my own personal waffling bdsm thread

[dolf]

about to post another thread and suddenly struck by what a total threadwhore i've been in here lately.

so if i put all the inane and random questions in here, you can comment/answer/ in whatever order.

new question today...
what's your list of questions to ask a potential owner? in a hopefully 24/7 context.
the obvious, standard, personal safety ones?
the slightly off centre but more telling of character ones?

and the info here one chastity belts for girls is pretty sparse.
more would be useful.


other stupid questions by me...
have you been pissed in?
the other side of the coin...
how do you feel about humiliation?
a list of requirements.
somnophilia
personal ad red flag
who does rope?

 

[Quint]

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[dolf]

I like the verb "to waffle."

And I like seeing you around here.

I don't have an answer for this particular question, me not really being in a subby state of being, but I did want to contribute as best I could!

non-subs often have really good insight though

new question...
not wanking unless they say so.
why is it so hot to not???

 

[RJMasters]

I love the blunt honesty of the questions you've been asking.

 

[dolf]

I love the blunt honesty of the questions you've been asking.

i'm that bad rl.
really.
ask shy slave.

i tell everyone it's endearing.
i think i'm getting away with it so far

 

[the captians wench]

non-subs often have really good insight though

new question...
not wanking unless they say so.
why is it so hot to not???

for me it's simple, it's all about the build up. I've gotten to the point where left to my own devices, I would go at it any time I had the slightest incling to. this way, he can let my heat build, really add wood to the fire, until I'm a raging forest set ablaze. Then seting me off is soooo much more satisfying, and so much more pleasurable.

 

[Netzach]

non-subs often have really good insight though

new question...
not wanking unless they say so.
why is it so hot to not???

Small doses hot - long semi permanent stretches yawn.
Dunno - I think once it becomes about anything more than desperation it's boring. I'm more interested in raw sexual frustration, not proving that I *own* the genitals - that should be a given.

 

[dolf]

for me it's simple, it's all about the build up. I've gotten to the point where left to my own devices, I would go at it any time I had the slightest incling to. this way, he can let my heat build, really add wood to the fire, until I'm a raging forest set ablaze. Then seting me off is soooo much more satisfying, and so much more pleasurable.

hmmm...
i don't get that.
left to myself, i'll indulge three times a day.
told not to, i'll not mind going without.

there's something other than a buildup, no?
something extra...

 

[Recidiva]

hmmm...
i don't get that.
left to myself, i'll indulge three times a day.
told not to, i'll not mind going without.

there's something other than a buildup, no?
something extra...

I did get challenged like that once. I can go into a no-sex state pretty easily though.

I just rechannel it and do a lot more meditation instead when I'd otherwise be masturbating. I got all ethereal and happy instead of frustrated and mad. It was great.

The buildup is nice too.

 

[the captians wench]

hmmm...
i don't get that.
left to myself, i'll indulge three times a day.
told not to, i'll not mind going without.

there's something other than a buildup, no?
something extra...

Maybe that's it for you....you don't mind going with out.

Me, unless it's about 3 certain days out of the month, I want it and I want it now and I'm going to pout until I get it. please? please? please?

but if he gives in too soon, or too often then I loose interest. The orgasms aren't as strong, and I get bored. *shrug*

 

[dolf]

Small doses hot - long semi permanent stretches yawn.
Dunno - I think once it becomes about anything more than desperation it's boring. I'm more interested in raw sexual frustration, not proving that I *own* the genitals - that should be a given.

are there more than those two motives? from the aspect of a top?

 

[Netzach]

are there more than those two motives? from the aspect of a top?

I'm sure, I'm no fan of dichotomies myself, those are pretty much the ones I've found. I can see wanting someone in the "no sex" mode for certain forms of service, I can see wanting to dampen the sex drive so they're paying really close attention to other things. That's another one.

