my husband is going share me,What should i expector do

[caprisunhigh]

We have talked about him sharing me with another man. He said he would love to share me. What can i do to prepare myself for this?

I would also love so ideas for things to have them do to me?

I hope i post in the right forum.


thanks

 

[M's girl]

Buy condoms.

 

[midwestyankee]

Make sure that you want to do this as much as he does. Such actions change relationships permanently - there will be no going back so be absolutely certain that you have a good grip on the why, how, where, what, when, and who of what you plan to do.

Adding a third person kills far more relationships than it enriches.

 

[M's girl]

Make sure that you want to do this as much as he does. Such actions change relationships permanently - there will be no going back so be absolutely certain that you have a good grip on the why, how, where, what, when, and who of what you plan to do.

Adding a third person kills far more relationships than it enriches.

Well said. I did not want to be the party pooper but it's true. Looks like she has "a master" though, so I don't know how much it matters what she wants. Or am I being sarcastic now?

 

[Ashleigh_C]

Probably foolish of me, but I'm gonna treat this like a real question.

Set ground rules *beforehand*. Go over what's allowed, what isn't allowed. Also, lay off the alcohol.

And midwest brought up a good point, swinging requires a lot of trust and emotional maturity. It's not something you just go out and do to fulfill someone's fantasy.

 

[M's girl]

Probably foolish of me, but I'm gonna treat this like a real question.

Oh, but I did too....

 

[caprisunhigh]

I guess i should have given a little more deal to this. I am a sub my hubby is my master. HE has had me give out guys blow-jobs will he watched but nothing further than that with anyone besides him. I guess i am basically asking if anyone has done this and how do i prepare my body for this experience. I actually cant wait for this to happen.

 

[M's girl]

Isn't this question better asked in the BDSM forum? How to prepare your body? Doesn't that depend on what your master allows this man to do with your body? Maybe you should ask your master.

If M would offer me to another man (or woman) I would slap him in the face and leave him but that's me and that's beside the point here. Ask your master what this man can do to you and how HE thinks you should prepare.

Sheesh.... how would I prepare for a fuck? Take a shower?

 

[c2explore]

my suggestion is make sure everything is "right" in your relationship before that night....you dont want him having "bad" thoughts during the experience.

 

[midwestyankee]

I guess i should have given a little more deal to this. I am a sub my hubby is my master. HE has had me give out guys blow-jobs will he watched but nothing further than that with anyone besides him. I guess i am basically asking if anyone has done this and how do i prepare my body for this experience. I actually cant wait for this to happen.

M's Girl is right: I suggest that you wander over to the BDSM Talk forum to see what advice you might get from the regular posters there who are in TPE relationships.

 

[Life_Noir]

I've watched it destroy half a dozen relationships....

Does that count???

 

[callinectes]

I've watched it destroy half a dozen relationships....

Does that count???

Ditto

 

[catalina_francisco]

We have done it, and it didn't destroy our relationship. We talked a lot before it, he was patient in explaining why he felt this was something he wanted to do, he was open about his own insecurities about it, he listened to my thoughts on safety (all aspects of safety, not just physical), he listened to the reasons why I didn't think it a great idea, we talked openly about the reasons it turned both of us on and the reasoins it turned us off, but in the end I obeyed and found it an interesting experience. One of the rules about it we have had to date is that he is there also, and that also applies in reverse if he is ever going to be with someone else. Saves the risk of untamed and dangerous suspicions creeping in when you least expect them.

In terms of physical safety, you need to be aware of what he expects of you. Is this going to be just sharing in a sexual sense, or is it also in a D/s and SM way, and if so, what are the boundaries for both you and the 3rd person? In terms of sexual health, I would recommend no blow jobs or oral sex performed on you without a barrier such as a condom because despite some people not being aware of it, you can catch a multitude of STD's including HIV through unprotected oral sex. This thread might be worth you both reading, especially the latter part where I have included lots of info on sexual health. You might also find something of interest on another thread I started, In THe Hands Of Another , which discussed various people's attitudes and experiences in terms of being shared.

