my father decided not to spend thanksgiving with me.

[HARDKOREBJ]

i had thanks giving at home by my self.

 

[batter]

sorry to hear it.

i can sympathize with you as i spent Christmas by myself one year after the ex and i split up. i had just found a basement apartment dec.1, and it was not a good feeling at all.

just remember there are caring people here on the BB. it may not be the same, but we are never alone.

and Happy Thanksgiving!

 

[notenufsx4me]

i wish my dad was still alive to spent thanksgiving with us, but his time ran out several years ago.

i spent some extra time with my mom today (she just turned eighty.)

remember as long as you have your higher power you are Never alone.


peace be with you.

 

[Never]

I'm certain I'd sympathize more with you if I had ever spent one Thanksgiving with my father.

 

[Todd]

I'm certain I'd sympathize more with you if I had ever spent one Thanksgiving with my father.

Same here.

Bonus Factor I haven't had to spend the last 7 years holidays with any of my family or thier significant others, thats proof of a higher power it just has to be.

 

[u2slow13]

I'm certain I'd sympathize more with you if I had ever spent one Thanksgiving with my father.

never ever Never??

 

[HARDKOREBJ]

NEVER

i thought i would get to meet my father after all these years.he refused.just isn`t right.im still wondering why he deserted me.

 

[IA951]

i had thanks giving at home by my self.

Don't worry man.
If he's the bastard my old man was, your better off.
kick back and pop a cold one man.
Enjoy your solitude.

 

[sigh]

i'm alone this holiday too...but with a smile on my face...i'll see the family this weekend, but for now i have to work

*steadily working my way through a bottle of wine...grinning like a fool*

 

[freakygirl]

Re: NEVER

i thought i would get to meet my father after all these years.he refused.just isn`t right.im still wondering why he deserted me.

Exactly how old were you when your father left?

 

[HARDKOREBJ]

FREAKYGIRL

i was to young to remember him.he was a sot and a mean man.
i was lucky when he left.he used to hit me what my mom said.i had a grandmother who loved me.she is in a nursing home.i wish i could go see her.it just to far away.

 

[SweetCherry]

Re: NEVER

i thought i would get to meet my father after all these years.he refused.just isn`t right.im still wondering why he deserted me.

My father is a royal bastard as well. I've never seen or spoke to him. He took off when I was about 6 months old or so, leaving my mother to care for me and my older sister and brother. He skipped the state and when he was finally found, he fought tooth and nail trying to avoid my mother getting $17 a month for each of us kids.. The day I turned 17, he trieds to petition the courts, saying I was really 18 and had no right to his money. The asshole didn't even have the courtesy to show up at his own father's funeral. So, you see, sometimes, a father isnt worth knowing. Mine has made me feel like shit enough in my own 28 years that I have no desire to know him.

I'm lucky......my father was an asshole, but my daddy is the best man I've ever known. As the saying goes, any man can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a dad.

 

[Guest]

HARDKOREBJ,

I share in your sadness about your dad not coming to spend Thanksgiving with you. The holidays are always a very difficult time when you can't spend time with those you love and care about. But, what you had were the memories inside your mind of your dad and some of us can sometimes find comfort surrounding ourselves with those thoughts.

As batter posted, you do have your friends here to help cheer you up and make you laugh and lift your spirits. We are always here for you and for anyone who needs someone to share something with.

Please make the best of what you have and smile and laugh as much as you can. It's always good for the heart and soul.

 

[lobito]

Re: FREAKYGIRL

i was to young to remember him.he was a sot and a mean man.
i was lucky when he left.he used to hit me what my mom said.i had a grandmother who loved me.she is in a nursing home.i wish i could go see her.it just to far away.

I'll probably get flamed for this, but hey, what the hell...

HK,
As always if you are bizarrely telling us the truth, then that's too bad that you life was that way, BUT, if you're doing the whole worn out attention getter thing again, then you just got called out again.

 

[Saturn Return]

wondering...

i was to young to remember him.he was a sot and a mean man.
i was lucky when he left.he used to hit me what my mom said.i had a grandmother who loved me.she is in a nursing home.i wish i could go see her.it just to far away.

Also posted by HARDKOREBJ
i thought i would get to meet my father after all these years.he refused.just isn`t right.im still wondering why he deserted me.

And you are wondering why he deserted you yesterday?
People don't always change with space and time..

And you know..he wasn't acting like your father when you were little, and you don't necessarily need a father(well, not his kind..anyway)now.

He isn't your friend, and he isn't your father..

Stop wondering why a guy like him is still acting out his own selfish needs towards you.

Harsh..I know when the World hands you these cards to play.

But really..it's who you *become* regardless -maybe even in spite- of your past and present pain.


You are in control of how the World sees you BJ..
Only you can heal yourself.
Make yourself feel whole.

Dig?

 

[BlondGirl]

Gee. BJ, your stories aren't quite jiving again.

my father decided not to spend thanksgiving with me.

and

i was to young to remember him.he was a sot and a mean man.
i was lucky when he left.

