My neighbor freaked me out!!

[Allexus_TN]

My weird creepy neighbor hit on me the other day. I mentioned my anniversary while we were chatting, and he commented he could never be with a girl long enough to have an anniversary of any kind. He proceeded to tell me that was why he used the local hookers, and then ran down a price list for me, including how much for each service vs. hourly rates. He then commented how much he loves sex, and didn't I? He waited for my reply, looking me up and down in a way that made me feel very sick to my stomach. When I did not answer, he sighed, then said, "Well, I guess I will have to call one of the girls tonight if I want some."
I should add that this guy knew that both my husband and other male neighbor were not home.
I told my husband, who was mildly upset at the rudeness at first, and now makes jokes about it. I don't find it funny at all. This man causes all my instinctual warning to come up. He scares me enough as it is, and now even more so. I don't see where its funny that I am scared.

 

[Guest]

Go with you instincts gurl. Unbelievably cruel and rude! SLAP the FUCKER next time, OK?

 

[Allexus_TN]

Go with you instincts gurl. Unbelievably cruel and rude! SLAP the FUCKER next time, OK?

Would love to if I thought he wouldn't grab me and carve me up into little pieces.

 

[Guest]

Would love to if I thought he wouldn't grab me and carve me up into little pieces.

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Stay away from him honey. If he persists, call the cops. Don't mess with him, OK?

 

[lobito]

I don't know, not to belittle your situation, and I hope I don't...

I'd be more freaked out that he admits to using prostitutes, and that he can list prices, actually more that he felt he had to tell you all that.

I don't know you from the next person, but stay safe. He doesn't sound like the type of guy you want to be on the bad side of.

 

[Allexus_TN]

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Stay away from him honey. If he persists, call the cops. Don't mess with him, OK?

I am trying not to even let him know I am home most of the time. Like, staying indoors as much as possible if I know he is around. Maybe he will just think I am off with hubby or with friends.

Lobito you are not belittling the situation at all. I too am not sure what is creepier. He was so obviously wanting some sort of sexual conversation with me, and when I did not respond to his comment about liking sex, his own reply let me know he was hoping I would cast my panties onto the floor and beg him to fuck me.
The guy works at a local mortuary, and never fails to tell everyone about the day's work. I have heard too many gruesome stories of his job, and his massive collection of creepy books on (I kid you not) on that subject as well as other subjects like one on dismembering the dead.
I am more than freaked out since my convo with him the other night. As I said, now I am just plain scared of him.

 

[lobito]

now see, I believe in taking pride in your work, but when being the kind of person you described becomes an obbsession, then it's a problem.

I'd hate to think what else he likes doing with those bodies. I think I just made myself sick, typing that out, and reading it again.

 

[Allexus_TN]

now see, I believe in taking pride in your work, but when being the kind of person you described becomes an obbsession, then it's a problem.

I'd hate to think what else he likes doing with those bodies. I think I just made myself sick, typing that out, and reading it again.

Try not to think about that part. He's a true freak.

 

[EX-Member]

Allexus..... You need a hobby.



Say.....Knife throwing.... And practice in your front yard

Or.... maybe kick-boxing...

Sword fighting?

Tossing the javilin? Ask him to catch...

 

[Allexus_TN]

Allexus..... You need a hobby.



Say.....Knife throwing.... And practice in your front yard

Or.... maybe kick-boxing...

Sword fighting?

Tossing the javilin? Ask him to catch...

HEY!! The first person actually able to make me smile about it all!! Knife throwing sounds good!! Then I could make him stand at the target while I tried to hit the balloon between his legs....and miss!!

Thank you EX!!

 

[EX-Member]

You are Most welcome Allexus...


Ya know.... now that I think about it, the kick boxing or some sort of martial art might not be a bad idea... Give you a bit of confidence so you won't have to stay inside all the time.... no one should be a prisoner in their own home...

 

[marksgirl]

Before I married my husband he used to live in a pretty seedy side of town and he would set in his front yard and clean his guns. Nobody messed with him!

 

[Allexus_TN]

You are Most welcome Allexus...


Ya know.... now that I think about it, the kick boxing or some sort of martial art might not be a bad idea... Give you a bit of confidence so you won't have to stay inside all the time.... no one should be a prisoner in their own home...

Today hasn't been too bad since my other male neighbor has been home all day. I'm ok with that. And I work three days a week. Its only when I am home alone, and my other neighbor is out and I know the freak is home that I am very edgy and stay here. If someone knocks on my door and a look thru the peephole reveals the freaky neighbor, I just won't answer.
I really have been considering a martial arts class. There is a place down the road that offers self defense classes just for women. That one sounds good to me!

