Munches/Local Groups

[ladycrow]

Does/has anyone participated in a munch or local group? Was it helpful? Welcoming? Did you have an opportunity to learn (or even teach?) Did you continue? If not, what reasons led you away?


Unfortunately, I've never been in a location where there were enough people/people interested to join one of these but I'd look one up if I were able to.

 

[intothewoods]

Yes! I'm a member of my local group, and I've learned a lot. There was an adjustment period in the beginning, since I had no experience in how to negotiate play, but I'm starting to find my groove. As I get to know people better, I've had more opportunities to learn. And at the bigger events, there are also workshops on everything you could possibly imagine.

 

[ladycrow]

May I ask where you're located? I know some places don't have the 'luxury' of workshops but I imagine they can be really helpful. Do you learn through play more or discussion? Or maybe it's just a mix.

 

[intothewoods]

May I ask where you're located? I know some places don't have the 'luxury' of workshops but I imagine they can be really helpful. Do you learn through play more or discussion? Or maybe it's just a mix.

I'll PM.

 

[Homburg]

I'm part of a munch group. It's been somewhat useful, but my schedule prevents me from attending most activities. Where it is really handy is that sometimes I just want to be around fellow kinksters. Sometimes I want to be in a room with people that understand, and not have to worry about what is said in conversation. And, every once in a while, I want public play.

I can't really say that I fit in perfectly with this group (I don't fit in perfectly anywhere, it's just not in my nature), but they're good people, and I consider it to be worthwhile.

 

[ShyVixen]

I've been in touch with a few members from my local munch group - haven't actually attended a munch yet (issues of plucking up the courage and timing at the main factors), but the people I've been touch with were extremely welcoming and friendly. It's not a big group, but the people are interesting.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

I've been a member of, and/or participant with, and/or presenter to BDSM groups and clubs from Baltimore, Maryland, to Wilmington, North Carolina, to Atlanta, Georgia, to Austin, Texas. I'm the founder of Columbia, South Carolina's oldest and largest munch group, This Thing That We Do (T3WD) http://www.t3wd.org

I have found munch groups that I adored, and groups that I wasn't comfortable with. Like any other human communities, sometimes you will find places that you will fit in, sometimes you will find places you won't. Be patient, try to be kind, if you can't find a group you feel comfortable with or close enough to attend, start your own! Trust me, there will be people who feel just like you do and will flock to you. Be patient, be consistent. It will grow. I started T3WD in 1999. And it's still here.

Community is where you find it. And it sure beats being alone.

 

[Daddyslilpet]

Just getting involved with a local group finally. It has been a bit of a search to find one here, but this one is a new group starting up and so far it seems to be just what Daddy and I have been looking for. Time will tell.

Community is where you find it. And it sure beats being alone.

I couldn't agree with this more!!! It has been a bit lonely here without local friends to hang out with. Yeah I have my long distant friends but you really can't go out with those very often can ya?

 

[FurryFury]

I liked getting involved with my local group. It was great meeting kink minded people that were sort of like me. I wanted to do a few things.

1.) Meet a "real" Dom and bask in his/her aura.

That didn't really happen. It turns out real Doms are just people like you and me. Most often they are soft spoken and really nice. They don't live up to my "fantasy" of what a Dom would be like but in many ways they are better. Certainly they are better people. In some ways I seem more Dom in a casual meeting situation than many real Doms I've met. That strikes me as very funny.

2.) Meet others that like me are into D/s.

This objective was reached but I can't say I've made any close relationships with anyone. I haven't really tried that hard but still it has been good enough for me. I have many other close relationships. It's all good.

3.) Watch demos and learn about stuff that could be dangerous or foolish to try based on simply reading.

This has been one of the best parts! I've seen electricity and fire cupping demos! Other demos were things I could and/or had done but those two were big for me.

4.) Try new things.

I tried a violet wand at a Litogether last year! Woo hoo! Considering the price I would have never done so if not for Evil_Geoff!

5.) Perhaps do some public play.

I'm too shy. My husband is too wigged out for this. Ah well.

Sadly I usually am too scheduled to make our local meetings.

There has also been a change in leadership and how things are done. I'm not really up on any of it.

Nonetheless, I do hope to continue going to the few events that hit my schedule just so.

 

[TeachMeSir]

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