For me, the most important thing is communication, before, during (if necessary), and afterward. He needs to be prepared to be there for you if you have any sort of difficulty after the fact, he needs to be willing to talk to you about it and listen to you when you need to talk about it, whether it be before or after, and you also need to be prepared to do the same for him. He also needs to do his best to ensure your safety in all ways, as well as be aware that apart from whatever positive reasons he may have for wanting to pursue this path, there may be unexpected negative outcomes for either one of you or both and that the only way to deal with that is be open and honest and talk. I hope you both enjoy it as much as you anticipate....my experience is it can be a great trust building exercise for both, and actually deepen the M/s bond.

http://farm1.static.flickr.com/134/376824463_35ca304946_s.jpg Catalina

 

[SwanSword]

Because something is legal doesn't make it right.

I've read through some of this forum, and especially this post. I don't intend to change any minds. Nevertheless, people are entitled to the Truth. What anyone does with it is their business.

1). Adultery, even with consent of a spouse is still adultery, and people who violate this statute inevitably are struck down beyond repair when they least expect it.
2). Human self degradation is the road to poverty. People who degrade themselves intentionally are called sloths. Sloth is accompanied by a genetic mutation on the DRD gene series in human DNA. The genetic mutations of the DRD gene series are seen with all self degradation, masturbation, sodomy, fornication, drug addiction, mood disorders, attention deficit disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder, pornography, lust, indecent exposure, excessive risk taking, satanism, use of card decks to gamble or predict the future, compulsive gambling, homosexual thoughts, bestiality, homicide, rape, abortion, genocide, terrorism, greed, cannibalism, child molestation, robbery, soelancia, galrax, folshiry, hindery, flaclec, bisexuality, feminism, fantasies of violence or fascination with the morbid, thoughts that curse God, thoughts of killing other people, incarceration, suicide, atheism, Islam, Hinduism, and Buddhism. In the USA it has been found that sexually dysfunctional people listen to rock music frequently. It was also found they have low self esteem, are underachievers, have dysfunctional relationships across the board, especially with parents, viewed pornography at an early age, frequently had been sexually molested, did not confess their sins in Roman Catholic Confession, frequently developed adult onset diabetes, were chronically victimized, failed to achieve middle class status, were atheists, relied on secular humanism to help them, were failed by countless mental health professionals throughout life, had abortions, used artificial birth control, were criminals or alcoholics, or dated criminals or alcoholics, or both.
3). Total life expectancy for the sexually deviant is 45 - 50 years.
4). Once a sin is committed the sinner bears the guilt until the sin is forgiven. If the sinner either doesn't know how to have his/her sins forgiven, refuses to confess, or denies he/she is committing sin, he/she bears the guilt for the sin.
5). The guilt for the sins of dead ancestors rests on the living through roots of ancient doom, extending up from the netherworld and resonating a cry for help from the damned, that someone among the living take responsibility for the sins of the dead, and confess these sins to Jesus Christ, asking forgiveness by The Power of His Precious Blood of Jesus for the the sins of the dead so they can come into God's Light.
6). The mutations on the DRD gene series are caused by the guilt of the sins of our dead ancestors mutating human DNA. This is verified by The Holy Bible: "The sins of the fathers will be passed on to the third and fourth generations of those who hate Me." People are being born in Satan's prison of sexual dysfunction.
7). Godless perversion is not an exercise of freedom. It is a sign of spiritual bondage. To break spiritual bondage sin must be confessed to a person qualified to forgive sin.
8). Roman Catholicism is the practice of becoming immortal by the principle maxim of sorcery: If you know an entity's name, and you take on its nature, you have access to its power. For Roman Catholics this translates to: If you know The Name Jesus Christ, and you take on His Nature you will be Immortal.
9). If anyone wants forgiveness, fall on your face before God and claim The Precious Blood of Jesus Christ to atone for your sin, and confess your sin, out loud, with your lips. Ask Jesus to please save you from eternity in everlasting fire.
10). I'm not trying to hurt anyone. There is nothing any of the people on this board can do to hurt me, so I'm not worried. I just want people to have eternal life, and not die so young.

 

[catalina_francisco]

I've read through some of this forum, and especially this post. I don't intend to change any minds. Nevertheless, people are entitled to the Truth. What anyone does with it is their business.

