My trip to Texas

[Dynamite]

Recently I made a trip to Texas to meet the gentleman that I had been cooresponding w/ for an entire year+. On my second day there he leaves me in the hotel room by myself for the night after he tells me he doesn't want anything to do w/ me he's seeing someone else.

I flew down there just to meet him. I was there from Wednesday evening until Sunday afternoon. He could have told me before I left my state. He's a complete ass! I couldn't believe it.

His mom said he's been saying "She's a big girl mom". Like it's a shocker. He knew I was plus-sized from the beginning!

Think he's a total ass????

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[Zamdrist]

I flew down there just to meet him. I was there from Wednesday evening until Sunday afternoon. He could have told me before I left my state. He's a complete ass! I couldn't believe it.

No matter which way you cut that, it was an awful, awful thing to do.

<hugs>

 

[Dynamite]

He tried to get me a ticket to leave that day, before he told me. Just so he wouldn't have to face up to the fact that he's a jerk.

 

[Lasz]

Screw him!
That is when you go to the bar and pick up some body else and just forget about him!!!

Laz

 

[Dynamite]

The whole story!

This is how it all went.

On March 28th L finally mailed the tickets. On Wednesday morning is when I finally got them. The same day I was to leave on my flight. That was a hectic day. Had to call the post office and see if they were there. And some other errands. All before I was to go and get registered for my flight.


I made all of my flights. My luggage even arrived on time. No problem at all.


We finally did meet. He wasn't at my gate waiting for me. I had to go and find him. I called him from a pay phone twice just in searching for him. We did eventually meet. He wasn't gorgeous, but he wasn't ugly either. I don't go for the outside package much. Some of the most handsome men have the nastiest personalities.


I got to meet his family. They were quite nice to me. His mother was talking to me about him and I. About chemistry and whether or not my "heart sang" as she put it. I told her I didn't know yet. I have a lot of aspects to look at. I'm here to find out what he's like in person.


He's a coward!


Anyway, one thing led to another etc. I thought we were doing just fine. Until the next day.

His mom "jokingly" called me a "Uneducated Yankee". I think she thought O was trying to be a know-it-all. I just wanted her to think I was smart. That was all. I didn't want to appear dumb.


(March 28th) He tells me he has to work and tries to get my flight moved up. It was going to cost $700.00 to get rid of me. So, he took me to the motel and told me that we needed to talk. I didn't get to say much. He told me he didn't want to see me anymore. He was seeing a Dr. and she was freaking out about all of this. I didn't really get to say anything. He said stuff about chemistry, etc. Needless to say, he left to go call or see her. He said he'd be back to talk.


I got left in Galveston. In a hotel. All by myself. That was the first time I had been away from home by myself. My first plane trips etc. I was lost. I spent most of my night wondering how I was going to get to the airport. Pay for a taxi and hotel rooms. I was too embarrassed to call my parents and tell them what had happened. I spent the night waiting for him to come back. I even went out in the dark after midnight. Looking for a phone to call my parents and let them know I was all right. My daily phone call. I had promised to call once a day. I didn't even have the phone number of his parents. All I had was his number. I couldn't call out on the hotel phone.


I had contemplated on just taking off. Getting a taxi and getting back to Houston. It would have been quite costly. Two taxis and 2 nights stays. I would have done it.


He did call and show up in the morning. I asked him to stop at the store so I could buy a phone card. Then later I asked him to drop me off at a hotel near the airport because I was obviously in the way and his "friend" was freaking out about me. I just wanted to avoid the problems. Not to mention a costly taxi ride. The airport I was to go on was in Houston. I was at the hotel in Galveston. He refused. Saying I was a guest etc.


I had thought about just grabbing my bags and going when we were at this house he was doing a tile job on. I was looking at the map I had bought. Quite a lot. Wondering just how far I could get. If I really had gone out. I wonder if I would have been robbed or even killed. I had felt like luggage all day.


The next day I told his parents what had happened the night before. That he just left me in a hotel by myself. His mother was a bit peterbed by what he had done. In a way I don't think she liked me much.


Needless to say, I got dumped on his sister. She and the kids had to drag me around for the next two days. I was a bit of a "B" to him. He hated it.


His sister took me to the airport. She told me that he had asked her to break the news to me. She told him that she barely knew me and that it was his job to do it.

 

[Dynamite]

Screw him!
That is when you go to the bar and pick up some body else and just forget about him!!!

