Mileage will vary on your own personal experience with a natural cock. Just relax, do what he does like, don't do what he doesn't and have fun.

 

[photo_chick]

uncut can have a whole slew of things you can't do and have him enjoy.

Like what? I don't get that comment. I've been with both and I far prefer uncut ... they're more sensitive and they feel better inside me.

I just don't get the comment that you "cant" do things with uncut cocks.

 

[littlebitshe]

Thank you SOOO much for your posts!! You have really helped me make my decision and have made me ask questions so that I know what I'm doing. I do VERY well with a cut cock... Hopefully I will do just as good if not better with natural.

Anymore advice you can provide is very much appreciated!

 

[emap]

photo reading comprehension is a good thing, I explained why certain things can't be done with an uncut guy in my post. If you have been with them then I have to assume you have run into them already.

 

[SweetErika]

photo reading comprehension is a good thing, I explained why certain things can't be done with an uncut guy in my post. If you have been with them then I have to assume you have run into them already.

Writing in a way that is easily understood by a variety of people is a good thing, too.

I read your post several times LOOKING for the "whole slew of things you can't do [with an uncut cock] and have him enjoy," and the ONLY thing I could find was:

Oh no don't just pull the foreskin back, some men you can't it's way to painful for them to just pull it back.

If you're using the following as another "thing" you can't do with an uncut cock, you're just plain wrong, as it's wise to ask every partner, male or female, cut or uncut, what they do and do not like.

Ask him what he does and does not like to be done to his dick. If you just start doing your own thing he may not be a happy camper, that is honestly the biggest difference between cut and uncut cocks, uncut can have a whole slew of things you can't do and have him enjoy.

Perhaps you can provide a clear list of all of the things you believe one can't do with an uncircumcised penis for those of us who have trouble comprehending your particular style of writing and/or aren't mind readers. I'm also very curious about these mysterious things you can't do with uncut cocks that you speak of.

The ONLY thing I couldn't do with the uncut cock I experienced (and, mind you, that's only ONE, so I won't generalize about all, or even most, uncut cocks) was be as rough with the head during oral, for instance, because it wasn't desensitized like the heads of the cut cocks I've experienced. I don't believe my uncut partner got any less pleasure from our activities than my cut partners. If anything, I think he got more pleasure because he was more sensitive.

 

[Guest]

I think the hygiene thing is a bit overblown. I think that if a guy does not care about hygiene, you are going to run into other problems...yuck.

I have been with cut guys who were just as clean as uncut guys, and even more so, because they loved sex and they wanted me to enjoy them fully.

I have been with uncut men who liked it rougher than anybody else I met. There is little to add to what Erika said.

A bit of communication goes a long way.

Enjoy your weekend,

Maharat

 

[PertPerth]

The ONLY thing I couldn't do with the uncut cock I experienced (and, mind you, that's only ONE, so I won't generalize about all, or even most, uncut cocks) was be as rough with the head during oral, for instance, because it wasn't desensitized like the heads of the cut cocks I've experienced. I don't believe my uncut partner got any less pleasure from our activities than my cut partners. If anything, I think he got more pleasure because he was more sensitive.

I guess it depends upon the guy..? I've not had many boyfriends, but I've not found that to be the case. My current boyfriend is the first un-snipped guy I've been with and I can't see any difference - other than the way he looks when he's not hard.

 

[necroerotica]

I guess it depends upon the guy..? I've not had many boyfriends, but I've not found that to be the case. My current boyfriend is the first un-snipped guy I've been with and I can't see any difference - other than the way he looks when he's not hard.

Like a snail wearing a sweater, rather than a snake wearing a helmet

 

[kindashy]

It is just a little flap of skin. I don't really see what the big deal.

I am uncut by the way, that is how I know.

 

[littlebitshe]

It is just a little flap of skin. I don't really see what the big deal.

I am uncut by the way, that is how I know.