1). Adultery, even with consent of a spouse is still adultery, and people who violate this statute inevitably are struck down beyond repair when they least expect it.
2). Human self degradation is the road to poverty. People who degrade themselves intentionally are called sloths. Sloth is accompanied by a genetic mutation on the DRD gene series in human DNA. The genetic mutations of the DRD gene series are seen with all self degradation, masturbation, sodomy, fornication, drug addiction, mood disorders, attention deficit disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder, pornography, lust, indecent exposure, excessive risk taking, satanism, use of card decks to gamble or predict the future, compulsive gambling, homosexual thoughts, bestiality, homicide, rape, abortion, genocide, terrorism, greed, cannibalism, child molestation, robbery, soelancia, galrax, folshiry, hindery, flaclec, bisexuality, feminism, fantasies of violence or fascination with the morbid, thoughts that curse God, thoughts of killing other people, incarceration, suicide, atheism, Islam, Hinduism, and Buddhism. In the USA it has been found that sexually dysfunctional people listen to rock music frequently. It was also found they have low self esteem, are underachievers, have dysfunctional relationships across the board, especially with parents, viewed pornography at an early age, frequently had been sexually molested, did not confess their sins in Roman Catholic Confession, frequently developed adult onset diabetes, were chronically victimized, failed to achieve middle class status, were atheists, relied on secular humanism to help them, were failed by countless mental health professionals throughout life, had abortions, used artificial birth control, were criminals or alcoholics, or dated criminals or alcoholics, or both.
3). Total life expectancy for the sexually deviant is 45 - 50 years.
4). Once a sin is committed the sinner bears the guilt until the sin is forgiven. If the sinner either doesn't know how to have his/her sins forgiven, refuses to confess, or denies he/she is committing sin, he/she bears the guilt for the sin.
5). The guilt for the sins of dead ancestors rests on the living through roots of ancient doom, extending up from the netherworld and resonating a cry for help from the damned, that someone among the living take responsibility for the sins of the dead, and confess these sins to Jesus Christ, asking forgiveness by The Power of His Precious Blood of Jesus for the the sins of the dead so they can come into God's Light.
6). The mutations on the DRD gene series are caused by the guilt of the sins of our dead ancestors mutating human DNA. This is verified by The Holy Bible: "The sins of the fathers will be passed on to the third and fourth generations of those who hate Me." People are being born in Satan's prison of sexual dysfunction.
7). Godless perversion is not an exercise of freedom. It is a sign of spiritual bondage. To break spiritual bondage sin must be confessed to a person qualified to forgive sin.
8). Roman Catholicism is the practice of becoming immortal by the principle maxim of sorcery: If you know an entity's name, and you take on its nature, you have access to its power. For Roman Catholics this translates to: If you know The Name Jesus Christ, and you take on His Nature you will be Immortal.
9). If anyone wants forgiveness, fall on your face before God and claim The Precious Blood of Jesus Christ to atone for your sin, and confess your sin, out loud, with your lips. Ask Jesus to please save you from eternity in everlasting fire.
10). I'm not trying to hurt anyone. There is nothing any of the people on this board can do to hurt me, so I'm not worried. I just want people to have eternal life, and not die so young.

Oh well, you are entitled to your opinion and it is good you can live by it successfully but as with everyone, I am sure you are not perfect and you would likely not admit to your own sins in this forum...good thing is though, your God will know them whether you acknowledge them or not. The interesting thing I have learned through life is those who take it upon themselves to point out all the shortcomings of others, not only don't see their own, but also don't see it when what they have done comes around to bite them in their own lives...I find it fascinating, but it is true, what goes around, comes around. What also never ceases to amaze me, is why do people such as yourself who have such strong beliefs come to forums such as these....what is your interest in being here if you are above all this decadence? Surely you fear for your moral soul being exposed to so much sin? Or could it be you sit there getting your jollies at what you read, then telling the rest of us off for being able to be honest about what makes us tick and deal with it?

Catalina

 

[WriterDom]

Total life expectancy for the sexually deviant is 45 - 50 years.

If this were math class I'd ask you to show your work.



I assume this is factoring in AIDS. In some African countries almost half the people have it.

Eventually we'll beat AIDS. And OPEC. It's just a matter of time.