 

[naudiz]

I'd get pepperspray or a taser. Self-defense classes are a definite plus.

 

[EX-Member]

I say go for it...




Just remind me NEVER to piss you off after you start the classes...... ok?

 

[Allexus_TN]

I say go for it...


Just remind me NEVER to piss you off after you start the classes...... ok?

Will do!!

 

[KillerMuffin]

I can't believe your man tossed it off as a joke. Did you tell him how scared you are? You're a prisoner in your own home and that is not right.

Definitely take the self-defense classes. Tasers, guns, pepper spray, whatever don't work if you don't know how to incapacitate someone with them.

Gawd, if something like that happened to me, I couldn't tell the StudMuffin. He'd rip that guy into itty bitty little pieces and then turn his home into a pile of rubble. And then I'd be StudMuffinless for however long they'd like him up for it.

 

[sunstruck]

I agree with KM. I'm more concerned that your husband isn't more concerned. I dont' advocate jealousy, but this isn't about that. This man makes you feel threatened, and you and your husband are there to protect each other. That's what families do.

If it were me I'd have a talk with my husband, and a can of mace for my neighbor.

 

[Allexus_TN]

Hubby doesn't think it will happen again. Part of his "attitude" about it is that he is incredibly shy and does not like confrontation. But who does? Does he think I enjoyed standing there with that freak? He would rather me handle it someway. That is how he always is. Anytime someone made me upset, I have to take care of it while he stands quietly by. Always.

 

[sunstruck]

I have an ex like that, it's actually one of the reasons he's an ex. I'm not saying dump Hubby by ANY means. But, and I'm speaking for me here, when I was in that situation it wasn't that I needed him to defend me, so much as I wanted to feel worthy of defence.
Is there any possibility that if you explain to him that his lack of willingness to defend you makes you feel like you aren't valued he may see things in a different light?
As to your neighbor, just stay away from him. If he does ANYTHING threatening call the police. Unfortunately there isn't much else you can do.
But if you see any blatently trashy women go in there, call the cops! lol Tell them he's soliciting. Maybe he won't be around so much if he needs to go out to get his prostitutes.

 

[lobito]

wouldn't soliciting be a good enough reason to go to the cops? I mean he knows enough about the prices apparently, so... I don't know, I barely scraped by in CriminalJjustice class in High School.

 

[#1tankcomander]

Be afraid...Really afraid....

Get the self defense classes, not just a form of Karate but SELF DEFENSE. They'r out there. Check the yellow pages. Hell get you a pistol and take classes...... In Texas you take a class for conceiled hand guns and can carry them on you within the boundrys of the law. Let this SLUG see you with one, he'll stop his advances, unless he's stupid...........

 

[#1tankcomander]

Cops.....

won't do any good unless there is a wittness, or worse when something happens. First protect yourself!!!!!! This guy won't do anything in front of any wittnesses, unless he thinks he can.......

 

[Allexus_TN]

He actually has to been seen obtaining the hooker's services I believe. I can't just call the cops because I think a hooker is there. Or I would.
I plan to call the place down the road when I get back from vacation. 2 weeks. I go on vacation this coming weekend, and in the meantime, I will be busy working and packing and spending time with friends. Perhaps while I am away I will talk to my husband about the self worth. It does feel bad that he doesn't want to take up for me any more than this.

 

[Guest]

#1tank commander is exactly right.

1. Take the self-defense classes. Have the hubby take them too, it could help him build some confidence to talk to the neighbor. Practice what they teach you, when you think you know it well, practice some more. If you take karate, they will teach you how to win in tournaments, not really good for the real world.

2. Get a pistol and take classes. Same thing, learn it inside and out. If you think this nutball might try to break in when the hubby is gone, practice with an UNLOADED or MOCK pistol responses. Learn how to load/reload pistol until it is second nature. Also check rooms, garage, anything on your property that can be used as a weapon if he comes tries anything. For example, in the garage you could grab some bug spray and spray him in the eyes.

3. Consider filing a police report so there is something on record it anything were to happen. I don't know if you have enough for a restraining order.

4. Tell your hubby in no uncertain terms how this idiot freaks you out. He should talk to this person, and lete him know that his discussion with you was unwelcome and will not be repeated.

5. If it gets worse, I had an employee with a stalker once, she had reached the point of inviting him over. (The restraining order wasn't working.) Getting him in her house, then shooting him, calling the police that he came after her and she had to use self-defense.

Good luck, don't be afraid of this idiot, but be aware and ready.