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My fellow ladies of Lit, can I get your opinion?
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DemianBiros
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Dearheart,about 15 years ago was in a relationship with a woman 15 years my junior.It was hot,it was fun,but there were real cultural difference,and it fell apart after 3 years. I don't think it would relly last for you,but if you do it just for fun,GO FOR IT!
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My previous boss, who is also a close friend, is married to a man 18 years her senior. I think she's 46 now, which would make him 64 or so. They've been married for maybe 5 or 6 years, but they've been together much longer - I want to say around 12-14 years or so. They actually met at work, and he was her boss early on. It was only later when she had very much moved on career-wise that they began to date.
Anyway, I've had a few encounters with much older men (I'm 39). I used to often talk to her about their relationship, as I wondered how she felt about it and dealt with it. My biggest fear in that scenario would actually be really falling deeply in love with that person and the possibility of not having as much time on this earth with them as I might have with someone more in my age range. Losing them too quickly, if you will.
One night when we were at dinner, she admitted she thought about the same thing early on in their relationship. But then she considered the alternative: NOT having him in her life at all. She decided that it was far preferable for her to have a relationship with him, to love him and be with him, for however long they have, rather than break it off based on others' perceptions, her own fear, etc. The fact is none of us know when our time's going to be up -- she could just as well pass away before him -- and she wanted to enjoy all the time she could with him. Live for the moment, eh?
They have a really great relationship. Their families are both fine with it, no issues. Who knows how it will continue to progress as they both age (him in particular), but I do know that she's immensely happy.
She was pretty influential in my decision to pursue the relationship I'm currently in, with a man 20 yrs older. Honestly, it's been my experience that men who are a bit older have a maturity that's just more attractive to me (they're over all the bullshit that a lot of younger men still seem to be mired in), and the sex is better, actually. 
There is something to be said for life experience.
I'm not saying it's not without its challenges, but I think it just depends more on the people. It's great for some, for others it may not work. To each his/her own!
Anyway, I've had a few encounters with much older men (I'm 39). I used to often talk to her about their relationship, as I wondered how she felt about it and dealt with it. My biggest fear in that scenario would actually be really falling deeply in love with that person and the possibility of not having as much time on this earth with them as I might have with someone more in my age range. Losing them too quickly, if you will.
One night when we were at dinner, she admitted she thought about the same thing early on in their relationship. But then she considered the alternative: NOT having him in her life at all. She decided that it was far preferable for her to have a relationship with him, to love him and be with him, for however long they have, rather than break it off based on others' perceptions, her own fear, etc. The fact is none of us know when our time's going to be up -- she could just as well pass away before him -- and she wanted to enjoy all the time she could with him. Live for the moment, eh?
They have a really great relationship. Their families are both fine with it, no issues. Who knows how it will continue to progress as they both age (him in particular), but I do know that she's immensely happy.
She was pretty influential in my decision to pursue the relationship I'm currently in, with a man 20 yrs older. Honestly, it's been my experience that men who are a bit older have a maturity that's just more attractive to me (they're over all the bullshit that a lot of younger men still seem to be mired in
), and the sex is better, actually. There is something to be said for life experience.I'm not saying it's not without its challenges, but I think it just depends more on the people. It's great for some, for others it may not work. To each his/her own!
Do you just want to have fun with him or an actual relationship? The "differences" that might come up because of the age difference you'd probably already be aware of if you got to know him more past seeing him at family gatherings or whatever.
I kind of have an opposite almost situation. I hit it off with a guy who I thought was only a few years younger than me. I found out a few months later he's actually 11 years younger. I tried ignoring it at first but the more I talked to him and the more things I read that he's posted online, the more the age difference came out. Just saying, get to know all the aspects of his personality first.
25 years difference
my husband and i are 25 years apart. when we got together i was only 22 and he was my parents age. actually he was almost a whole year older than my mother. i had some friends totally horrified about it and some friends didnt care at all. my parents were freaked out. they told me to leave him. of course i didnt. now we dont have any problems at all. i never have seen anyone look weird at us at all. well at least i havent noticed. i have never felt weird about it. as to how i handled my family and friends. well i told them you can either accept it and have me in your life or dont and i will never speak to you again. if you care for the guy and could possibly have a future with him then fuck whatever someone else thinks and follow your heart. i hope this helped you.
my husband and i are 25 years apart. when we got together i was only 22 and he was my parents age. actually he was almost a whole year older than my mother. i had some friends totally horrified about it and some friends didnt care at all. my parents were freaked out. they told me to leave him. of course i didnt. now we dont have any problems at all. i never have seen anyone look weird at us at all. well at least i havent noticed. i have never felt weird about it. as to how i handled my family and friends. well i told them you can either accept it and have me in your life or dont and i will never speak to you again. if you care for the guy and could possibly have a future with him then fuck whatever someone else thinks and follow your heart. i hope this helped you.
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And even if it doesn't work out the way you hoped? At least you gave it a shot.
Fuck the naysayers, the stares, the commentary from the (usually) jealous or overly conscious people that have nothing better to talk about. Do what *you* want.
I've been involved with more than a few women much younger than myself. The shortest was with a woman with the largest age gap, but I hold no ill will towards her. It was fun and I did get to meet some of her family. Some things just... don't work. Can't blame me for trying, though.
MacGuffinn
Fuck the naysayers, the stares, the commentary from the (usually) jealous or overly conscious people that have nothing better to talk about. Do what *you* want.
I've been involved with more than a few women much younger than myself. The shortest was with a woman with the largest age gap, but I hold no ill will towards her. It was fun and I did get to meet some of her family. Some things just... don't work. Can't blame me for trying, though.
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Rosiegirl19
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Pandora73, Sexplz and SadieMe thank you ladies for sharing!
That pep talk may just have solidified my resolve completely
That pep talk may just have solidified my resolve completely
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this is all down to the individuals surely ?? I personally would enjoy the sex, what older man wouldnt lol, but aside from that I would feel awkward, people pointing, stares ...comments like christ hes old enough to be her dad .....and thats just my family lol !!
Seriously though itd be fun in the bedroom, bathroom, kitchen, table, floor etc etc but if the gap is that far apart in ages is there common ground to have interests in common ??
Would he feel that he is holding her back, in latter years does he or she want the responsibility of looking after the other, when you are young enough it may work, but as said in the latter years ?? ...........
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Seriously though itd be fun in the bedroom, bathroom, kitchen, table, floor etc etc but if the gap is that far apart in ages is there common ground to have interests in common ??
Would he feel that he is holding her back, in latter years does he or she want the responsibility of looking after the other, when you are young enough it may work, but as said in the latter years ?? ...........
T xxxx