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

7). Godless perversion is not an exercise of freedom. It is a sign of spiritual bondage. To break spiritual bondage sin must be confessed to a person qualified to forgive sin.

mmmmmn 'spiritual bondage' that sounds kinda hot . OMG confession play as well.

:swoon:

I think we have a 'keeper'

Just would like to take this opportunity to thank SwanSword personally for enhancing my evening

 

[CutieMouse]

I've read through some of this forum, and especially this post. I don't intend to change any minds. Nevertheless, people are entitled to the Truth. What anyone does with it is their business.

1). Adultery, even with consent of a spouse is still adultery, and people who violate this statute inevitably are struck down beyond repair when they least expect it.

... blalblahblah...religious arguments... blah blah blah...

10). I'm not trying to hurt anyone. There is nothing any of the people on this board can do to hurt me, so I'm not worried. I just want people to have eternal life, and not die so young.

Swansword, would you pretty please PLEASE post your interesting list in a thread all by itself, and Cat could we pretty pretty PRETTY please leave it up so those who wish to discuss this oh so interesting list, can? Not that I expect Swansword to reappear, as the mere ACT of being on/registering for/participating in a forum such as this (even in the name of God), has exposed him to things that have placed his Soul in immortal peril, but I don't want to overly hijack the OP's thread...

To the OP- communication (plus proff of D&D free status, and condoms) is the best thing I can think of to prepare yourself. I'm not a huge fan of multiple partners; I don't feel it's an automatic relationship killer, but I believe in order to increase the odds of it not being so, the relationship has to be beyond rock solid, to begin with- whichis best achieved through communication and mutual respect.

 

[callinectes]

We have done it, and it didn't destroy our relationship. We talked a lot before it, he was patient in explaining why he felt this was something he wanted to do, he was open about his own insecurities about it, he listened to my thoughts on safety (all aspects of safety, not just physical), he listened to the reasons why I didn't think it a great idea, we talked openly about the reasons it turned both of us on and the reasoins it turned us off, but in the end I obeyed and found it an interesting experience. One of the rules about it we have had to date is that he is there also, and that also applies in reverse if he is ever going to be with someone else. Saves the risk of untamed and dangerous suspicions creeping in when you least expect them.

In your case, it would never cross my mind to warn you about possible damage to your relationship because I know the issue would have been throughly discussed by you and Francisco. However, the very fact the OP posted this question indicates to me that sort of discussion has not and probably will not take place. Hence my warning. At any rate, I hope your points are not lost on the OP and she will re-visit this with her husband.

 

[W_MA_DWM]

my husband is going share me,What should i expect or do

Firstly, catalina_francisco has made some very good points. Safety first in all areas is paramount! Not only is disease of major concern, but there are some very dangerous men in the world. So, pick your partners wisely. I'd recommend that you insist on a doctor's certificate from them proving that they are totally free of any STDs.

Don't rush into anything with anyone. Get to know the man first so that all three of you will feel comfortable together and you both can be assured he is safe to be with in all areas.

My second wife and I had agreed on an open marriage from the beginning. Frankly, I was more interested in her having sex with other men than I was in having other women myself. There are a lot of men that find it most thrilling to have their wives/girlfriends with other men. Maybe your husband feels the same way.

My wife did take advantage of the sexual freedom she had and so did I. It was exciting! I wish we had done it much more. I can't think of a single time that our extra curricular play had any detrimental affect on our marriage. We did divorce, but that was due to other things that had no connection with our sex lives at all.

Questions:

How old are you and your husband?

How long have you been married?

It seems that long-time married couples get into this kind of lifestyle to add fuel to the fire of diminishing passions. Is that the case for both of you?

 

[W_MA_DWM]

OMG confession play as well.

Geez! That sounds like a very interesting new thread. Anyone interested?

 

[Kajira Callista]

I've read through some of this forum, and especially this post. I don't intend to change any minds. Nevertheless, people are entitled to the Truth. What anyone does with it is their business.

