Moving Out This Winter

[TheeGoatPig]

My father is retiring in November. My Grandparents are dying. When both have occured, my parrents are planning on moving down to the southern end of New Jersey so that my dad can be a poker dealer in Atlantic City.

What does that have to do with me?

It means that I need to find a place to live on my own somewhere near where I work and my kung fu school so that I can continue the life that I have grown accustomed to. I can only afford the cheapest of cesspits, but I'm ok with that. So long as I have a place to park my car, a kitchen, bathroom, bedroom and place for my PC I'll be happy.

I was just wondering what it was like for everyone else who moved out on their own? Did you feel awkwardly lonely at first? do you close the bathroom door? Do you close your bedroom door? What kind of things should I prepare for when I finally do move out?

 

[FallingToFly]

My father is retiring in November. My parents are dying. When both have occured, my parrents are planning on moving down to the southern end of New Jersey so that my dad can be a poker dealer in Atlantic City.

What does that have to do with me?

It means that I need to find a place to live on my own somewhere near where I work and my kung fu school so that I can continue the life that I have grown accustomed to. I can only afford the cheapest of cesspits, but I'm ok with that. So long as I have a place to park my car, a kitchen, bathroom, bedroom and place for my PC I'll be happy.

I was just wondering what it was like for everyone else who moved out on their own? Did you feel awkwardly lonely at first? do you close the bathroom door? Do you close your bedroom door? What kind of things should I prepare for when I finally do move out?

I have to ask... what style?

My hubby teaches shaolin WHite Tiger, Five Animals, Longfist... a couple others.

 

[TheeGoatPig]

I have to ask... what style?

My hubby teaches shaolin WHite Tiger, Five Animals, Longfist... a couple others.

Shaolin Long Fist is what I'm studying right now, although my Sifu also teaches Tai Chi, Ba Gwa, and Tsing Yi (just know I spelled half of those worng )

I hope to learn all of them before dying.

 

[Aurora Black]

My parents are dying...

I was just wondering what it was like for everyone else who moved out on their own? Did you feel awkwardly lonely at first? do you close the bathroom door? Do you close your bedroom door? What kind of things should I prepare for when I finally do move out?

I hope to hell you didn't mean that literally.

Sure, I was homesick and lonely. I was way on the other side of the pond from my folks. But I was still glad I did it, because it needed to be done.

I'm really anal about closing and locking every window and door when I'm ready for bed. I don't like leaving things to chance, especially when my safety's on the line. The crime rate here isn't high by American standards, but things happen.

Count on getting your hands dirty (or spending money to hire people) while working on your new apartment until it's to your liking. I'm talking about home improvement, paint jobs, furniture, etc.

 

[TheeGoatPig]

Woah! Big typo in the first post. Grandparrents are dying. Not my parrents.

And everything I say should be taken with a grain of... something... I'm a naive joker who is ignorant of... stuff...

I think I'm just a little too tired to be posting on the internet right now (and I'll be doing it for at least another hour so expect the vocabulary loss to increase over the next few hours )

 

[Aurora Black]

I'm sorry, TGP.

 

[TheeGoatPig]

I'm sorry, TGP.

For pointing out a mistake that needed correcting? Uh... Ok

And I'm aware of the work that will probably be needed in whatever place I get.

Luckily, I built a bunch of the furniture in my room and a couple of other pieces around the house that I will be taking with me. I bought a few other pieces as well. So all I will really need is a couch and a table or two. I'm handy with a hammer nails and glue (evidenced by the furniture I have built ), so repairs should be too hard. I don't care if the walls ever get painted on the inside.

All that I am worried about it yard work. I hardly ever mow the lawn here at the folks house, and I don't look forward to it at my new place (I'm aiming for the cheapest house I can find, but if I can only find a townhouse that has someone else do the yardwork, bonus ).

I'm rambling. I'm just nervouse and it's a few months away, at least. Maybe a year.

 

[RogueLurker]

For pointing out a mistake that needed correcting? Uh... Ok

And I'm aware of the work that will probably be needed in whatever place I get.

Luckily, I built a bunch of the furniture in my room and a couple of other pieces around the house that I will be taking with me. I bought a few other pieces as well. So all I will really need is a couch and a table or two. I'm handy with a hammer nails and glue (evidenced by the furniture I have built ), so repairs should be too hard. I don't care if the walls ever get painted on the inside.

All that I am worried about it yard work. I hardly ever mow the lawn here at the folks house, and I don't look forward to it at my new place (I'm aiming for the cheapest house I can find, but if I can only find a townhouse that has someone else do the yardwork, bonus ).

I'm rambling. I'm just nervouse and it's a few months away, at least. Maybe a year.

Are you naturally a social person or are you more of an introvert? If you're worried about being lonely, you could look at getting a roomate. That could end up being more trouble than it's worth, though. Sometimes, roomate situations turn ugly.

 

[TheeGoatPig]

Are you naturally a social person or are you more of an introvert? If you're worried about being lonely, you could look at getting a roomate. That could end up being more trouble than it's worth, though. Sometimes, roomate situations turn ugly.

That scares me more than living alone...