 

[the captians wench]

I'm sure, I'm no fan of dichotomies myself, those are pretty much the ones I've found. I can see wanting someone in the "no sex" mode for certain forms of service, I can see wanting to dampen the sex drive so they're paying really close attention to other things. That's another one.

see I just don't understand this. If I'm not getting it, then I want it more. If I get it too often, that's when I loose interest (granted too often is like multible times a day every day for three months but still). It takes a lot for me to go into no sex mode, and once I'm there, it just takes a tug of my hair and I'm drippy and ready to go.

 

[minx1]

for me I have only been deprived it as a punishment...its only happened a couple of times. I think because it is very infrequent its much more effective to me anyway.
Also teamed with the feelings of having disappointed and the humiliation at desperately wanting to but not being allowed have all added to the experience. When I look back previously, mostly upsetting a partner or having a blazing arguement would always end up with fucking and having make up sex. I have always found it a good way to release pent up stresses and emotions and a way to feel close to that person again. Wanking is the same. This removes that option leaving me with just the pent up feeling.
Its not so much the deprivation or the feelings that accompany it that I find hot. Hot to me is the knowledge that soon he will decide that I can.

 

[Netzach]

see I just don't understand this. If I'm not getting it, then I want it more. If I get it too often, that's when I loose interest (granted too often is like multible times a day every day for three months but still). It takes a lot for me to go into no sex mode, and once I'm there, it just takes a tug of my hair and I'm drippy and ready to go.

I'm with you. It's not my MO but I know a lot of other Dommes who really like to kill the male sex drive. I prefer to play with it.

 

[Recidiva]

I'm sure, I'm no fan of dichotomies myself, those are pretty much the ones I've found. I can see wanting someone in the "no sex" mode for certain forms of service, I can see wanting to dampen the sex drive so they're paying really close attention to other things. That's another one.

Would you please expand on how you're not a fan of dichotomies?

 

[dolf]

see I just don't understand this. If I'm not getting it, then I want it more. If I get it too often, that's when I loose interest (granted too often is like multible times a day every day for three months but still). It takes a lot for me to go into no sex mode, and once I'm there, it just takes a tug of my hair and I'm drippy and ready to go.

my drive isn't that high.
unless i'm ovulating.
all fear the ovulating dolf! lol

 

[the captians wench]

my drive isn't that high.
unless i'm ovulating.
all fear the ovulating dolf! lol

That's how my rabbit bit the dust and I was taimer then

 

[dolf]

That's how my rabbit bit the dust and I was taimer then

you snap vibes too? LOL
i kill so many toys that way!

 

[HottieMama]

i have a VERY high sex drive. What makes orgasm denial really HOT for me is the arousal is a constant reminder of Him. i want the release. i crave the release and i know he is the only one that can give it to me; therefore He and it are all i think about.

 

[ecstaticsub]

non-subs often have really good insight though

new question...
not wanking unless they say so.
why is it so hot to not???

I personally don't get this either. I am so thankful my Daddy lets me masturbate as much as I want. Which is usually 1-3 times a day. Most times I will put it on film and send him later just because I feel it is polite since I was thinking of him. But he doesn't require it.

Since I am easily multi-orgasmic during sex he doesn't have any interest in making me hold off on orgasms. He is teaching me tantric sex so when we get together (which isn't often enough) we can just enjoy hours and hours of continual orgasm together.

Since the more I orgasm the more I want sex it makes me hornier the more I masturbate and that's the way he likes me.

 

[the captians wench]

you snap vibes too? LOL
i kill so many toys that way!

yeah

and the little bunny part went loco, kept buzzing even after the batteries were removed.

 

[dolf]

yeah

and the little bunny part went loco, kept buzzing even after the batteries were removed.

possessed!

another question on supernatural sex toys?

 

[WriterDom]

Playing with someone's sex drive is great fun. Provided they have a high drive to begin with.

 

[Netzach]

Would you please expand on how you're not a fan of dichotomies?

OK, maybe I like them a little.

But I'm the queen of the "third alternative" (and yes I know that's a malapropism)