My wife is an asexual pain!

[Baskin Robbins]

She won't give me head. All I want is to please her.

She won't tell me what pleases her!

What should I do?

I want her friends husband, but I am stuck...

 

[John Doe]

Pin her down and fuck her. If she likes it, good for you. If she doesn't, well there's always divorce.

Unless she presses charges...

Seriously though, either she's not interested in sex anymore or she's getting it from somewhere else or she doesn't like you anymore. Or any combination of the three.

 

[Pikas]

I think the clue too your problem can be found in your chosen screen name.
I'm thinking vanilla and probably the soft kind.

 

[onceburned]

Would you be willing to clarify your post? You say:

She won't give me head. All I want is to please her.

Presumably her giving you head is for your pleasure. Nothing wrong with that, but complaining about it seems to contradict your statement that all you want is to please her.

She won't tell me what pleases her! What should I do?

Are you thinking that you are submissive and you want her to be dominant?

I want her friends husband, but I am stuck...

Do you mean you want to be in his shoes? Or in his shorts?

 

[Samuelx]

Forget her, man. Find a good divorce lawyer.

 

[Clairebutterfly]

from a woman's perspective...

Drive her crazy in bed without the focus being on YOU necessarily....that very well may reawaken her sexually, and she will enjoy giving to you.....If not, there is PROBABLY something else wrong in your marriage outside the bedroom. Just my .02

 

[revolution724]

There are so many possible reasons why your wife could have lost interest in sex or does not want to perform any particular sexual act that it would be impossible for anyone here to make useful insights based on the information you provided.

 

[chrk1]

Would you be willing to clarify your post? You say:



Presumably her giving you head is for your pleasure. Nothing wrong with that, but complaining about it seems to contradict your statement that all you want is to please her.



Are you thinking that you are submissive and you want her to be dominant?



Do you mean you want to be in his shoes? Or in his shorts?

that's exactly what i was wondering.

 

[Baskin Robbins]

i'm not a gay guy. I've always been attracted to women and my wife is my babe. I just realized she has gained quite a bit of weight. I love her and will take care of her. We, with me in the lead will start working out to hopefully inspire her to take it up as well.

 

[Baskin Robbins]

Not that I wouldn't entertain a play from a guy....

 

[CuriousNiceGuy]

So you're bi?..
-Regardless, do you LIKE living with your wife?
I mean,
-Do you smile every time you wake up and see her?
-Do you really think not giving you head is good enough to break up?
-Have you ever talked seriously about stuff like this?

You have to put yourself through this kind of analysis.If you find that you don't match with your wife, then it'd be better to divorce her..
Maybe you could ask how she really feels about your marriage?..

Just try to be true to yourself..If there's something wrong in your sex life only maybe it can be overcomed(sp?), but if it's a problem with all the aspects of your marriage then you should start to seriously consider divorce.For your sake and probably your wife's too.. :\

 

[Baskin Robbins]

I'm DEFINITELY not vanilla.

Chocolate and Daquiri Ice are my flavors.

Sometimes I'd like to be in his shorts. I'm just bored sometimes and my mind wanders.

I'd like her to be dominant and me submissive -- BIG time!

We have a good relationship except when it comes to sex. I've asked her many times what she likes, fantasizes about and she won't talk. I sound like a woman!

When I ask her about her fantasies she just says, "Don't go there."

 

[Wolfman1982]

Well, what about asking one of your wifes female friends what your wifes fantasies are ?

Or perhaps her and you could eat more healthy food and walk some normal long trips/hikes (i don´t know what word you like the best).

Since I started losing weight my sexdrive has been extremely high, And I am over 100 kilos in weight still.

So maybe that could be the reason she has no interest, since she is too big ?

 

[Baskin Robbins]

I'm starting to work out. That could be the trick.

 

[Etoile]

I'm with CNG. You absolutely must talk to her if you want to continue the relationship. If she won't talk with you directly, you may need to bring in a neutral third party. But not communicating and then breaking up is foolish. Ditto for cheating on her. (She is still your wife.)