It's just very different from what I'm used to and I wasn't sure if there were special instructions or what.... I just want to be ok with it and know what I'm doing.

Thanks everyone for your tips!!

 

[Mirro]

Rolling back any confusion...

"Oh no don't just pull the foreskin back, some men you can't it's way to painful for them to just pull it back."

hmmmm ....where as I wouldn't recommend yanking it back with an audible snap, I think it would be a cause for a removal on surgical grounds if casually drawing back the foreskin caused pain, as this would suggest it's too tight for its member.


Some facts and observations...

It's attached under the glans, and rolls back further across the top and sides of the penis. The most sensitive area is around that attached area.

The foreskin is quite stretchy. Gripping it between thumb and forefinger and gently pulling it will demonstrate this.

If you shone a torch through it whilst doing the above, it would be fairly see-through.

We're a bit more sensitive down there, so rubbing the glans vigorously with something that's not lubricated, including fingers can cause discomfort.

Some guys (not me personally) stick marbles under theirs as party trick. They may even see how many they can fit under there!

They come in long, medium and short varieties. Short ones exposing the tip of the glans and long ones resembling a short elephant's trunk. When the penis becomes erect, the foreskin usually retracts a little.

The owner may be more careful when they zip up their zipper. - I've been told they bleed profusely when nicked.

If you're the owner of one, you may, if you so choose, roll it back over the glans with the end section rolled first, and create a different "look" for the day.

The default position is covering the glans, though depending on dimension and elasticity the foreskin may happily sit at rest behind the glans, and not roll back over it - this is especially true once the penis is erect.

Pulling the foreskin back further than the end of the glans causes it to blend into the shaft of the penis or disappear, this mimicking the look of a circumcised penis.

Masturbating a penis with a foreskin is best achieved by using the foreskin to keep the glans covered and as a soft layer through which the friction is transmitted. This can be done increasingly vigorously, but take a little practice if you're new to one.


Having said all that, they're simple and un-scary. - If you're ballsy enough to be swinging, asking for a quick demo shouldn't be a problem!, not to mention something of a turn on!

I think its kind of cool that you think of it as an oddity, especially as its how nature intended!

Hope you have lots of fun!

Mirro

 

[somberReality]

I can't tell the difference between the two in terms of intercourse. It's all good to me.

 

[makeluv2u]

I'm about 7" and un cut when hard my head is exposed if not a tiny tug of the skin back uncovers it. Rough is fine with me and I'm well kept. It really shouldn't be much of an issue. I can't really see how it would make much difference to the lady either way... maybe the skin on my cock moving just a tiny bit more than cut one. but with penetration i don't think that will matter... maybe it's time to call some ex's and ask about their experience.

 

[littlebitshe]

"Oh no don't just pull the foreskin back, some men you can't it's way to painful for them to just pull it back."

hmmmm ....where as I wouldn't recommend yanking it back with an audible snap, I think it would be a cause for a removal on surgical grounds if casually drawing back the foreskin caused pain, as this would suggest it's too tight for its member.


Some facts and observations...

It's attached under the glans, and rolls back further across the top and sides of the penis. The most sensitive area is around that attached area.

The foreskin is quite stretchy. Gripping it between thumb and forefinger and gently pulling it will demonstrate this.

If you shone a torch through it whilst doing the above, it would be fairly see-through.

We're a bit more sensitive down there, so rubbing the glans vigorously with something that's not lubricated, including fingers can cause discomfort.

Some guys (not me personally) stick marbles under theirs as party trick. They may even see how many they can fit under there!

They come in long, medium and short varieties. Short ones exposing the tip of the glans and long ones resembling a short elephant's trunk. When the penis becomes erect, the foreskin usually retracts a little.

The owner may be more careful when they zip up their zipper. - I've been told they bleed profusely when nicked.

If you're the owner of one, you may, if you so choose, roll it back over the glans with the end section rolled first, and create a different "look" for the day.

