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The time to close my original thread is imminent.
For those that who followed my thread you might have noticed a more gentle softening, respectful, caring person reveal himself than my original post.
When I first posted I fell into the same trap that I’ve since advised others not to. That meaning, to not try and be who you think others expect you to be. Because then you assume a mask and play to others projections.
My experience is that listening is the most important skill and personal quality in any relationship rather than making assumptions. Feeling listened to, heard, respected accepted, not judged can transform dark yesterdays into bright tomorrows.
The greatest impediment to relationships are expectations which are often based on our own projections about who we want the other to be. And some feel let down when they respond differently to our projection.
Maybe because I’m older I’ve discovered that the thrill and joy is in the giving rather than trying encage and control.
Let her fly! Give her the space and freedom to just be who she is rather than try and control and confine her. The more she’s given the choice to fly, the more she’s likely to choose to stay or return.She needs to feel listened to and understood, and comfortable to express her dreams, fears, and other emotions in a safe sacred space free of judgement without unrealistic expectations. It’s not about what you can get from her. It’s about what you can do to help her become the person she’s always meant to be.
My original post doesn’t reflect that Spirit and some might not bother to read the lengthy thread with softer quotes I posted later.
I’d like to thank those Ive blessed to get to know deeper and appreciate those who had the patience to get to know me as a person rather than a façade.
It’s through you that I learned , as Rumi describes:
When we learn to love without expectations, calculations and negotiations we are indeed in Heaven.
And I’d like to remind all of those I spoke to and those I never got the opportunity to, that the greatest prison sentence is seeking others approval to validate one’s worth.
You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”
Finally I derive great joy in sharing my experiences, knowledge, writings with those who find them useful. I adore beautiful things such as nature, art poetry and the pure feminine essence. I live overlooking the sea and take photos of breathtaking sunsets sunrises and spectacular skylines
Im drawn to Ancient Greek and other mythology because of the view they hold universal truths. I’ve written several short presentations based on myths in relation to human behaviour and relationships. I also wrote a short magical romantic fairytale based on my own experiences and learnings.
If anyone is interested I’m happy to share my experiences, writings or just listen if that might be useful too.
It’s an offer not a request. The gift is in the giving.
Until then
Ron
For those that who followed my thread you might have noticed a more gentle softening, respectful, caring person reveal himself than my original post.
When I first posted I fell into the same trap that I’ve since advised others not to. That meaning, to not try and be who you think others expect you to be. Because then you assume a mask and play to others projections.
My experience is that listening is the most important skill and personal quality in any relationship rather than making assumptions. Feeling listened to, heard, respected accepted, not judged can transform dark yesterdays into bright tomorrows.
The greatest impediment to relationships are expectations which are often based on our own projections about who we want the other to be. And some feel let down when they respond differently to our projection.
Maybe because I’m older I’ve discovered that the thrill and joy is in the giving rather than trying encage and control.
Let her fly! Give her the space and freedom to just be who she is rather than try and control and confine her. The more she’s given the choice to fly, the more she’s likely to choose to stay or return.She needs to feel listened to and understood, and comfortable to express her dreams, fears, and other emotions in a safe sacred space free of judgement without unrealistic expectations. It’s not about what you can get from her. It’s about what you can do to help her become the person she’s always meant to be.
My original post doesn’t reflect that Spirit and some might not bother to read the lengthy thread with softer quotes I posted later.
I’d like to thank those Ive blessed to get to know deeper and appreciate those who had the patience to get to know me as a person rather than a façade.
It’s through you that I learned , as Rumi describes:
When we learn to love without expectations, calculations and negotiations we are indeed in Heaven.
And I’d like to remind all of those I spoke to and those I never got the opportunity to, that the greatest prison sentence is seeking others approval to validate one’s worth.
You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”
Finally I derive great joy in sharing my experiences, knowledge, writings with those who find them useful. I adore beautiful things such as nature, art poetry and the pure feminine essence. I live overlooking the sea and take photos of breathtaking sunsets sunrises and spectacular skylines
Im drawn to Ancient Greek and other mythology because of the view they hold universal truths. I’ve written several short presentations based on myths in relation to human behaviour and relationships. I also wrote a short magical romantic fairytale based on my own experiences and learnings.
If anyone is interested I’m happy to share my experiences, writings or just listen if that might be useful too.
It’s an offer not a request. The gift is in the giving.
Until then
Ron
