My Predicament...Need Advice

[gricino_heat]

Hey guys and gals of Lit,
Just seeking a bit of advice on a little problem I've got.

Recently my girlfriend and I have been experimenting and shes started to play with my ass, I'm really enjoying it and I've told her that.
The thing is, I want her to take things a bit further, I want her to try using toys or something similar on me.

How do I go about suggesting this without sort of freaking her out?
Do i just tell her up front, or do I slowly suggest things to get her to initiate it?

Any help would be fantastic!!
Thanks people

 

[LindsayRae]

I'd say just be up front with her. Why do you think it would freak her out? Also, you may wish to seek this site's How To board for more help. Good luck!

 

[Fmature2play]

Hmmmm I just left a thread where a girl wants her bf to let her play with and maybe try a strap on but he isn't the least bit interested. Maybe you guys are just seeing the wrong people? Maybe swap or something? J/K There could be lots of reasons why she would be hesitant. I for one would have fainted if my ex had up and told me he wanted something like that. How about vids? Do the two of you watch them together? If so - just happen upon one that has a femdom theme and see how she responds. You said she has been playing gradually so far so my guess is it shouldn't take much to get her to try. What about an adult toy store? NOT one where there are slime balls lurking around. One that actually caters to couples. Lots of toys to look at and give you an idea of how she reacts to seeing them. I bet it happens before you know it. But (pardon the pun ) don't be upset when you can't play the fart game with the guys.

 

[LindsayRae]

Hmmmm I just left a thread where a girl wants her bf to let her play with and maybe try a strap on but he isn't the least bit interested. Maybe you guys are just seeing the wrong people? Maybe swap or something? J/K

Maybe that gal is his girlfriend and she thinks/worries he won't be into it? Kidding also. Sorry, I couldn't resist. Carry on!

 

[gricino_heat]

Thank you both very much for your replies
I think I'm just a bit hesitant about the whole asking thing, I guess I just feel a bit awkward just asking.....I'm sure I'll come round though.
Were actually going to an adult store on thursday, so hope it goes well, i'ts my 21st soon so maybe I'll get an early present
I'll keep you posted
xox

 

[Fmature2play]

If you've got questions of that sort, Lindsay was right in pointing ya to the how to thread. She is good like that. Plus she was helpful and nice about it. Sorry ya got toasted on the other forum for asking the same question but I kinda get why you'd ask a bi or gay man too. enjoy

 

[gricino_heat]

Yea thanks for that I might try the How To page.
And yea I was a bit shocked by the reaction I got on the other post, although Ive had a chat with her and tried to explain I wasnt meant to offend or anything.

But seriously thanks for all this helps guys, keep it coming