Nasty.. re: Your "80lbs?" PM

[freakygirl]

*deleted* all gone..


bye bye..

 

[Rambling Rose]

My respect-O-meter is off the charts, sister.

 

[Desdemona]

I for one, think you are very pretty.

Anybody that would flame you can go piss up a rope.

 

[Cath!]

fg....you just brought tears to my eyes.

huggs.

 

[modest mouse]

Ask fucked up as nasty's comments were last night and in general; posting a PM is wrong. Its one thing that is cut and dry.

 

[lovetoread]

No flames from me. The one thing that my ex never thought of was my weight. He always said he didnt see it. We may have not made it,but those words were wonderful to hear. I am 5ft tall and I weigh 20 pounds too much. I am not ashamed. Had my Tiger had any problems with it,I would have never met him.

Be well, and have a great time at the library.

~LTR

 

[VanB]

Freakygurl

Big, big respect

Naughty to post a PM but who can crit that?

 

[freakygirl]

Ask fucked up as nasty's comments were last night and in general; posting a PM is wrong. Its one thing that is cut and dry.

MM, I agree with you (to a point)..I felt this one was ok.. I have several from him and others, and I would NEVER dream of posting anything out here in open that hasn't been said (in open) before.

Blushing Rose, Cath!, Desdemona and lovetoread.. thanks for the kind words..

 

[bluespoke]

FG32

You are a wonderful sexy lady and a terrific mum. Nothing else matters.

Your intellect is more important than any weight issue.

I Pm'd someone else today to say that there are no such things as 'fatchicks' (a repulsive term). There are women of different shapes and sizes, just as there are similar men. Some of the people like slim women/men. Some don't.

Be yourself, it's you that everyone cares for, not your weight.

 

[LadyDarkFire]

FG32

*applauds* Well said!

 

[lobito]

wow! where to start? First I guess I'll say, YAY to FG for this. SOMEONE had to do it, so why not be the first or only one to do it.

I have alot to say to you, you know I love ya, and have great amounts of respect for you as well. In more ways than one. What I have to say to you, will be later and in private. And you can even post it if you want! hehehe

Now, as for MM, what is the saying about stones and glass houses? You stradled to fence with me over the last week for what you pulled. Going for the good side, to the bad side, and back to the middle until you could prove yourself to ME again. Now I'm not sure where you are anymore. YOU posting to someone else about morals, makes me laugh.

Oh and posting PM's IS NOT a cut and dry issue. THE ONLY thing that IS cut and dry, is posting PERSONAL info and photos that shouldn't be posted. This info started off with nasty being stupid enough to post the bullshit that he did. Nasty, someone that I USED to like alot, but have lost TOTAL respect for now, here at Lit. I'm damned glad I don't know him in person, or I'd have gone over and beat his VIRGIN ass up and down the block for being so fucking stupid.


ARGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[SweetCherry]

FG32

You are a wonderful sexy lady and a terrific mum. Nothing else matters.

Your intellect is more important than any weight issue.

I Pm'd someone else today to say that there are no such things as 'fatchicks' (a repulsive term). There are women of different shapes and sizes, just as there are similar men. Some of the people like slim women/men. Some don't.

Be yourself, it's you that everyone cares for, not your weight.

Thank you for that post, bluespoke. It's always good to see someone who recognizes that a woman has more value than her external appearance. I'm 5'11 and weigh between 157 and 162. That doesn't sound too bad, but after 2 kids things can't always be as firm and "perky" as they once were. Even at my size, which I may add, is a 12, I'm self consious. I know I'll never be able to be a size 6. On me, a size 6 would look just plain sickening. I accept it, even tho I'm not always comfortable with it. I only thank God that there's men like you and my partner who recognize the true beaury of a woman is on the inside.

 

[lavender]

 

[freakygirl]

Lavy, Like MM.. I agree with you.. I went and edited the PM.. I only left what had been said in open before.