The default position is covering the glans, though depending on dimension and elasticity the foreskin may happily sit at rest behind the glans, and not roll back over it - this is especially true once the penis is erect.

Pulling the foreskin back further than the end of the glans causes it to blend into the shaft of the penis or disappear, this mimicking the look of a circumcised penis.

Masturbating a penis with a foreskin is best achieved by using the foreskin to keep the glans covered and as a soft layer through which the friction is transmitted. This can be done increasingly vigorously, but take a little practice if you're new to one.


Having said all that, they're simple and un-scary. - If you're ballsy enough to be swinging, asking for a quick demo shouldn't be a problem!, not to mention something of a turn on!

I think its kind of cool that you think of it as an oddity, especially as its how nature intended!

Hope you have lots of fun!

Mirro

Wow! Thanks for all the info!

Asking for a "demo" might not be such a bad idea and I'm certain he would not mind giving me one

I only think of it as an "oddity" because I've never experienced it and most of the population is un-natural. BUT, I'm still open minded enough to give it a second thought and get more information on it. After all of the posts, I decided to go forward with it and enjoy the variation. Unfortunately... we were not able to meet tonight because his wife is on her monthly We are, however, rescheduling

I'll let you all know how it goes!

 

[VelvetDarkness]

Here in the UK uncut penises are the norm rather than the exception. Most of the (oh... millions) of guys I've slept with have been 'natural.'

With a condom on (good idea when swinging) I find no difference in sensation really. Without one an uncut cock glides more easily. It was designed/evolved in order to minimise friction discomfort for the woman while maximizing sensation for the man - genius.

As long as you start gentle and don't force the foreskin too far either backwards or forwards I'm sure you'll be fine.

Uncut men have to wash under their foreskin but most do so at least daily because there is an increased risk of bacteria growth there if they don't and no man wants a case of itchy-dick. When you roll the foreskin back you'll be able to inspect it for yourself.

I am surprised that this guy thought it necessary to warn you about his uncircumsized penis as though it's an alien creature. Are they really so rare in the US?

Hope you enjoy the experience

 

[littlebitshe]

I am surprised that this guy thought it necessary to warn you about his uncircumsized penis as though it's an alien creature. Are they really so rare in the US?

Hope you enjoy the experience

It's not that he "warned" me. It happened to be mentioned in one of our chat conversations. It is more rare in the US to be uncircumsized.

 

[HockeyShark]

We have done some Swinging.

My Wife LOVES uncut Cocks. I think it is the idea more than anything that turns her on. Mainly because in this day and age in America is is different.

I am cut, and wish i could know what it is like to have full sensation.

 

[photo_chick]

Are they really so rare in the US?

Any male over 30 (maybe even over 20) who was born in the US is likely to be circumcised, regardless of religious persuasion. It was (and still is to a large degree) a standard procedure for all baby boys in the States.

It hasn't been until the last, oh maybe 15 or so years, that parents started choosing NOT to circumcise their baby boys and even then debate rages.

I'm 40 and only recently have had a lover who was uncut - and he was born outside the US. I have to say that there is, IME, a very definite difference in sensation and based on my experience with him, I think I much prefer uncut to cut.

 

[SweetErika]

We have done some Swinging.

My Wife LOVES uncut Cocks. I think it is the idea more than anything that turns her on. Mainly because in this day and age in America is is different.

I am cut, and wish i could know what it is like to have full sensation.

If you have the patience and dedication, you can try "foreskin restoration," which basically amounts to stretching the skin you do have to create a faux foreskin that covers and re-sensitizes the head.

There are whole sites and message boards that discuss how to do this.

 

[SoaringAdonis]

I am incredibly glad to be uncircumsized. Circumcision is a very strange tradition.

 

[necroerotica]

I am incredibly glad to be uncircumsized. Circumcision is a very strange tradition.

Yeah, I really can't imagine being cut - it just seems so..... odd?