My verbal humiliation fetish -- so strange...

[HaddenIndustries]

I'm a 33 y/o submissive male who gets off just from imagining being verbally humiliated by a woman or even a man -- just insulted, degraded, etc. The person leveling the insults doesn't need to be naked or anything like that -- she or he just needs to feel contempt for me and to express it, knowing that it turns me on.

The desire to be insulted in this way is so strong, I've flirted with the idea of putting an ad out on craigslist (or whatever) asking for a woman to videotape herself insulting me by name -- and I'd pay her by the minute for it. (Obviously nothing illegal here). I'm just a bit afraid I'd end up emptying my wallet (since I have a bit of a financial humiliation fetish as well. Sigh.)

(I've looked for first-person video clips online depicting women verbally degrading the viewer, but most of them focus on cock-size humiliation, and that doesn't do it for me).

I was wondering whether anyone else has a similar fetish. Maybe I'm this way because my friends and family and colleagues hold me in high regard, when deep down I know I'm a pathetic, wimpy submissive.

 

[xssve]

Try the personals section dumb fuck.

 

[HaddenIndustries]

Hahaaa... But seriously, it's not the purpose of this post to cultivate a personal relationship with any one. Instead I'm asking whether anyone has had experience with this fetish, and who might be willing to share insights about it here in this thread.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Enjoy it for what it is and don't waste too much time and energy on trying to pinpoint why you are this way. It is not unusual, but as with all forms of humiliation, not everyone is going to get it, and some feel downright uncomfortable even thinking about it.

Catalina

 

[HaddenIndustries]

Wise words, Catalina. I'm not morbidly obsessed with determining why I am this way. Nor am I ashamed or disappointed in being the way I am. Far from it. Though I do have a passing curiosity in the origins of my fetishes, which I indulge time to time, without being sucked in by the Sisyphean task of sexual self-analysis.

I'm a professor, and my favorite fantasy is imagining a student visiting during my office hours, and turning the tables on me -- again, the verbal humiliation, the smug contempt from someone who is supposed to be my inferior.

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

Try the personals section dumb fuck.

Acrobatic breakaway 360 dunk over two defenders. And the foul!

 

[Netzach]

I make my living doing this on a daily basis. I gently suggest you are not googling hard enough, there's more than SPH out there.

 

[HaddenIndustries]

Well, as I pointed out, I'm a bit afraid I'd end up emptying my wallet since I have a bit of a financial humiliation fetish as well. Like many guys, I lose my sense of judgment when I'm horny -- though I have the sense to recognize this beforehand. That being said, maybe I can find someone who'd provide the service without exploiting me (despite that I get off from being exploited... sigh). You're right in any case... more Googling is in order.

 

[Netzach]

For reals. C4s you'll find a million billion clips talking about emptying your wallet for like 4.99 per. So the "danger" is all on you, you know?

 

[Influence]

You're not alone.

I love being degraded.

 

[Madraykin]

Wow. What Stag of Oberon said. Though I don't think I could have worded it so well, my life experience is nearly identical.

So perhaps, relegating this sort of emotional masochism to the bedroom is a healthy outlet I've found for this sort of behavior. When my partner and I started playing together, it was the first time I experienced verbal degradation in a sexual context, and I found it a huge turn on. It was all very confusing (considering I absolutely HATE being made fun of or belittled otherwise) until I found out (thanks to this forum and a few instructional BDSM books) that I was far from alone.

Like the OP, it could be because most of the people I know seem to hold me in high regard to the point where I get kind of vain about it, and it's almost a relief to be knocked down a peg or two, to not feel that pressure to be perfect... to know that I'm still desirable even though I'm not perfect, that my partner wants me despite (or maybe even because) I'm a dirty slut/cocktease/brat/whatever.

Unfortunately I can't give advice on how to find such a thing, as I kind of stumbled on it myself and am still with that person, but I wish you luck!

 

[jeff9077]

verbal humiliation w/humiliating tasks

I left a similar post on another board as well. I am also interested in humiliation, and have found Mistress Marylin and Mistress Sapphire in Chicago who are experts at it. The "game" we are playing is that they have me locked in a cb6000 chastity device. The key to the lock is inside a combination lock box. Each week, they leave me a voice mail or email with a very humiliating assignment. If i can sucessfully complete the task, they give me 1 number to the lockbox. It is a mind-blowing experience to hear their laughter, taunting and gloating at what each weeks task will be, and have to weigh the humiliation of performance against the torment of remaining locked for yet an additional week.

Recently they made me go to a bar and order Corona "extra" (because it is a clear bottle). I had to take pictures of myself in the bar drinking this, and then after I had emptied a few beers, I was required to go into the bathroom and pee into an empty bottle. Afterwards, I had to go back in the bar and take additional photos drinking from that bottle.

Very humiliating and degrading, but amazing what humiliating tasks a man will do for a woman who has him by the balls, and takes pleasure in tormenting him.

 

[Madraykin]

Actually, I think the humiliation was the very harshest after those couple of high school breakups... the subject of my affection knew already, and if they took any interest in me at all it was to fuck with me or take advantage of my inability to deny them anything.

In one case, my best friend was her brother (yeah that was a mistake) and seeing this dynamic drove him bonkers.

I can relate. And if you switch genders (I'm assuming you're male, forgive me if I'm wrong) 'take advantage' tends to mean 'pretend you like her back so maybe she'll sleep with you.' Ugh. Fortunately I learned my lesson fairly quick.

Interestingly, and I intended to mention this in my earlier post, I remember when I started doing the whole BDSM thing, I found it weirdly empowering. I found myself becoming less tolerant of people who tried to take advantage of or disrespect me. It was like... yes, I enjoy being humiliated and used during sex, by this one person... but to hell with anyone else who tries!