My wife won't suck

[jimmythemacdaddy]

I'm a 42 year old male who has been married now for over 16 years. For the past 12 plus years, my wife has refused to give me oral sex. For the last 10 years she hasn't even put her hand on my dick for more than 5 seconds at a time. I love her, but I am struggling with this. I love oral sex and I love handjobs and just knowing that a woman craves my cock. I've begun thinking about cheating. But I hate to do that. I would love to talk to some women about this and get their advice. I think I'm a decent looking guy with a nice dick and I keep it clean. Am I doing something wrong? Help me, please!


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[kurrginatorX]

I'm a 42 year old male who has been married now for over 16 years. For the past 12 plus years, my wife has refused to give me oral sex. For the last 10 years she hasn't even put her hand on my dick for more than 5 seconds at a time. I love her, but I am struggling with this. I love oral sex and I love handjobs and just knowing that a woman craves my cock. I've begun thinking about cheating. But I hate to do that. I would love to talk to some women about this and get their advice. I think I'm a decent looking guy with a nice dick and I keep it clean. Am I doing something wrong? Help me, please!


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#1: What will a woman be able to tell you that a well-informed male cannot?

#2: What do your looks or how you perceive your penis to look have to do with the advice you receive?

#3: Go back to the first four years of your marriage. What was different then that changed during your fifth year?

#4: Did you fart while she was going down on you? Have you cheated on her? Did you call her the "C" word? There are a number of reasons a woman will stop doing something. Maybe you gave her a fungus at one time and she no longer wishes to give you oral pleasure because of that. Perhaps you came in her mouth without warning, or maybe she told you to tell her when you were ready to cum but you thought it would be funny to surprise her. The bottom line is that you need to immediately assume fault, then try your best to find what went wrong. If that doesn't work, then,

#5: Ask her. Don't demand an answer. You and she are watching TV. A commercial comes on. You casually bring it up like you might bring up a new breakfast cereal, or you say, "Sweetheart, it has been over twelve years since you last went down on me. Did I do something to make you not want to do that anymore?" If she refuses to talk about it, tell her that you cannot apologize if you don't know what you did wrong.

#6: Do you still go down on her? Does she show an aversion to it?

So, there you have it. Information that is as good as any woman could give (Except for Dr. Liz, perhaps). Do with it what you will.

 

[CCorteeze]

I'm a 42 year old male who has been married now for over 16 years. For the past 12 plus years, my wife has refused to give me oral sex....

Well... that sucks.

 

[FloridaBob]

I feel your pain as I share the same problem. Back in the day,women just didn't do it.

 

[Chris_Michael]

The bottom line is that you need to immediately assume fault, then try your best to find what went wrong.

No informed man would say this. No sane person at all would say this, period.

 

[Replicant2018]

I'm a 42 year old male who has been married now for over 16 years. For the past 12 plus years, my wife has refused to give me oral sex. For the last 10 years she hasn't even put her hand on my dick for more than 5 seconds at a time. I love her, but I am struggling with this. I love oral sex and I love handjobs and just knowing that a woman craves my cock. I've begun thinking about cheating. But I hate to do that. I would love to talk to some women about this and get their advice. I think I'm a decent looking guy with a nice dick and I keep it clean. Am I doing something wrong? Help me, please!


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Mine suffers from migraine issues so it is rare that she can suck me. Also bad knees .

 

[kurrginatorX]

No informed man would say this. No sane person at all would say this, period.

As fickle as women can be, yes, it is always best to assume fault meaning approach it as such but then get to the root of the problem. I'll tell ya, sometimes it's like the middle ages around here.

 

[Jada59]

As fickle as women can be, yes, it is always best to assume fault meaning approach it as such but then get to the root of the problem. I'll tell ya, sometimes it's like the middle ages around here.

I know women who do think like this. It's always the man's fault. I don't think like this nor do I think it's helpful to assign blame.

I also know far too many women who hate sex and would never give a blow job. They think it's disgusting. Perhaps some of them did do things prior to marriage or even early on in the marriage then stopped.

Dang! I just can't relate. Sucking cock is one of my favorite things to do and yes, I do crave it.

My only advice would be to try to talk to her about it. But.. She might not want to talk. Maybe she dislikes sucking or touching because of a bad incident in the past. May not have been caused by you. Or maybe she doesn't like sex in general. Or... Maybe a medication or medical condition is causing her to lose her sex drive.

