My Girlfriend is a Lesbian

[The Gimp]

I met this girl at work, exchanged smiles and jokes for six months or so before I worked up the courage to ask her out. On our first date she told me that she was a lesbian. After we cleared that roadblock it turned into the most satisfying date I've ever had. We spent all night talking about George Michael, the Powerpuff Girls, In & Out and the Birdcage. Now my biggest problem is that my two best friends are my new girlfriend and her girlfriend. How the hell am I supposed to find another person that is just like her only she's not into girls too?

I'm gonna hang out with them for a while, in a couple of weeks we're going to Kings Island amusement park, but in the end I need to be with someone who at least has the ability to fall in love with someone like me. Suggestions?

 

[Siren]

turn gay

 

[metal_minx]

I met this girl at work, exchanged smiles and jokes for six months or so before I worked up the courage to ask her out. On our first date she told me that she was a lesbian. After we cleared that roadblock it turned into the most satisfying date I've ever had. We spent all night talking about George Michael, the Powerpuff Girls, In & Out and the Birdcage. Now my biggest problem is that my two best friends are my new girlfriend and her girlfriend. How the hell am I supposed to find another person that is just like her only she's not into girls too?

I'm gonna hang out with them for a while, in a couple of weeks we're going to Kings Island amusement park, but in the end I need to be with someone who at least has the ability to fall in love with someone like me. Suggestions?

We spent all night talking about George Michael, the Powerpuff Girls, In & Out and the Birdcage
and you're not gay?

 

[syvm]

LMAO

<<make it a foursome.>>

Oh man, okay well have you tried clubs, or other social events?

 

[seXieleXie]

if she is a lesbian then is isn't your girlfriend, she is your friend.

 

[sexy-girl]

if she is a lesbian then is isn't your girlfriend, she is your friend.

i agree ... calling her your girlfriend or expecting things might change is a way to lose her as a friend ... i've got male friends and i like hanging out with them sometimes but i wouldnt want them to say i was dating them if i did anything with them

 

[DannyBoyUK]

When I first saw the thread title. I was expecting something more abusive - glad to see I was wrong.


I agree with s-g on this one - don't throw out the baby with the bathwater.

The title also made me think back about ten years when the person I thought was going to become my steady girlfriend was not only lesbian but on parole for assault and deception, a mother of four and a heroin dealer.

Ever think you might have had a lucky escape ?

<s>

 

[markb325]

if she is a lesbian then is isn't your girlfriend, she is your friend.

Just a point of logic. She is his friend and a girl. Hence Girl Friend.

 

[sexy-girl]

Just a point of logic. She is his friend and a girl. Hence Girl Friend.

do you call your male friends boyfriends ?

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

I may get flamed by the Lesbians here, but if she is a lesbian, why did she go out on a romantic date with you? She isn't bisexual? I am not saying all lesbians, or even any of them are looking to be converted to bisexuality, but it seems to me that if she were lesbian she wouldn't be going out on dates with guys. Going out to have fun sure, but dates infer a romantic possiblity. Of course you could have meant "date" in another context, but you also refer to her as your girlfriend. Hav you been doing anything beyond treating her as a close friend, such as kissing or making out at all?

Is she your girlfriend or a friend that is a girl?

 

[Guest]

Wow!!! This pickle sure is Spicy!!!

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

yaya idiot wrote:

This person is on your Ignore List. To view this post click [here]

"This person is on your Ignore List. To view this post click [here]"
"This person is on your Ignore List. To view this post click [here]"

Don't you ever get tired of always writing the same thing in every post?

Polly want a cracker? Sheesh!

 

[markb325]

do you call your male friends boyfriends ?

Good point but that was actually brought up to me some years ago.

If you think about it though it does boil down to that.

er... Never Mind my logic side is trying to take over this morning.

 

[seXieleXie]

Hence Girl Friend.

semantically, you have a point but i was responding to the *content* of his post. obviously he was using the moniker girlfriend to indicate a more-than-friends relationship.

 

[sexy-girl]

I may get flamed by the Lesbians here, but if she is a lesbian, why did she go out on a romantic date with you? She isn't bisexual? I am not saying all lesbians, or even any of them are looking to be converted to bisexuality, but it seems to me that if she were lesbian she wouldn't be going out on dates with guys. Going out to have fun sure, but dates infer a romantic possiblity. Of course you could have meant "date" in another context, but you also refer to her as your girlfriend. Hav you been doing anything beyond treating her as a close friend, such as kissing or making out at all?

