My wife won't let me...
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jehoram
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Try using a non-lubricated condom, and get her used to the idea without the "flavor" intruding. Once she's comfortable with that, try a little cum play with her, like painting it on her nipples and licking it off, and show her that you're not afraid of the taste.
Above all, be patient.
I have been trying to cum in my wife’s mouth for 45 years. Maybe a few spurts that happen before I really cum and if that happens it’s “GAME OVER”! I suggested once in another thread that with a little bit of bondage she might not have a choice. Boy oh boy did I hear about that idea.
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took a long time
I am of the older generation. I married young (20) and to a shy girl. Oral sex was not common with most young girls then and my new wife did not either. It took over 10 years to be able to cum in her mouth. I started with getting her to let me put it in her mouth. Gradually got to move it in and out. After a couple "accidents" when I came in her mouth she started to allow it. It has now been 61 years and never swallows. Good luck
I am of the older generation. I married young (20) and to a shy girl. Oral sex was not common with most young girls then and my new wife did not either. It took over 10 years to be able to cum in her mouth. I started with getting her to let me put it in her mouth. Gradually got to move it in and out. After a couple "accidents" when I came in her mouth she started to allow it. It has now been 61 years and never swallows. Good luck
NightL
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and yet another one
ask one of your buddies over and give him some of your oral love as a demonstration - swirl your tongue through that gifted goo and show your wife how much ya luv it
I'm sure it would be as simple as that really
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Yep! I think his wife needs convincing to ditch the bastard.
UnderMyKilt
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Use a cloth. Use a cloth?? The least she could do is to let you pop all over your own belly or into her clenched fist (then she can decide what to do with it.)
I'm not one to speak though. In ten years of marriage my ex-wife sucked me to completion, letting me cum in her mouth, just ONCE. She'd pull her mouth off near the end and, pointing my cock where she wanted, seemingly found it hot to watch me cum on my own belly, chest, or even face and hair if I was shooting real far. She'd play in it, swirl it around, laugh at it on my hair or face, and eventually wipe it up but wouldn't eat it.
Second and current wife of 22 years feels robbed if she doesn't get to suck and swallow EVERY DROP of cum out of my cock following a long, dedicated, blow job (as opposed to just foreplay before penetrative sex). It's not just "cumming in her mouth" that makes a proper blowjob to completion any better though. It's the actual negative pressure, I call it the "vacuum assist", of literally sucking the cum out of the depths of your sexual plumbing, that makes for a mind blowing blow job. (...and I know, because I suck cock too.)
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Good luck with that.
Have you asked her why she won't let you cum in her mouth?
KimGordon67
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Maybe start by having a bit of respect for her ability to decide for herself what she does and doesn't want sexually.
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This.
Do NOT force this. Enjoy what she's down for and vice versa. If someone has made it pretty evident and very adamant they are not interested or into it, bringing it up over and over again is going to be quite a TURN-OFF.
If you've brought it up more than a few times and she's been pretty firm with the "no", accept it and move on.
KimGordon67
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Yep. Nagging is pretty unsexy. Just appreciate the blow jobs. She clearly knows you'd like her to swallow. Maybe she'll come to that in her own time, if she feels cared for and respected. Maybe not.
Some of my hard limits have changed over time, but that definitely did NOT happen as a result of badgering.
BackwoodsMama
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Round of applause for this! Stop assuming what is good for her is good for you.
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If I was you I'd be happy that she even takes your penis in her mouth.
As I have a panty fetish my wife will often orally copulate me and when I'm ready to ejaculate she will use her panty to capture my semen. She also will give me pantyjobs but that's a whole other story.
Maybe try asking her to replace the cloth with a pair of her panties, I think you both might find that pretty arousing.
As I have a panty fetish my wife will often orally copulate me and when I'm ready to ejaculate she will use her panty to capture my semen. She also will give me pantyjobs but that's a whole other story.
Maybe try asking her to replace the cloth with a pair of her panties, I think you both might find that pretty arousing.
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Have you ever tried getting her to feed it to you?
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My wife had an unpleasant experience in college when a guy forced his cock in her mouth and shot a huge load down her throat. She almost threw up and has never let me or anyone else cum in her mouth. She made it clear to me that I had to pull out before cumming. That's fine with me. My advice is to enjoy what you get, which is more than a lot of men experience.
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I agree with a lot of what people said here.
But barring some of the life-jarring experiences (like the poster above me) or some other total avulsion, I will give you the #1 simple answer to your question.
The one you want to hear...
... find a friend of hers that does swallow to admit she does it (likes it would be better)
It's at least somewhat likely she feels it's "disgusting" and that swallowing is what "whores and tramps" do. Once she finds out one of her friends does it, you watch, her attitude towards doing so will change, and it'll be like beer - an acquired taste.
All this, of course, is speaking from experience. Very recent experience after 20 years!
But barring some of the life-jarring experiences (like the poster above me) or some other total avulsion, I will give you the #1 simple answer to your question.
The one you want to hear...
... find a friend of hers that does swallow to admit she does it (likes it would be better)
It's at least somewhat likely she feels it's "disgusting" and that swallowing is what "whores and tramps" do. Once she finds out one of her friends does it, you watch, her attitude towards doing so will change, and it'll be like beer - an acquired taste.
All this, of course, is speaking from experience. Very recent experience after 20 years!
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The quickest way to get her to never give you any type of blow job again is to press the issue with her.
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Easy
Eat her after you cum in her and then kiss her. Eventually, share whole loads with her.
Eat her after you cum in her and then kiss her. Eventually, share whole loads with her.
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Bingo! I’m guessing most everyone has had a relationship or two where certain sexual acts were off the menu, and sometimes that can be a big enough issue that it’s best to move on. For me, most of those times there have plenty of other exciting and satisfying ways of playing together. It is part of what makes each lover special and unique; they all have different things they bring to the relationship, so try to enjoy them for who they are. Limitations and all.
I have had multiple experiences where something that was “off limits” was later offered; including oral and anal play. In every instance it happened because I had made her feel comfortable, not judged, loved, respected, sexy, etc. The catch 22 here is that I don’t think I ever could have “convinced” any of them to do something, so any efforts towards that goal would have just reinforced those boundaries.
Sex, and intimacy at their higher levels are all about opening up to one another in a shared manner. So it’s natural to see limits or boundaries from our partners as obstacles, or a lack of openness. At worst, they can feel like a form of rejection. In the spirit of openness and sharing the pleasure however, it’s necessary to see things through her perspective too. She’s sharing with you the things she can, and feeling pressure of any sort works to undermine her feeling that her sharing is being appreciated. Find out what she’s comfortable trying, and if finishing off in a cloth isn’t enjoyable for you then find better options that are within her comfort range and interest.
Above all, be prepared to make peace with not cumming in her mouth. Make sure to show her how much you love other things she does with you, and don’t waste too much time and energy focusing on that one little thing you aren’t doing.
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Some woman aren’t into it. My fiancé isn’t a fan of blowjobs but have given me many and one time she was completely sober and sucked me to the point of orgasm and spit it out after: I handed her mouth wash after she finished spitting. Not for everyone.
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You should never attempt to “convince” a partner that they should do a certain act. It’s one thing to express your interest to them, but no means no.
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My wife used to do a little sucking, but NOT enough to let me cum in her mouth. BUT BOY does she LOVE IT! When I go down her...Of course the sex life has stopped many years ago..