 

[StarGazer58]

An all too common problem in marriages.

 

[PrincepsCyberius]

Well... that sucks.

LOL!

Actually, though, isn't the problem just the opposite?

 

[Forest_Fun]

I know women who do think like this. It's always the man's fault. I don't think like this nor do I think it's helpful to assign blame.

I also know far too many women who hate sex and would never give a blow job. They think it's disgusting. Perhaps some of them did do things prior to marriage or even early on in the marriage then stopped.

Dang! I just can't relate. Sucking cock is one of my favorite things to do and yes, I do crave it.

My only advice would be to try to talk to her about it. But.. She might not want to talk. Maybe she dislikes sucking or touching because of a bad incident in the past. May not have been caused by you. Or maybe she doesn't like sex in general. Or... Maybe a medication or medical condition is causing her to lose her sex drive.

Or maybe she is pissed off because he wants blow jobs but never eats her....? And if he does, he waves his tounge around for 30 sec and then wants to be immediately rewarded with a 15 min blow job (with enthusiasm) .....?

Just speculating.... like everybody else.... Could be anything, but the issue will not solve itself. Try asking her is my best bet....

 

[Jada59]

Or maybe she is pissed off because he wants blow jobs but never eats her....? And if he does, he waves his tounge around for 30 sec and then wants to be immediately rewarded with a 15 min blow job (with enthusiasm) .....?

Just speculating.... like everybody else.... Could be anything, but the issue will not solve itself. Try asking her is my best bet....

Could be.

 

[phil_o]

Or maybe she is pissed off because he wants blow jobs but never eats her....? And if he does, he waves his tounge around for 30 sec and then wants to be immediately rewarded with a 15 min blow job (with enthusiasm) .....?

Just speculating.... like everybody else.... Could be anything, but the issue will not solve itself. Try asking her is my best bet....

What! 30 sec is too long?

 

[KimGordon67]

I'm a 42 year old male who has been married now for over 16 years. For the past 12 plus years, my wife has refused to give me oral sex. For the last 10 years she hasn't even put her hand on my dick for more than 5 seconds at a time. I love her, but I am struggling with this. I love oral sex and I love handjobs and just knowing that a woman craves my cock. I've begun thinking about cheating. But I hate to do that. I would love to talk to some women about this and get their advice. I think I'm a decent looking guy with a nice dick and I keep it clean. Am I doing something wrong? Help me, please!


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As a woman, my advice would be to ask your wife why she doesn't do it any more. She's way more likely to know than anyone in here.

 

[AlliaPotestas]

Agree that you need to talk to her... you only mention oral sex and handjobs, I assume that means there is other sex in the relationship.

Relationships are of course give and take, but if she really doesn’t want to give you head that is her prerogative... people are not obliged to perform sex acts they don’t like...

 

[Mutau]

Conversation and understanding

As with many things in life, it is best not to speculate. Go the source, your spouse, and have an honest and open discussion about your observations.

 

[curioustxn]

I'm a 42 year old male who has been married now for over 16 years. For the past 12 plus years, my wife has refused to give me oral sex. For the last 10 years she hasn't even put her hand on my dick for more than 5 seconds at a time. I love her, but I am struggling with this. I love oral sex and I love handjobs and just knowing that a woman craves my cock. I've begun thinking about cheating. But I hate to do that. I would love to talk to some women about this and get their advice. I think I'm a decent looking guy with a nice dick and I keep it clean. Am I doing something wrong? Help me, please!


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Maybe you need to spice up your sex life in general. Maybe she has become more or less bored with sex.

 

[Tell_ME_67]

HUGE fan

Or maybe she is pissed off because he wants blow jobs but never eats her....? And if he does, he waves his tounge around for 30 sec and then wants to be immediately rewarded with a 15 min blow job (with enthusiasm) .....?

Just speculating.... like everybody else.... Could be anything, but the issue will not solve itself. Try asking her is my best bet....

First of all I would like to say Forest that I am huge fan and love your thread on Am Pic. Your last post had me shaking.

Your post here just now has me concerned. Please tell me that it not the case for you. If it is I would be utter disbelief.

