My new roommate is...

[Never]

A 22 year old Southern Baptist who’s about to be married.
So I’m sitting here wondering if I should tell her I’m gay, wondering how she’ll react, wondering if I’m making her into a stereotype. I'm also wondering if I should guide her to Lit or not.

 

[lovetoread]

Be careful.

Them can be wierd people,and I am not totally joking. I lived in the South all of my life. If they knew where I was now,I'd get the you are going to burn in hell talks.

 

[HeavyStick]

some subtle lesbian porn and a double dong on the coffee table may help break the ice

 

[KillerMuffin]

Bring her to Lit.

We'll tell her you're gay.

You'll just look at her blankly and wonder aloud what you sexual orientation has to do with anything.

 

[Ferrophiliac]

Its really up to you about telling her about your lifestyle, but be sure tell her about Literotica.

A 22 year old Southern Baptist who’s about to be married.
So I’m sitting here wondering if I should tell her I’m gay, wondering how she’ll react, wondering if I’m making her into a stereotype. I'm also wondering if I should guide her to Lit or not.

 

[sexy-girl]

but is she hot

oops i guess thats me being a stereotypes (lesbians jump on every woman they can)

 

[morninggirl5]

Never, you just described me about 11 years ago. So the stereotype could be completely wrong.

I had a very close friend who came out of the closet during that time. She and i remained close. Another of our friends was a total ass to her and cut her out of her life completely. She was supposed to be the "tolerant" one.

Are you and your roommate gonna be roommates that live in the same space or are you going to be friends? That answer will really determine what you tell her.

 

[sexy-girl]

i should be serious too ... never i know what its like not knowing who to tell and if its even all that important to say or not ... maybe give it a few days ... of course that can create pressure of once you haven't said right away you never say ... i haven't found the answer to it yet as you can tell from my rubbish advice

sorry

 

[Never]

I really don’t want to be told I’m going to hell by the person I’m sharing the same dorm room with. I have enough problems at college as it is. Last year I told everyone but my roommate, it’s not so much a matter of if she finds out but when she finds out. It’s just that type of school.

She seems nice (she’s not bad on the eyes sexy-girl) but I’ve only just met her.

I think you’re all right though, I should show her Lit.

 

[KillerMuffin]

No offense intended.

I'm not sure why it's any of her business, really. I don't say, "Hey, I'm Muffie, I'm 98% hetero and 2% homo. Nice ta meetcha."

Though, I do say, "Yo, I'm Muff. I bite."

 

[InnocentAngel81]

give her some time to settle in to get to know you eventually the time will come to tell her, also tell her you were afraid how she would react and thats why you didnt let her know sooner.

 

[morninggirl5]

Never, i really think you should give her a few days and see what happens. If you told everyone last year, she may already know.

See how she approaches you first. If she's the type that will tell you you're going to hell, she'll bring her beliefs up and try to "convert" you before you say anything and you'll know how to act around her. Polite, civil, sharing a space.

If she doesn't bring anything up, she may be the more "i believe this, you're free to believe or not" type.

I hope for your sake, that's the way she is. Good luck!

 

[sexy-girl]

going to hell thing wouldnt be to nice i can see that ... have you told her you're an athethist maybe that would soften the blow but it could make it doubly worse


and muffin i agree with you in a way but its difficult to know how to handle it when someone will probably find out sooner rather than later anyway ... sometimes they can feel you lied to them by not telling them


and 2% homo so that was just all a ploy to get me to cut your lawn ?

 

[MechaBlade]

I'm not sure why it's any of her business, really. I don't say, "Hey, I'm Muffie, I'm 98% hetero and 2% homo. Nice ta meetcha."

Though, I do say, "Yo, I'm Muff. I bite."

Exactly. Do what one of my past roommates did and don't tell her unless she asks. Unless you bring women home and make out all the time. Then she might need forewarning.

 

[Never]

KillerMuffin
“No offense intended.

