LTMMC
Really Experienced
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Strange how variable an assessment can come out about good and bad luck!
I used to believe that I have had nothing but bad luck lately, but last night I began thinking about my luck in a different way. And now it appears my luck has not been so bad after all. Here my rationale – for readers interested in philosophical musings. If that does not interest you, better skip this post.
When I consider how low the probability is of anybody finding their soulmate via the Lit Personals – less than one percent – according to sensible estimates I made – I had been extremely lucky actually. Not that I found her, but over the last five months or so I was in contact with several nice and sweet women, with whom a connection like I search for was almost working out. Or might have worked out.
Which conveys some good news to me: while a perfect resonance, like I tried to describe in one of my ads, happens very rarely indeed, almost-perfect ones occur much more often. Of course I am talking about discerning people searching for connections. For people less fussy, the "connection game" can work out in a jiffy.
So one possible conclusion: do not aim for perfection. Instead focus on what is absolutely essential only. For me: the woman I yearn to meet must possess a knack for falling in love "virtually", i.e. without physical or RL contacts. She must find the mental closeness possible in a mail affair, sufficient under the circumstances. I wrote down my thoughts about this in an ad comparing dreaming with reality. Of course this "knack for" I mention tends to develop much easier, when it has to. For instance in a woman intent on remaining married to her spouse, but still needing an intimate affair with someone.
Next essential: the kind of deep curiosity for another human being I have mentioned in a prior ad. The way I see it, if this does not exist – in either the man or the woman – any connection that develops will always remain superficial. Without a genuine interest to understand another person well, what moves her, what excites her, what troubles her, meaningful or genuine connections just simply cannot happen. IMHO at least.
OK, a genuine need for the kind of affair I am dreaming about must exist also, but here the "hit rate" will be high, on Literotica I assume. Now the only thing that needs to happen, over and above the essentials I mentioned, are some boundary conditions to make a working mail affair possible.
One final thought on luck: it seems to me, if a 46th President was possible, and a stock market that did not tank due to all the difficulties becoming apparent lately, why should I not experience the luck also, of meeting a halfways-perfectly resonating partner one of these days?
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I used to believe that I have had nothing but bad luck lately, but last night I began thinking about my luck in a different way. And now it appears my luck has not been so bad after all. Here my rationale – for readers interested in philosophical musings. If that does not interest you, better skip this post.
When I consider how low the probability is of anybody finding their soulmate via the Lit Personals – less than one percent – according to sensible estimates I made – I had been extremely lucky actually. Not that I found her, but over the last five months or so I was in contact with several nice and sweet women, with whom a connection like I search for was almost working out. Or might have worked out.
Which conveys some good news to me: while a perfect resonance, like I tried to describe in one of my ads, happens very rarely indeed, almost-perfect ones occur much more often. Of course I am talking about discerning people searching for connections. For people less fussy, the "connection game" can work out in a jiffy.
So one possible conclusion: do not aim for perfection. Instead focus on what is absolutely essential only. For me: the woman I yearn to meet must possess a knack for falling in love "virtually", i.e. without physical or RL contacts. She must find the mental closeness possible in a mail affair, sufficient under the circumstances. I wrote down my thoughts about this in an ad comparing dreaming with reality. Of course this "knack for" I mention tends to develop much easier, when it has to. For instance in a woman intent on remaining married to her spouse, but still needing an intimate affair with someone.
Next essential: the kind of deep curiosity for another human being I have mentioned in a prior ad. The way I see it, if this does not exist – in either the man or the woman – any connection that develops will always remain superficial. Without a genuine interest to understand another person well, what moves her, what excites her, what troubles her, meaningful or genuine connections just simply cannot happen. IMHO at least.
OK, a genuine need for the kind of affair I am dreaming about must exist also, but here the "hit rate" will be high, on Literotica I assume. Now the only thing that needs to happen, over and above the essentials I mentioned, are some boundary conditions to make a working mail affair possible.
One final thought on luck: it seems to me, if a 46th President was possible, and a stock market that did not tank due to all the difficulties becoming apparent lately, why should I not experience the luck also, of meeting a halfways-perfectly resonating partner one of these days?
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