My GF wants to be a dom phone sex girl

[catchawave62]

Hey Gang! Need some advice... my girlfriend is new to the BDSM scene, but wants to explore being a dominatrix over the phone and provide this service to prospective subs out in phone sex land. Any ideas on how she can get started learning more about the lifestyle?

 

[Stella_Omega]

Oh for fuck's sake and all the little fishes.

You have two elements here; 1) "new to the scene"

and 2) wants to be a phone sex girl.

If she isn't already doing phone sex, that's one big learning curve right there, let alone knowing how to satisfy dudes with a domme fetish and get them coming back for more.

 

[BiBunny]

Femdom phone sex has jack fucking shit to do with "the lifestyle."

 

[caged_doll]

Femdom phone sex has jack fucking shit to do with "the lifestyle."

^^ This.

I do phone sex for a job. I almost think to most of these guys that call in Domme is just another preference...like asking to talk to a girl with huge tits. They are already jacking off by the time they get to hear your voice and you don't need to do much and they're done.

Learning about cliched male fantasies would be in my opinion a lot more useful than understanding the lifestyle if being a phone femdom is her only goal in terms of why she wants to learn about D/s.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

And turn the freaking bold off, dood. We're not hard of seeing.

 

[Que]

And turn the freaking bold off, dood. We're not hard of seeing.

Always enjoy your turn of phrase.

 

[subwannabe]

You really shouldn't be on this site until you're 18.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Oh for fuck's sake and all the little fishes.

You have two elements here; 1) "new to the scene"

and 2) wants to be a phone sex girl.

If she isn't already doing phone sex, that's one big learning curve right there, let alone knowing how to satisfy dudes with a domme fetish and get them coming back for more.

Ditto!!

Catalina

 

[bad_dave]

So is it his girlfriend or his wife of 5 years?

 

[catchawave62]

So sorry for the bold.... my mistake.

 

[catchawave62]

It's girlfriend not wife, dude.

 

[catchawave62]

Ok, my goodness, never thought I would be attacked so viciously here. The haters sure came out on this post. She is looking purely to learn more about it so she can explore whether or not she wants to do the whole phone sex thing. Its NOT about becoming the lifestyle, ....

 

[catchawave62]

And Sir Winston, glad to see you know how to spell.... DOOD....

 

[catchawave62]

Stella.... you are correct. I totally agree with you. It's not about the lifestyle, it's about learning enough about it so the people calling her are convinced she knows what she's talking about. If no one has any ideas, that's quite alright as well. We just thought it might be a nice place to start by asking those who may be in "the know." Thank you.

 

[caged_doll]

Advice they will give you when you start doing phone sex is to read...one of the sites they say to read is literotica.com. Find highly rated female domination stories there. Just keep in mind that phone sex is fantasy so I think it is good advice to keep in mind what is typically thought of when a person thinks of female dominants versus being creative or somewhat realistic. So she is always wearing thigh high patent leather heeled boots, etc.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Stella.... you are correct. I totally agree with you. It's not about the lifestyle, it's about learning enough about it so the people calling her are convinced she knows what she's talking about. If no one has any ideas, that's quite alright as well. We just thought it might be a nice place to start by asking those who may be in "the know." Thank you.

yeah, see-- that turns out to be not so nice for those who are "in the know."

"Hey man, you've got these shitty needs that alienate you from half of your friends and all of your family, and you've figured out how to live with them, so you don't mind teaching my girlfriend how to pretend to understand so she can be a phone whore, do you?"

What the actual fuck.

Lie next time dude, have some tact. Pretend you aren't wanting to monetise.

basically, though, the thing she needs to know about phone sex is that you have to keep the customer satisfied, which means you don't necessarily have much choice if the customer gets scumbaggy-- not if you want to make the money. Prostitution over the phone is less STD-ridden than streetwalking but it's still prostitution. I have had several freinds come to grief through not understanding that. I'm NOT saying don't do it, I'm saying make sure you have the intestinal fortitude.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

It's girlfriend not wife, dude.