BJ,
It is really hard for me to give a flying shit about this particular attention-getting-scheme.
Last year, my dad was diagnosed with metastatic cancer directly caused by his many years of smoking. His 3 daughters, who have always been available even though his has made us well aware that we are all severe disappointments to him. (It is probably just our vaginas that are so disappointing. We all know how useful a penis is for supporting a family or contributing to society, right?)
I was the one prepared to move back home and disrupt my entire life and my son's life to take care of my dad. I had made the arrangements at work and had the benefits availble to do this without it hurting me too much financially. During this time, I spent maybe a couple grand on the trips up, calls, and other needs. (My time off would have been paid for by my volumes of sick-days if my dad had been willing to have a piece of paper signed by his oncologist that I was there. That was another $1500.)
(BTW--my sisters were also doing their best to be supportive and such.)
My "dear sweet" dad told me, after all this, that he wanted nothing to do with me ever again. He never wanted another phone call or letter or card or anything except maybe a birthday card. I asked him to repeat exactly what he had stated and ask questions to make good and sure that he was speaking clearly and rationally and that this was truly his wish and not just something evil said in a fit of anger. It was very clear. He wished me dead and to him I now am.
Now he goes around my hometown and bitches to everyone about how ungrateful and disrespectful I am since I don't bother to call or see him.

So, BJ--your little made up stories don't mean shit. If you want attention, get your ass out of your house and do something worthwhile. Go to college. Get a job or a 2nd job. Volunteer for some charity. Take a road trip. Hell, go to Vail CO and get a winter job at one of the local businesses so that you can have a condo for the season and ski your heart out.
Go get yourself a life. This bullshit here is completely bizarre.

If I could do it, as a single, impoverished, uneducated, and unsupported young mother--then you sure as hell have no excuse.

 

[HARDKOREBJ]

im just trying to make some friends.he lives in texas.he desided to go down to georgia with some drinking buddies of his.blonde girl i thought you hated me.the only fun i have when im working or doing my bike rides.my sister is up north.she works all the time.i tried to get into college.i couln`t pass the test.i got a job.i been there ever since.
i just make it from week to week on my pay.im just a simple country boy.

 

[BlondGirl]

i tried to get into college.i couln`t pass the test.i got a job..

What test? Sounds like bullshit to me.
Let me introduce you to the world of computing. HYou can take classes right here--while in your underwear. I looked long and hard at some from BYU for me and my son. I have also looked at some from Texas Tech.

To get into a junior college, you do not have to pass any test. I never took any SAT or ACT. I just went. In my state, you now have to TAKE a test after a certain number of hours credit, but that is used for standardized placement. If you don't do well on a part, you take remedial classes. Like I did. (You don't have to "pass" this test.)

There are also TV classes. Here, they are shown on the local PBS channel. I took US history that way. You'd be amazed at how mind-expanding sich a simple thing as a class is. One or two at a time is what it takes to eventually get somewhere. Many of the people I went to school with did not know what they wanted to do, but they did know that they needed their "basic" classes out of the way first so they just tackled them and worried about the degree plan later. EVERY major requires English and history and algebra and government and phych.

Now, for the question from me to you.
What college did you take this infamous "test" at and what was the test called?

(I bet he will ignore this since he is full of shit anyway. Anyone wanna take bets?)

 

[lobito]

im just trying to make some friends.he lives in texas.he desided to go down to georgia with some drinking buddies of his.blonde girl i thought you hated me.the only fun i have when im working or doing my bike rides.my sister is up north.she works all the time.i tried to get into college.i couln`t pass the test.i got a job.i been there ever since.
i just make it from week to week on my pay.im just a simple country boy.

I may be wrong, but aren't you the same person that bitches about how dangerous your job is to your health? AND you fucking have FUN doing it?

WOW!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[morninggirl5]

I may be wrong, but aren't you the same person that bitches about how dangerous your job is to your health? AND you fucking have FUN doing it?

WOW!!!!!!!!!!!!

Yes, lobito, and he's the same person who said he'd been working since he was 12. Wonder how a genius that could finish high school at 12 couldn't get into college.

Damn search isn't working, but I distinctly remember him saying in another thread that he was better off without his father.

Lobito, you are cordially invited to attend our meeting to deal with our frustration with HKBJ. Check with IdaGosipLady to find out where and when.

 

[HARDKOREBJ]

the university of tenn.i took my sat`s.
i should have tried a junior college.
i never really thought about tv classes
ok sweety

 

[Saturn Return]

To be a compassionate person..one has to assume that a person as sad as BJ is at least saying all of this for some sort of purpose.

Whether what he says is true, partial truths…or all made up from his head.

Still makes me wonder what kind of help he is looking for.
Yeah..Literotica should not be treated as a free therapy session…

But BJ says things like “I don’t want to live.”

If you are saying this..
In truth or for sad..negative attention.
Either way, you need clinical help.

Seriously.

 

[lobito]

the university of tenn.i took my sat`s.
i should have tried a junior college.
i never really thought about tv classes
ok sweety

WHOA!!!! NOW you're a fucking transvestite? We'll that's cool, I'll mark that off the list of possible threads you can come up with te entertain people with.

By the way HK, since I wasn't here yesterday to do this, I'd like to thanks you of the many MANY laughs you've provided me with since I came to Lit. It's the kind of PRICELESS entertainment my MasterCard just can't give me.

Oh, and Saturn, I'm sorry to tell you this, but our little bj doesn't take advice, even when he asks for it.

Lobito, (not Labito, simple country boy)

 

[Saturn Return]

Yeah..

This actually shows what a newbie I still am..
I'm sure you've all seen him do this in circles.

I just wouldn’t feel okay unless I tried, you know?

 

[lobito]

no, I think everyone, though I don't know for sure, has been nice and tried to help out. The thing is that it doesn't take long to find out that though it may be a different day, it's still the same old song and dance from little bj.