Munches

[cheekygirl75]

I couldn't find a thread specifically on this, so I thought I'd start one... for some reason I'm nervous about it, so be nice please!

I'm possibly going to my first munch next week & definitely nervous about that. I don't always do well in social situations and I have no idea what to expect.

I wanted to start this to get any advice on going to one, personal stories (good & bad), or for others who have never been but want to, as a place to share our experiences as newbies.

 

[Goldenfinger]

I couldn't find a thread specifically on this, so I thought I'd start one... for some reason I'm nervous about it, so be nice please!

I'm possibly going to my first munch next week & definitely nervous about that. I don't always do well in social situations and I have no idea what to expect.

I wanted to start this to get any advice on going to one, personal stories (good & bad), or for others who have never been but want to, as a place to share our experiences as newbies.

Don’t worry it will be just fine. They usually in public so it’s just a meet and greet. I don’t know how well you know the person who invited you, but at least you will know one person.

You will be surprised. They look like normal people.

 

[cookiecat]

Munches are like boring work get togethers. You just wander around, insert yourself in to conversations, make small talk.

I recently went to a munch by myself. It had been a while since I'd been to anything in the community. I didn't know many people but tried to say hi to each group sitting together. It's weird. Like I was interrupting conversations. I figured what the heck. No one's great at this stuff!!

Sometimes munches are moderated where there's a discussion topic. So there's an hour of chit chat before, an hour dedicated to the topic and then some mingling afterwards.

Most of the munches are just hanging out, making small talk. The group moderators might make a brief introduction then ask each person to introduce themselves.

I used to be a moderator of our local spanking group. As moderators, we tried to make a point of seeking out the newbies, saying hi, introducing them to other folks in the room, if they wanted to do that.

Often times, people would message me on fet life (the platform our group used to notify members of munches, parties, have discussions, etc) and mention they're new, they'd ask if they could introduce themselves at the munch. You might consider that!

Just dress like it's any old vanilla get together. Act like you're meeting friends for a book club! Try not to be too shy. Enjoy!!

 

[Plane_Guy]

I couldn't find a thread specifically on this, so I thought I'd start one... for some reason I'm nervous about it, so be nice please!

I'm possibly going to my first munch next week & definitely nervous about that. I don't always do well in social situations and I have no idea what to expect.

I wanted to start this to get any advice on going to one, personal stories (good & bad), or for others who have never been but want to, as a place to share our experiences as newbies.

Just remember that everybody there has a shared interest. Because that's a constant, be yourself. You're just there to mingle and meet new people.

I'd bet that the regulars will notice that you're new and "adopt" you right away and make you feel at home.

Enjoy!

 

[wicked woman]

Agree they're often held in public places so dress is everyday wear (no kink specific), where people have a common interest in kink. A few suggestions that might help. If you know who's hosting the munch, you might consider contacting them before the munch to tell them you're a newbie going to attend. They'll often offer to meet you outside the venue to introduce themselves and walk you in, introduce you to a few people. Every munch I've been to also made a point of telling attendees to be careful with their conversation around the servers, who aren't kinky and haven't consented. But mostly just enjoy yourself.

 

[Fingerfuxs]

Well , your profile reads like a very interesting, personable person.
Be that girl

No worries you will be just fine. It’s a very safe environment. Lucky you Ms adventurous.

Jason face

 

[cheekygirl75]

Munches are like boring work get togethers. You just wander around, insert yourself in to conversations, make small talk.

I recently went to a munch by myself. It had been a while since I'd been to anything in the community. I didn't know many people but tried to say hi to each group sitting together. It's weird. Like I was interrupting conversations. I figured what the heck. No one's great at this stuff!!

Sometimes munches are moderated where there's a discussion topic. So there's an hour of chit chat before, an hour dedicated to the topic and then some mingling afterwards.

Most of the munches are just hanging out, making small talk. The group moderators might make a brief introduction then ask each person to introduce themselves.

I used to be a moderator of our local spanking group. As moderators, we tried to make a point of seeking out the newbies, saying hi, introducing them to other folks in the room, if they wanted to do that.

Often times, people would message me on fet life (the platform our group used to notify members of munches, parties, have discussions, etc) and mention they're new, they'd ask if they could introduce themselves at the munch. You might consider that!

Just dress like it's any old vanilla get together. Act like you're meeting friends for a book club! Try not to be too shy. Enjoy!!

Thanks! I have messaged the host, just waiting to hear back. I'm sure I'm over thinking this, but that's just what I do!

 

[cheekygirl75]

Just remember that everybody there has a shared interest. Because that's a constant, be yourself. You're just there to mingle and meet new people.

I'd bet that the regulars will notice that you're new and "adopt" you right away and make you feel at home.

Enjoy!

"Be yourself" & "mingle and meet new people" don't always go together! lol But I'll try, thanks

 

[cheekygirl75]

Well , your profile reads like a very interesting, personable person.
Be that girl

No worries you will be just fine. It’s a very safe environment. Lucky you Ms adventurous.

Jason face

Thank you, that's sweet

 

[ouchfeelsgood]

I couldn't find a thread specifically on this, so I thought I'd start one... for some reason I'm nervous about it, so be nice please!

I'm possibly going to my first munch next week & definitely nervous about that. I don't always do well in social situations and I have no idea what to expect.

I wanted to start this to get any advice on going to one, personal stories (good & bad), or for others who have never been but want to, as a place to share our experiences as newbies.

I've been to a number of munches (although none in several years), and always find them to be casual, friendly affairs. The setting is usually very vanilla -- a diner or restaurant. People order food and drink and just chat about their place in the fetish/BDSM "scene" or their desire to get involved with the scene. There are always people new to the scene, and are there for information and possibly to meet someone interesting. By all means -- go and have fun!!

 

[PaxNurgle]

I myself have never been to one. There aren't many in my town, for one, and also, as a single unattached male who identifies as submissive, I don't know how (or if) I would even be received, or welcomed. So you could call it shy or hesitant on my part but more importantly, just to show up at one of these without a partner, and as a submissive man, I don't know if that would be cool or not.

 

[seela]

I myself have never been to one. There aren't many in my town, for one, and also, as a single unattached male who identifies as submissive, I don't know how (or if) I would even be received, or welcomed. So you could call it shy or hesitant on my part but more importantly, just to show up at one of these without a partner, and as a submissive man, I don't know if that would be cool or not.

These things might vary from place to place and from munch to munch. But yes, in most places it’d be perfectly cool to go as an unattached submissive man. In most munches there are no rules that no single people allowed or no submissive men or something like that.

I get why it might be uncomfortable to go, but if you want to give it a try, it is cool. Contact the group leader and let them know you’re coming. I’m sure they can alleviate some of your concerns and will be there to greet you.