Is she your girlfriend or a friend that is a girl?

i think gimp called it a date perhaps a similar faux pas (i love using that word) as calling her his girlfriend

all i see is a woman that became good friends with gimp and accepted an invitation to hang out together ... not wanting to give any false hopes or signals she made it clear she was a lesbian

i dont reveal to every man i meet that im a lesbian right away ... i think its nice that gimp can be friends with this woman not all guys can handle being friends with a lesbian

 

[Lord]

well if shes a lesbian and you literally asked her out on a date wouldnt she have said no? i mean shes not into guys or maybe she would have said something else?

 

[Chuckus]

Re: turn gay

make it a foursome.

Rock on Siren, make it a foursome and then go play 18 holes!

 

[sexy-girl]

well if shes a lesbian and you literally asked her out on a date wouldnt she have said no? i mean shes not into guys or maybe she would have said something else?

arent lesbians allowed male friends

 

[Chuckus]

arent lesbians allowed male friends

I am straight and have a few lickalotofpusses for friends (btw that is a term of endearment from me to lesbians).

 

[SlowHand89]

I've gone out on dates with lesbians before. A date doesn't have to sexual. We have friendships and in order ot keep in touch, we go out on dates. Sometimes their gf will come along, sometimes not. Sometimes I'll bring her where I like to go, somethimes she'll bring me to someplace she likes. It's always alot of fun and I think we are really comfortable because we ar so chill, no games being played.


But soon I'm going to make my move. lol

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

i think gimp called it a date perhaps a similar faux pas (i love using that word) as calling her his girlfriend all i see is a woman that became good friends with gimp and accepted an invitation to hang out together ... not wanting to give any false hopes or signals she made it clear she was a lesbian

I don't think so - the context is just too much for a coincidence, but then only Gimp can really answer the question. Obviously, the words he used and the context he used them in, especially in the title of the thread, would lead someone to believe that he actually felt it was a date and that she is his "girlfriend" in a romantic context. That was why I (and others) were/are asking him to give more info and to clear it up for us.

i dont reveal to every man i meet that im a lesbian right away ... i think its nice that gimp can be friends with this woman not all guys can handle being friends with a lesbian

And that is fine - I have friends/acquaintances of both genders that are gay, and I go do stuff with them, but I call them my friends, not my boyfriend or my girlfriend, and I don't call them dates.

Young girls sometimes call other girls their girlfriends but they don't mean romantic girlfriends, but boys almost never use those words - boyfriend, girlfriend, and date, especially not together - without some romantic context.

In my mind, the issue is not one of whether hetero/gay/bi males can be friends with hetero/gay/bi females, we all know that is true, it is just what is the case here? Is he looking at this as a romantic relationship/date or not? Is she?

Gimp could clear it all up for us, but I suspect he is rather enjoying all the confusion he created.

 

[Siren]

hahaha or bridge eh Chuckie?

 

[The Gimp]

Have you been doing anything beyond treating her as a close friend, such as kissing or making out at all?

This situation is so twisted that I'd likley be kicked off of the Jerry Springer show. When I first asked her out I didn't know that she was a lesbian but she told me and it was still cool, we seemed to hit if off. Our second 'date' was at my place, where and her girlfriend came over to my place for beer and pizza. While her girlfriend was in the next room checking her email I was told how awesome I am and got this incredible massage. On their way out while lesbian #2 wasn't looking #1 told me that she loved me and slipped me just a bit of tongue.

The day after she told me that she loved me she called and told me that she was breaking up with her girlfriend. The day after I was told that they were breaking up I was told that she has a new girlfriend that lives out of state.

On a sidenote out of curiosity I've been occasionally hanging out at a local gay bar with the girls. It's actually a pretty cool place, it just so happens that they play all of my favorite music(Gerorge Michael, Gloria Gaynor, Ricky Martin, etc) On my first trip to the bar this shemale was flirting with me and before I knew it he was nibbling on my neck and sticking his tongue down my throat. I figured what the hell, when in Rome do as the Romans do I've had several other guys ask me stuff like top or bottom
wanna go back to my place
and ever get your rocks off

If I can bring myself to turn down offers like that then I know I must be straight. I only wish I could find a straight bar where the girls liked me half as much.