I have several PM's from him, and I would NEVER post his personal information or anything other than what he has said in open. I pmed him my full name, address and phone number.. so he could send me his pictures.. I offered to scan them in and help him post them here. I trust my info with him, and he knows he can trust me with his personal information

We spent awhile last night talking about this. This is only ONE of many PM's he sent me.

This post is in no way to flame.. humiliate or anything else Nasty.. it's just answering his question.. Yes, I'm 80lbs overweight.. Like i said in my original post, I don't know why i posted in open. I was angry (which isn't normal for me). I don't get mad at people on the net. It seems useless.. but this one hit home.


Nasty.. I apologize from the bottom of my heart.. I can't tell you how badly I want to remove this thread. I never meant to hurt you in any way, shape or form.. please.. trust me.. I'll NEVER again post a pm from you!

But it doesn't change my views in any way on this matter..

 

[Marxist]

Boy Freaky, what's next? You're not going to post those pix we took in Cancun are you?

I mean I understand you want to rub nasty's nose in it but that might be over the line.

By the way, you've always been a hottie in my book.

 

[nasty]

Freaky,

That PM was NOT meant as a flame. It was meant as "I think you're hot, despite your weight." THat's what I keep trying to tell people, I don't care about how much you weigh. I used too be shallow, yes. Before I met you & Ruby, and all the other people at Lit. People keep telling me that I'm shallow, but, it's the complete opposite. To hell with your appearance. I JUST DON'T CARE LIKE I USED TOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Honest.

 

[freakygirl]

Boy Freaky, what's next? You're not going to post those pix we took in Cancun are you?

I mean I understand you want to rub nasty's nose in it but that might be over the line.

By the way, you've always been a hottie in my book.

You only say that because you want me to lick your little tiny tootsie roll sized pee pee..

 

[cymbidia]

FG, i admire and respct your appropriately indignant anger to nasty's ugly slip-of-the-psyche. He offered offense to every single woman here, whether we're a fat chick or one of the REALLY pretty ones, with his blatant shallowness.

However, as much as he's had it coming to him, i want to ask you to please think about letting it go now.

All of you.

To dwell on his asinine mistake is to beat a dead horse. Unless he's actually as brain-dead as he seems, he knows he blew it.
He knows why he blew it.
He knows we're all pissed at him, and he knows why, too.

We wonn't forget, of course, that in nasty's world a 'chick' has to be REALLY pretty and not overweight by more than 10 pounds to make the grade. He's not going to live this down here.

It's time to let it go, though. We've all done things, said things, uttered stuff here at Lit and out in our everyday lives that we really really really wish we hadn't. Especially when we were stupid and young and hadn't learned to measure our words in terms of harm offered versus good accrued, we blew it from time to time.

Let nasty go on this. It's time. Maybe he's learned something that will actually translate into his everyday life and his dealings with all people, not only 'chicks' he's trying to get to fuck him.

I'm sincerely not being holier-than-thou, my friend, only tired of reading and hearing about Nasty's Big Mistake. Time to move on.

b.

 

[Cath!]

By posting this PM you don't give him a chance until his views and ideas have been tainted by many posters. I understand your frustration, I understand your need to address this publicly. However, I do not think it was fair to Nasty no matter what is said in PMs.

If I'm in a PM and someone says something so over the top and you just WANT the board to know this. It's wrong to post it, ethically in my mind, unless you have their full permission. There is more to it than just posting personal info. You are posting someone else's thoughts. You aren't giving them the choice of posting it themselves. I feel that is inappropriate.

Of course I know many differ in opinion.

take out one name and insert so many others and you have what has been happening around here lately. Too bad this indignant attitude doesn't rub off onto everyone.


(the hugs still stand as offered, tho, fg)

 

[freakygirl]

i deleted it after talking to nasty via pm's..

I don't forgive him for what was said and done..

but I will forget the matter..

it's over.. it's done..

hopefully he learned from it...

 

[TigerClaw]

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