My parenting bite me in my ass

[smoothg103rd]

My son used to always be a tella tell, and I used to get on his ass. Like "stop being a snitch, snitching ain't cool". Well today, I told them not to eat my cheesecake, I come back and it's gone. None of them wants to take them blame for it. My gut was telling me that my daughter ate it, if she didn't she is the leader, so I knew she had something to do with it. But I can't break her, my threats don't work on her. So I pulled my son to the side, I'm working my magic on him. He got a birthday coming up, so I'm telling him if he doesn't tell me who ate it, then I'm not getting him shit for his birthday (just joking with him). He looks down to the ground, and then back up to me, I'm in my head like " GOT EM!" He looks at me for a while, and say "it's not cool to be a snitch " and walks the fuck off. I got pissed, lol. But I couldn't even be mad, because I'm the cause of it. I just shook my head.

I think I may be the only person that gets mad at his kids for telling, and then get mad at them for not telling.

I want my cheesecake.

 

[alphaduc]

Wife had that problem at her old job. Co-workers eating her lunch in the break room. We went to the pet store and got some dog treats that looked like people cookies. She took them to work and put her name on the bag. At the end of the day after the cookies disappeared, she told the shop blabber mouth the about the dog treats. Last time her food disappeared.

 

[Busybody]

Call the police

Haul em off to the pokey

 

[4est_4est_Gump]

It bit you on the ass

or

It bites you on the ass?

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

If parenting were easy, everyone would be doing it....



well.

 

[Ulaven_Demorte]

The way my dad used to settle issues like this was like so (and I don't recommend this). It was also the way that drill sergeants handled problems with a platoon in basic.

If the offender refuses to identify themselves then you punish EVERYONE and let them know that you're doing this just to make sure you're getting the right person. Those who are innocent will take care of the offender on their own. Problem solved.

Personally, I wouldn't recommend this method, nor would I recommend teaching your children to keep silent when they know someone else is doing wrong. "Snitches get stitches" is bullshit.

 

[LinusRules]

I don't know, I don't think you ever contemplated cheesecake being part of the "no snitch " standard. Take back his birthday presents.

 

[BabblingBrooke]

Threatening kids with a consequence you have no intention of enforcing is always a bad idea.

 

[LinusRules]

Threatening kids with a consequence you have no intention of enforcing is always a bad idea.

Plus, he still doesn't know who ate the damn cheesecake. Maybe the bastards split it. Ok, no cake at the party either. Maybe serve Brussels sprouts.

 

[4est_4est_Gump]

You never, ever take Christmas and Birthdays away from a child.



Punish the whole crew by taking away their electronics for a month.

 

[Devilius]

if nobody's telling, they all must've split the cheesecake between themselves.

 

[BabblingBrooke]

Smooth, do you really not want your kids to come to you? Who else are they supposed to trust if they need to tell someone about something? It "tella tell" supposed to be "tattle tale"? Tattling is one thing, but kids need a trusted adult to go to when they need help.

 

[Bidin~Time]

My son used to always be a tella tell, and I used to get on his ass. Like "stop being a snitch, snitching ain't cool". Well today, I told them not to eat my cheesecake, I come back and it's gone. None of them wants to take them blame for it. My gut was telling me that my daughter ate it, if she didn't she is the leader, so I knew she had something to do with it. But I can't break her, my threats don't work on her. So I pulled my son to the side, I'm working my magic on him. He got a birthday coming up, so I'm telling him if he doesn't tell me who ate it, then I'm not getting him shit for his birthday (just joking with him). He looks down to the ground, and then back up to me, I'm in my head like " GOT EM!" He looks at me for a while, and say "it's not cool to be a snitch " and walks the fuck off. I got pissed, lol. But I couldn't even be mad, because I'm the cause of it. I just shook my head.

I think I may be the only person that gets mad at his kids for telling, and then get mad at them for not telling.

I want my cheesecake.

If someone eating your cheesecake is all you have to worry about, you have no real worries. Learn to pick your battles.

Plus, who fights with kids over food? that makes you as immature as they are.

 

[hssh345Alt]

Call the police

I see that bb gave you the best advice here… Busy style

((ps what does he mean by "haul em off to the pokey" ?))

 

[LinusRules]

Smooth, do you really not want your kids to come to you? Who else are they supposed to trust if they need to tell someone about something? It "tella tell" supposed to be "tattle tale"? Tattling is one thing, but kids need a trusted adult to go to when they need help.

From the time we were little kids it's been ingrained in us not to be a tattle tale. No wonder why so much goes on known to many but reported by no one.

 

[BabblingBrooke]

From the time we were little kids it's been ingrained in us not to be a tattle tale. No wonder why so much goes on known to many but reported by no one.

It's got to change. With my kids I emphasized the difference between telling on someone to get them in trouble and telling on someone to get them out of trouble.

 

[Bidin~Time]

From the time we were little kids it's been ingrained in us not to be a tattle tale. No wonder why so much goes on known to many but reported by no one.

Parents should teach their children the difference between tattling for the sole purpose to get someone in trouble...you know...just to be a shit. And telling an adult something important because thy saw a friend or family member doing something that could get them in trouble or physically hurt.

 

[hssh345Alt]

Of course your daughter ate it! And your boy's no longer snitching. You should reward him, not punish
BTY : haven't seen LJ yet. So you have BB, a blurt thread member (although- where are the insults?), and no LJ yet?

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

Buy 4 more cheesecakes and make them sit there and eat them until they throw up.

Old school.

 

[smoothg103rd]

The way my dad used to settle issues like this was like so (and I don't recommend this). It was also the way that drill sergeants handled problems with a platoon in basic.

If the offender refuses to identify themselves then you punish EVERYONE and let them know that you're doing this just to make sure you're getting the right person. Those who are innocent will take care of the offender on their own. Problem solved.

Personally, I wouldn't recommend this method, nor would I recommend teaching your children to keep silent when they know someone else is doing wrong. "Snitches get stitches" is bullshit.

I'm from the streets. Snitches get ditches here. I was raised that way, so my kids will be raised that way.

 

[smoothg103rd]

Call the police

Haul em off to the pokey

I don't call cops.

 

[pink]

I was lucky, I had a pretty easy time of raising my daughter. She practically raised me, truth be told.


She just graduated from college, cum laude and is now employed as a drug and alcohol counselor. She is a wonderful young woman.

 

[Busybody]

My crack detective team is back with the result of the invedtigation

I will reveal who did it

In 10 minutes

 

[smoothg103rd]

Smooth, do you really not want your kids to come to you? Who else are they supposed to trust if they need to tell someone about something? It "tella tell" supposed to be "tattle tale"? Tattling is one thing, but kids need a trusted adult to go to when they need help.

My kids know they can come to me with a problem. I have heart to hearts with them all the time. No matter if I beat them or not, they know I love them because I always show them love.

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

I'm from the streets. Snitches get ditches here. I was raised that way, so my kids will be raised that way.

Ulaven never bothered to adopt his wife's son who has Aspergers so they could continue to get state aid.

He's a great father.