Laz

Oh! I did! The night before. I couldn't help it! I could hear a couple in the room next to ours going at it. What can I say? A girl gets in the mood. He was laying on his side and his finger was twitching. Had to get me some.

 

[shynsexy]

I am so sorry that happened to you. I am a big beautiful woman also, and believe me, not all guys intexas are assholes about it. There are alot of guys who love a "plush" woman.... you are too good for him! ask anyone here! (big hugs) Shy

 

[ag2507]

What a shithead!

But we're all linin' up to to show you all guys aren't like that

Wish I'd been in the bar that night

A

 

[Spinaroonie]

Not all Texans are assholes like that. His momma didn't raise him right.

 

[lavender]

 

[Cierra_Dessert]

What a dangerous horrible situation that person put you in.

A complete act of selfishness on his part. Obviously he didn't need to lead you on to believe there was anything to look forward to once you met.

Once you did arrive, he could have at least apologized for making you go all that way when he had already decided he wasn't interested. He could have at that time, explained he didn't have the balls to tell you before you left about the other woman.

He also could have made arrangements for you to return home or be safe until it was time for you to return. IMO he was totally dishonest and should have been responsible for his actions once you arrived.

Unfortunately there are jerks in this world, we can't get away from that. It is however, quite a learning experience. At this point, I would definately forget about him, the situation, and know that you are a confident person who doesn't deserve to be treated like trash by him, or anyone else, ever.

 

[Dynamite]

How old are you?

How old was he?

I am 33. He is 36. It doesn't excuse him or anything. I've just never been out in a situation that I didn't have some form of control over. After a year, I wanted to trust him.

I'll never leave state again. If I meet someone out of the state, he has to come here.

When I was younger and used to hang out w/ some major alcoholics. I was always the driver. My car etc. I never left anyone behind. No matter how crappy or shitty they were to me that night or anything. I just don't do things like that to people.

 

[lavender]

 

[Quisath]

Texas Has Nothing to do With it.

The Guy was just not who you thought he was. Maybe a Year or so wasn't long enough. I'm not defending the Guy..................but there are different sides to examine here. I am truly sorry that you had a bad Time. I know I would have never done that to any Woman. I have more Respect and Learning than that. I know it seems BAD now but you have Learned a Valuable Lesson here. Try and seek men of a Different Caliber. Take Care and Be Happy in All you futher Endeavors.

 

[Nathon_88]

I am 33. He is 36. It doesn't excuse him or anything. I've just never been out in a situation that I didn't have some form of control over. After a year, I wanted to trust him.

I'll never leave state again. If I meet someone out of the state, he has to come here.

When I was younger and used to hang out w/ some major alcoholics. I was always the driver. My car etc. I never left anyone behind. No matter how crappy or shitty they were to me that night or anything. I just don't do things like that to people.

*sighs* All of us aren't like that........just enough to make the rest of us feel like absolute shit when we hear about some dickhead like that.

May I apologize?

We, the ethical males of the world, would like to apologize for the action of one of our less educated brethren.

*bows* As a free gift, you are welcome to PM me and cry on my shoulder, rail at me for something he did, or just chat.

The gift is redeemable at any Nathon's R Us stores.

 

[Dynamite]

What this man did to you was unacceptable. Meeting people on the internet is a scary and dangerous proposition. You have to take great precaution.

I'm sorry you experienced this Dynamite.


At the same time, it seems you have led a very sheltered life.You talk about going out by yourself in the dark after midnight as if it were a once in a lifetime occurrence. This is the first time you've traveled by yourself like this? I went to Chicago on my own when I was 13.

You really need to become more independent, stick up for yourself, stop trying to please others, and LIVE. LIVE for chrissakes. It's the only fucking thing we have in this world.

It's the only thing we have yet the vast majority of the time we don't do it. If you don't use your life for living it's like buying a car and never driving.

When you are in a strange environment where you don't know anybody you get a little freaked out. I had a lousy night, didn't know how I was going to get home. Not my fault my parents care about me.

Why I've never taken trips before? Never had the inclination. It takes a lot of cash to vacation. I don't like vacationing alone. No fun at all. Most of my friends are married, have kids, or boyfriends.

I go out after dark here, at home. In my own environment. I was distressed, upset and looked like I was from out of town by the look on my face.

I was a opportunity waiting to happen for some idiot.