1). Adultery, even with consent of a spouse is still adultery, and people who violate this statute inevitably are struck down beyond repair when they least expect it.
2). Human self degradation is the road to poverty. People who degrade themselves intentionally are called sloths. Sloth is accompanied by a genetic mutation on the DRD gene series in human DNA. The genetic mutations of the DRD gene series are seen with all self degradation, masturbation, sodomy, fornication, drug addiction, mood disorders, attention deficit disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder, pornography, lust, indecent exposure, excessive risk taking, satanism, use of card decks to gamble or predict the future, compulsive gambling, homosexual thoughts, bestiality, homicide, rape, abortion, genocide, terrorism, greed, cannibalism, child molestation, robbery, soelancia, galrax, folshiry, hindery, flaclec, bisexuality, feminism, fantasies of violence or fascination with the morbid, thoughts that curse God, thoughts of killing other people, incarceration, suicide, atheism, Islam, Hinduism, and Buddhism. In the USA it has been found that sexually dysfunctional people listen to rock music frequently. It was also found they have low self esteem, are underachievers, have dysfunctional relationships across the board, especially with parents, viewed pornography at an early age, frequently had been sexually molested, did not confess their sins in Roman Catholic Confession, frequently developed adult onset diabetes, were chronically victimized, failed to achieve middle class status, were atheists, relied on secular humanism to help them, were failed by countless mental health professionals throughout life, had abortions, used artificial birth control, were criminals or alcoholics, or dated criminals or alcoholics, or both.
3). Total life expectancy for the sexually deviant is 45 - 50 years.
4). Once a sin is committed the sinner bears the guilt until the sin is forgiven. If the sinner either doesn't know how to have his/her sins forgiven, refuses to confess, or denies he/she is committing sin, he/she bears the guilt for the sin.
5). The guilt for the sins of dead ancestors rests on the living through roots of ancient doom, extending up from the netherworld and resonating a cry for help from the damned, that someone among the living take responsibility for the sins of the dead, and confess these sins to Jesus Christ, asking forgiveness by The Power of His Precious Blood of Jesus for the the sins of the dead so they can come into God's Light.
6). The mutations on the DRD gene series are caused by the guilt of the sins of our dead ancestors mutating human DNA. This is verified by The Holy Bible: "The sins of the fathers will be passed on to the third and fourth generations of those who hate Me." People are being born in Satan's prison of sexual dysfunction.
7). Godless perversion is not an exercise of freedom. It is a sign of spiritual bondage. To break spiritual bondage sin must be confessed to a person qualified to forgive sin.
8). Roman Catholicism is the practice of becoming immortal by the principle maxim of sorcery: If you know an entity's name, and you take on its nature, you have access to its power. For Roman Catholics this translates to: If you know The Name Jesus Christ, and you take on His Nature you will be Immortal.
9). If anyone wants forgiveness, fall on your face before God and claim The Precious Blood of Jesus Christ to atone for your sin, and confess your sin, out loud, with your lips. Ask Jesus to please save you from eternity in everlasting fire.
10). I'm not trying to hurt anyone. There is nothing any of the people on this board can do to hurt me, so I'm not worried. I just want people to have eternal life, and not die so young.

Sad thing about this post is that most of what is said here is true, unfortunately it was given from the posters perspective (which is mildly warped) and not the church.

 

[MasterPhoenix]

Move on... Nothing to see here...

(The original post at this location was moved by me to the appropriate thread)

 

[MasterPhoenix]

To the OP,

The best thing to do is to communicate with your Master as to your concerns and such before it happens. Also ask him to communicate what is to be expected.

Sharing rose is not something that I am really planning on, as I don't know how comfortable I would be about it... but I am one to never say never, because IF at some point there is a trusted enough friend, who knows...

I hope it works out well for you, and sorry to have to do the troll slapping on your thread...

 

[trojan_man_co]

mmmmmn 'spiritual bondage' that sounds kinda hot . OMG confession play as well.

:swoon:

I think we have a 'keeper'

Just would like to take this opportunity to thank SwanSword personally for enhancing my evening

wow i wouldnt even know where to begin but im down... spiritual bondage mmm mmm

gigidy gigidy gigidy AALLLL RIGHHHTTTTT


i can see the confession play perfectly... i absolve you for your past sins... and what sins your about to do *porn music* come here and pray.. on your knees... ooohhhh yeaaaa...