 

[Forest_Fun]

First of all I would like to say Forest that I am huge fan and love your thread on Am Pic. Your last post had me shaking.

Your post here just now has me concerned. Please tell me that it not the case for you. If it is I would be utter disbelief.

Well, thank you!

And no, it isn’t the case for me.... I don’t have to worry about bj’s and pussylicking at all. Unfortunately....

 

[JerseyJade]

I'm a 42 year old male who has been married now for over 16 years. For the past 12 plus years, my wife has refused to give me oral sex. For the last 10 years she hasn't even put her hand on my dick for more than 5 seconds at a time. I love her, but I am struggling with this. I love oral sex and I love handjobs and just knowing that a woman craves my cock. I've begun thinking about cheating. But I hate to do that. I would love to talk to some women about this and get their advice. I think I'm a decent looking guy with a nice dick and I keep it clean. Am I doing something wrong? Help me, please!


I welcome PMs or replies on this thread. Thanks!

The only one that can answer those questions is your wife. Have you tried asking her first?

 

[Disturbingimage]

I'm a 42 year old male who has been married now for over 16 years. For the past 12 plus years, my wife has refused to give me oral sex. For the last 10 years she hasn't even put her hand on my dick for more than 5 seconds at a time. I love her, but I am struggling with this. I love oral sex and I love handjobs and just knowing that a woman craves my cock. I've begun thinking about cheating. But I hate to do that. I would love to talk to some women about this and get their advice. I think I'm a decent looking guy with a nice dick and I keep it clean. Am I doing something wrong? Help me, please!


I welcome PMs or replies on this thread. Thanks!

You have to ask her, as others have stated maybe any number of things or combination. Or it as simply as someone said she just doesn't like doing it. Things change over time and what once you may have felt obligated to do now you trust your partner enough to not put yourself through it. Or maybe she wants you to ask for it. My fiancee is down to do a few things unusual but i have to man up and say i want it. or she's like well you didn't ask.
DO NOT CHEAT! never the right answer can't understand why married guys do, if your wife is not the person you crave, why stay with her?
Anyways just my opinion but i get weekly bj's so hard for me to relate.

 

[Bigspurt]

My wife of 40 years will suck but she won't finish, spit or swallow. Many years ago she said "if you want that go somewhere else" which I did. That relationship has dried up and I discovered Tenga eggs. Next best thing to the real thing and sometimes maybe better.

 

[naughty_shygirl]

I'm a 42 year old male who has been married now for over 16 years. For the past 12 plus years, my wife has refused to give me oral sex. For the last 10 years she hasn't even put her hand on my dick for more than 5 seconds at a time. I love her, but I am struggling with this. I love oral sex and I love handjobs and just knowing that a woman craves my cock. I've begun thinking about cheating. But I hate to do that. I would love to talk to some women about this and get their advice. I think I'm a decent looking guy with a nice dick and I keep it clean. Am I doing something wrong? Help me, please!


I welcome PMs or replies on this thread. Thanks!

I used to dislike the idea of sucking cock. I've always had a strong sex drive but just something about it didn't appeal to me. It wasn't until I started getting on lit and other similar sites that it started turning me on. Watching gifs of other women sucking made me want to pleasure a man this way. In fact lit made me want to try several different things. LOL
She may not be the type to watch porn but it sure made me more open to new things.

 

[Scubasteve1337]

My wife is the same way. She says it makes her uncomfortable. She did it the week of our honeymoon and like twice since, but not any in the last 10 years. I gladly go down on her and do it with all the gusto possible. It pisses me off she won’t even discuss it. She gets mad if I try to have the conversation. When we have sex she pretty much lays there. Rarely kisses me. It’s so disheartening.

 

[jimmythemacdaddy]

Thank you all! I’ve obviously talked with her about this. We’ve discussed it at length, but she just thinks I need to stop wanting it. She feels it is unimportant and that she is fulfilling her widely obligations by giving me sex a couple times a month. She won’t even consider it. And I would gladly go down on her, but she doesn’t want that either. I used to do it all the time till she told me after one such session that she didn’t want me to anymore cause she didn’t like it and never had. I suppose it’s possible I’m bad at it, but she was not my first for that and I’d never had complaints before. And I’d been going down on her for years at that point with no complaints and many orgasms. I just don’t know what to do anymore.