I'm not sure why it's any of her business, really. I don't say, "Hey, I'm Muffie, I'm 98% hetero and 2% homo. Nice ta meetcha."

Though, I do say, "Yo, I'm Muff. I bite."

Don’t most people already know you’re heterosexual?

Well, if you don’t switch roommates within the first two weeks of school, you have to want until the next semester.
That’s not really the answer though.

If you’re asking me why I want to tell her. Why I desire affirmation of my sexuality from someone I just met. I guess I’m just weak that way.

 

[sexy-girl]

im curious really actually if people would prefer to know if they were rooming with someone of the same sex or working closey with them ... would they prefer to be told if they were gay

would you at all feel disapointed if you got told from someone else instead

 

[MzChrista]

A 22 year old Southern Baptist who’s about to be married.
So I’m sitting here wondering if I should tell her I’m gay, wondering how she’ll react, wondering if I’m making her into a stereotype. I'm also wondering if I should guide her to Lit or not.

Your gay?? I thought you was one of them men trapped in a lesbians body or whatever it is.

Hahaha.
Seriously, Id let her get to know you a while and see maybe she aint so bad as you fear.

 

[Nora]

Is there a way to subtly let her know that's non-confrontational? I understand why you'd want her to know up-front. It'll cut down on possibility of conflict now, plus the added bonus that it'll be easier to change rooms now if she's that upset over the concept.

G-d this is hokey, but what about leaving a copy of a magazine whose target audience is lesbians on your desk? Not like porn, just something like The Advocate?

 

[MzChrista]

KillerMuffin
“No offense intended.

I'm not sure why it's any of her business, really. I don't say, "Hey, I'm Muffie, I'm 98% hetero and 2% homo. Nice ta meetcha."

Though, I do say, "Yo, I'm Muff. I bite."

Don’t most people already know you’re heterosexual?

Well, if you don’t switch roommates within the first two weeks of school, you have to want until the next semester.
That’s not really the answer though.

If you’re asking me why I want to tell her. Why I desire affirmation of my sexuality from someone I just met. I guess I’m just weak that way.

If you are going to be living in the same room with someone you arent gonna want to feel like you have to hide part of yourself all the time. Most hets, if they had to hide their sexuality for even a few days would flip out. So why should we?
But like I said, maybe shes cool , you dont know yet.

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[ma_guy]

3/4ths of the Bible belt is Southern Baptist but that doesn't seem to diminish the number of Gays/Lesbains within the population of those states. IMO, you're making some assumptions about her based on your own prejudices.

Be yourself and let the chips fall where they may. If she says something (one way or another) then you've found the time to speak. If she has a problem with it then that is exactly what it is - HER problem. You might just be surprised...

 

[Guest]

 

[penguindance]

 

[Never]

sexy-girl
"im curious really actually if people would prefer to know if they were rooming with someone of the same sex or working closey with them ... would they prefer to be told if they were gay

would you at all feel disapointed if you got told from someone else instead"

Who can understand the mind of those wacky heteros, eh?

Bratcat:
“She will never look at you the same again. And she might start sending me those naked pics of you that I am craving.”
Hmm..
Maybe this isn’t such a good idea after all?

Nora:
“G-d this is hokey, but what about leaving a copy of a magazine whose target audience is lesbians on your desk? Not like porn, just something like The Advocate?’
Well, I bought Mulholland Dr. on DV yesterday, later tonight I’m planning on asking her if she wants to join me in watching it. Someone told me there was a bit of homoerotism in it.

 

[Never]

You’re right MzChristia, there’s no way to know until she finds out. As I said, she seems very pleasant but it’s not like I can zoom in on her thoughts regarding gays.

Ma_guy, I’m not quite certain what prejudices you think I have or what assumptions you think I’m making. I know I’m in a conservative area of the country and I know what the conservative Christian view of homosexuality is. It’s not as though my reaction would be totally different if I knew she was a zen Buddhist though.

Thanks for the vote of confidence Luscious Lioness.