Musings

[Ambrosious]

I could look up the answers to some of these, but that wouldn't give you a chance to show off what you know.

1. Prince-too skinny?
2. Did Brenda Lee have any hits besides "Rocking Around The Christmas Tree"?
3. Parmesean or Romano?
4. What is the greatest Christmas carol ever?
5. The greatest animated Christmas special?
6. Is Scotty really dead?
7. Can I get out of going "up there"?
8. Will space travel ever become commercial?
9. How do YOU cope with a friends death? I ain't doin' so well.

 

[Cheyenne]

9. How do YOU cope with a friends death? I ain't doin' so well.

I'm catching up on threads, and now I think I understand a bit better. You're doing okay, even if you think you're not. You remember your friend, and you grieve. That is what you are supposed to do. On your own time table, not anyone else's. If posting here distracts you and makes you feel better, post away. Even if it is about Kenny G.

 

[teresafannin]

My favorite Brenda Lee song is "I'm Sorry", it is a real tear jerker.
A Charlie Brown Christmas & How the Grinch Stole Christmas are awesome, I watch them every year & always will.

Now for the extremely difficult part. Everyone will deal with loss in a different way. There is no timetable & no instruction book, I wish there was. My way of dealing with loss is to spend time with the people I love. Justin's friends come by & we share all the funny stories from 17 years. We cry, but we also laugh, my son was a character. I love to hear how they are doing, how school is going for them & things like that. I am working too many hours, but keeping busy makes the time go by quicker. Share the memories you have & focus on how she lived, that is the important part. Don't be afraid to talk about her, some people will feel uncomfortable, sorry for them, but you need to do what is best for you. If you would be interested,there is a support group called Parents of Murdered Children. It is for anyone who has suffered a loss. I am clueless on how to post a direct link, but there are message boards & all kinds of information available through the National POMC website. It has been a great help to me, as well as to some of Justin's friends. Take care & I wish you all the best.

 

[Guest]

I don't know if you'll value my answers, but I'm guessing you're looking for a distraction, right? Hopefully, I'll help you there.

1. Prince, to skinny? As long as it ain't unhealthy, I don't care. I'm not attracted to him, nor have I ever been. I'm a guy, but I'm bi, but in any case, he ain't no sexy motherf@#$er in my eyes.

2. Brenda who? Is she the chick who makes those pies? Or is that her sister Sara?

3. Dunno, never been to Italy.

4. I try to avoid all things Christmassy. I never achieve it though. Probably a good thing, as it probably stops me from become a complete cynic. Still, I don't know many carols. Silent Night was always good though.

5. See above. I'm no judge on Christmas things. But I can say that I'm thouroughly sick of watching holiday specials of sitcoms.

6. I don't know (seems to be a recurring theme here, no?). But I guess even he had to be 'beamed up'.

7. 'Up there'? As in heaven? The arctic? Everest? Why would you want to go anywhere when I'm giving you such stimulating conversation.

8. Possibly, but not for a long time. With the intensive training that all astronauts go through before they are even allowed near a damn shuttle, I don't see it being easily accessible for the general public anytime soon. But someday, yes. I guess it'll change from the mile high club, to the million mile high club, hmm?

9. I've only ever had one person die that was close to me so far, so I'm (once again) no expert. But if it happened, I'd be sure I was not focusing on their death, but on their life and the times I spent with them and the memories I shared with them.
There is no way to take away the pain you feel at the loss, but know that feeling such pain is a good thing as it makes you realise how important they were. Most importantly, don't ever forget that they aren't totally lost from you. They are still there, within your mind as memories, within your heart with the emotions they stir in you, and in your life with how they affected you are the person you are while they were with you in life.
No one does well when they're grieving. If you do, then either the death didn't affect you or you are in denial. You will always be sad at the loss of someone so close to you, but know that you will always be happy in the knowledge that they haven't gone far. As they live on each day, within you, Ambrosious.

 

[Nobody Special's wife]

1. Prince-too skinny? Yes the ass lol

2. Did Brenda Lee have any hits besides "Rocking Around The Christmas Tree"? Not sure???

3. Parmesean or Romano? Ramano of course

4. What is the greatest Christmas carol ever?I caught Mommy kissing Santa Last Night

5. The greatest animated Christmas special?Santa's comeing to Town

6. Is Scotty really dead? I thinks so but Who really Knows

7. Can I get out of going "up there"? I think you need to realize what you want to beleive it really is

8. Will space travel ever become commercial? On the Sci Fi Channel they are Promoting Colonys on Mars for our Children

9. How do YOU cope with a friends death? I ain't doin' so well ..YOU Don't you have memories and you keep going...JUSt remmber the good times You will always miss them....

THE WIFE

 

[Ksss]

Ambrosious, you are doing just fine hon. Every person deals with death in different ways. Just a few suggestions which have helped me in my time of loss...Put together a picture album of this person, beside each picture write a caption or a memory the pic brings to mind of this person... Write a letter to this person, explain your grief, your tears, your feelings of loss...Or just keep starting threads here, cause I can see you have alot of dear friends who are helping you get thru each day... Even though I don't really know you (((((((Ambrosious))))

 

[DriveSouth]

I could look up the answers to some of these, but that wouldn't give you a chance to show off what you know.

9. How do YOU cope with a friends death? I ain't doin' so well.

Best thing - other friends, friends you shared. But nothing is easy, nor is anything fast.

Like many others, I've been down that road too, just keep on.

 

[Juspar Emvan]

1. Short, Skinny, Pasty
2. Brenda Who?
3. Parmasean
4. Silent Night
5. I try and avoid comercial Christmas (put that one on your conspiracy list)
6. You'd have to ask Scotty, no doubt where ever he is, he is going boldly
7. That which we truly believe in is what we will get (thats a personal opinion)
8. Without a doubt
9. I've been reading a book lately which suggests we say 'Yes' to our universe as a way of reducing fear and pain. This is only one part of the book and it can only be one part of dealing with a situation. The idea is that what is is, by denying we prolong the pain. Don't welcome these events, but accept them as how your universe is. Grieve your loss, remember the joy.