When you ask someone for directions to a place or something, how do you know they are honest and you won't have a problem?
I do protect myself quite well. I have a "bitch from hell look for when I go shopping at night."

I don't go to bars anymore so I just don't go out at night. Everyone I know is busy. I don't have a whole lot of friends anymore. They're all gone.

I used to do karaoke a lot w/ friends.

I know I've lead a bit of a sheltered life, but can't help that. I live everyday. I try new things once in a while. I just don't go far out of my element.

I have no reason to leave state if I don't know anyone to visit. Can I visit you? =) Just kidding.

I didn't meet him on line. I won't say how, however.

I'm just not comfortable around people very much. Probably why I spend so much time on line. I'd rather use a atm machine than to see the teller in the bank. Old habits are hard to break.

It wasn't until a few years ago that I'd go and eat inside a restaurant alone. I guess I just have "issues."

Far as independant. I can be quite independant. I've done a lot w/out help from anyone. I have my own home, good job, leader, etc. I am just cautious. I like me. I'm reliable and loyal to people I know. I'm called upon a lot in emergencies by others. I've got a good head on my shoulders despite my short- comings.

 

[Aphrodisiac]

Dynamite,

I am sorry to hear about your trip into Texas & having to put up with that loser of a man.
To think a 36 year old man can act like such a coward and be so rude to you and simply abandon you in such a cruel manner.
I hope you feel better

I do have to agree with Lavander on the traveling and so forth. While you were in a new city you could have explored during the day and see how you could have bettered the situation you were in ...

I tend to go on road trips & I fly out by myself @ times. Even though I am in a new city I like to explore and its fun doing things on your own @ times.

Feel better...

 

[Guest]

I am sorry that this happened to you. I know there was no fun in this. Something not so terribly dissimilar happened to me many moons ago when I drove up to Nebraska to stay with a friend. Luckily, I had my own car and did not have to depend on her for anything other than a roof.

I would like to make a few suggestions for future reference.

1.) Here and at other online communities, there are several people in the Houston area that you could have contacted in an emergency. Before making your trip, you could have started a thread here asking who was in the area of your destination and then PM'd a few asking for contact information in case of need. I have done this before for on-line acquaintences and with the numbers of people here from the Houston area, you would have certainly had resources and would not have been so cornered.

2.) Learn about the places you are visiting. Before your trip, you should have checked out the galvestontourism.com website. Galveston has a very usable bus system. Galveston Limo has shuttle service to the 3 Houston airports. The Train Museum even has day trips to somewhere (I used to know back when I was a regular there.). You could have also gone to the LRC at UTMB or to Galveston College or Texas A&M as well as Rosenberg library for access to the internet. People in Galveston are used to the tourists and realize that a great deal of their wallets are fed from that and tend to be friendly in the places that attract the public. The general Galvestonian is going to be helpful with questions and directions. Going out after midnight is stupid though. Crime is a major issue there.

3.) Was the hotel arrangement pre-planned? I am not entirely clear if you stayed in a hotel the entire time or not. I know that any hotel you stayed at could have been researched here on the net and also at Lit--asking those of us who are familiar with the place for any info that you can't get at the official tourism information sites/brochures. (Your statement of going out after midnight to look for a phone to make a call from makes me wonder exactly which "hotel" you were in. The ones that fit that description are on the East End of the Island and are to be avoided like the plague.)

4.) Did you discuss your trip with anyone at home in case of problems? The lack of mention of such preparation for a worst-case scenario sounds dangerously stupid. This concerns me greatly.

Several Lit people have lived/worked/schooled/vacationed in Galveston. We could have been a major resources in this situation. I would expect it is similar for every major metropolitan area.

BTW
If you want me to cruise past the asshole's house next time I am in Galveston so I can get my dog out of the truck to shit on his lawn, let me know. I am sure the naughty puppy would be happy to oblige!

 

[BlondGirl]

Oops! That was me.

 

[Aphrodisiac]

BlondGirl ,

That is excellent information...

I tend to do such things when I travel , I get as much info. about the city I will be in and see what it offers... and make sure I have someone to contact in that city or in a near by city in case some thing comes up...

 

[Txdv8]

sorry about your experience, hope you don't thank ALL Texans are as bi an ass as he is.

 

[NightHawke70]

And im sorry that you got jilted by the lame a$$ as welll... I hope that your next meet goes better than this one..