Oh, really?

Yesterday, 08:29 PM
My GF wants to be a dom phone sex girl
Posted By catchawave62

Hey Gang! Need some advice... my girlfriend is new to the BDSM scene...
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01-08-2010, 06:22 PM
My wife wants to explore her bi-sexuality
Posted By catchawave62

Please help!!! My wife of 5 years the other night confessed as to why ...
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So... as bad_dave asked: Is it your girlfriend or your wife of five years that you're writing about? Perhaps you have one of each? If so, do they know about one another? Should we ask them? Maybe you divorced your wife of five years who apparently couldn't find satisfaction in your bed, and found a new, more gullible girlfriend?

And Sir Winston, glad to see you know how to spell.... DOOD....

I know how to spell words you can't pronounce or define - and that's just in English. "Dood" was used in a colloquial sense, for emphasis.

 

[Noor]

Oh, really?

Yesterday, 08:29 PM
My GF wants to be a dom phone sex girl
Posted By catchawave62

Hey Gang! Need some advice... my girlfriend is new to the BDSM scene...
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blah blah blah

01-08-2010, 06:22 PM
My wife wants to explore her bi-sexuality
Posted By catchawave62

Please help!!! My wife of 5 years the other night confessed as to why ...
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blah blah blah

So... as bad_dave asked: Is it your girlfriend or your wife of five years that you're writing about? Perhaps you have one of each? If so, do they know about one another? Should we ask them? Maybe you divorced your wife of five years who apparently couldn't find satisfaction in your bed, and found a new, more gullible girlfriend?

I know how to spell words you can't pronounce or define - and that's just in English. "Dood" was used in a colloquial sense, for emphasis.

I thought he just had one of each and he wanted to pimp out the GF.

 

[serpentwrap]

Intestinal Fortitude! I love this phrase. Stella, with your permission, may I borrow this phrase, please. Thats so apt for so many situations. Intestinal fortitude, indeed!

 

[Noor]

Intestinal Fortitude! I love this phrase. Stella, with your permission, may I borrow this phrase, please. Thats so apt for so many situations. Intestinal fortitude, indeed!

Stella is SO cool, if I ever go over to the dark side I am going straight for her..

I suppose I could change my name from Noor to Noir...

 

[serpentwrap]

Stella is SO cool, if I ever go over to the dark side I am going straight for her..

I suppose I could change my name from Noor to Noir...

As a name Noir would be quite cool, maybe Femme Noir? But why do you have to go over to the dark side to gun for Stella, just wondering...

 

[Noor]

As a name Noir would be quite cool, maybe Femme Noir? But why do you have to go over to the dark side to gun for Stella, just wondering...

Because I am the light, never wear black, and more likely to be Domme Noir!

 

[serpentwrap]

Hmmmm. Domme Noir.... Sounds scary a bit, but I guess that would be the idea...

 

[Netzach]

Ahem.

I am a phone ho.

I manage to still do things more or less "my way" I am praised for "real" "ever-changing" and "unique"

And I still make $$$.

Bottom line, I'm pretty crap as an actress. I see it more as a standup act than a role.

I suggest that she figure out what the fuck actually turns her on and start there rather than going where she thinks the money is.

For me the money is in femdom, because I am. The money in finding a niche that you can be excited about and rocking it. It is not in the niche but in the woman.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Intestinal Fortitude! I love this phrase. Stella, with your permission, may I borrow this phrase, please. Thats so apt for so many situations. Intestinal fortitude, indeed!

I am pretty sure I picked it up from Dorothy Sawyers, honestly.

Stella is SO cool, if I ever go over to the dark side I am going straight for her..

I suppose I could change my name from Noor to Noir...

I suggest that she figure out what the fuck actually turns her on and start there rather than going where she thinks the money is.

This-- from the woman who knows.