And I'm a social person who doesn't know how to make friends. Very parodoxical of me, I know. I'm very picky about who I consider a friend, but I'll talk to anyone who is willing to listen.

P.S.

I should just leave the typos in to emphasise how tired I am right now

Paranoid! That's what you are! Paranoid.
(yes, I'm talking to myself now)

 

[Aurora Black]

Are you naturally a social person or are you more of an introvert? If you're worried about being lonely, you could look at getting a roomate. That could end up being more trouble than it's worth, though. Sometimes, roomate situations turn ugly.

Single White Female, anyone?

 

[RogueLurker]

Single White Female, anyone?

Ha ... that's the movie I went to see twice when I got booted out of the apartment so my roomate could have some quality time with her bf

 

[Jenny_Jackson]

TGP, living alone is not so bad. There are a number of things you will find you need you never expected like shower curtains, silverware, plates and so on. But shopping thrift stores for those is part of the adventure.

You'll do fine. And you have friends here to point you in a good direction

JJ :Kiss:

 

[TheeGoatPig]

TGP, living alone is not so bad. There are a number of things you will find you need you never expected like shower curtains, silverware, plates and so on. But shopping thrift stores for those is part of the adventure.

You'll do fine. And you have friends here to point you in a good direction

JJ :Kiss:

Plates I have easy free access to. My mother has hoards of plates and I'm garunteed one set (and choise from sets of glasses too) when I leave.

Silverware and shower curtains, good idea. Don't think I thought of that one yet.

and I'm not so much worried as I am curious what is going to happen.

 

[RogueLurker]

That scares me more than living alone...

And I'm a social person who doesn't know how to make friends. Very parodoxical of me, I know. I'm very picky about who I consider a friend, but I'll talk to anyone who is willing to listen.

P.S.

I should just leave the typos in to emphasise how tired I am right now

Paranoid! That's what you are! Paranoid.
(yes, I'm talking to myself now)

Roomates are often a right of passage ... gives you stories to tell at the company christmas party ... and teaches you alot of lessons about yourself and others. As long as they don't snap and come after you with a butcher knife, you should be fine. And if that happens ... think of the Halloween story you can create from that experience (assuming you survive mwhahahahaha). How's that paranoia?

 

[TheeGoatPig]

Roomates are often a right of passage ... gives you stories to tell at the company christmas party ... and teaches you alot of lessons about yourself and others. As long as they don't snap and come after you with a butcher knife, you should be fine. And if that happens ... think of the Halloween story you can create from that experience (assuming you survive mwhahahahaha). How's that paranoia?

Also, I'm more likely to be the one snapping and coming after them with the butcher knife... Hehehe...

Also, I don't have coworkers. I have a boss I barely see and an office to myself. I have a best friend that I see once a year on my birthday. We have dinner and go bowling.

I don't get out much except for kung fu class. If it weren't for martial arts I would be dead by now.

 

[Aurora Black]

Roomates are often a right of passage ... gives you stories to tell at the company christmas party ... and teaches you alot of lessons about yourself and others. As long as they don't snap and come after you with a butcher knife, you should be fine. And if that happens ... think of the Halloween story you can create from that experience (assuming you survive mwhahahahaha). How's that paranoia?

Apartment Zero

 

[Aurora Black]

There seems to be a recurring theme here...

Last one.

L' Appartement

 

[TheeGoatPig]

And I got a raise this summer specifically so that I would eb able to afford a place on my own without roommates. It was never an option in my mind. It's just not something I'm willing to put up with.

 

[Tom Collins]

Plates I have easy free access to. My mother has hoards of plates and I'm garunteed one set (and choise from sets of glasses too) when I leave.

Silverware and shower curtains, good idea. Don't think I thought of that one yet.

and I'm not so much worried as I am curious what is going to happen.

Personally, I like living alone. I can do WTF ever I want, whenever I want. I can walk around nekkid if it pleases me to do so. I don't have to "call if I'm going to be late" I don't have to worry about being kicked out cuz they don't want me hearing them fuck. I know that if I put food in the cabinet or in the fridge it'll be there when I come back for it. It's all good from my perspective.

When I first moved from Arkansas to Flagstaff I was living with my brother's family and none of those things applied. I'd get bitched at because I went out without telling people where I was going and how long I expected to be gone, even though no one ever consulted me about their plans. I got bitched at for putting my name on stuff in the fridge to keep people from eating/drinking it because every time I bought something just for it it would disappear. I got bitched out for not doing enough to help around the house, even though I was one of three adults and did half the shopping, half the house work, half the cooking and arranged my work schedual so that I could take his fucking daughter to school every morning and pick her up every afternoon. I got bitched out because there was a spot in the living room that I favored for watching tv. He made it out like it was because I never fluffed the cushions when I got up, but in fact it was because it also happened to be his wife's favorite spot to sit. I got bitched out for smoking and told that I needed to quit, even though I never did it in the house and he smoked too, because the smell on my clothes bothered his wife's sinuses. Did I mention that I didn't even have my own room? I was sleeping on the bottom bunk in my niece's room.

Basically, there was nothing that I could have done right unless I quit smoking, did all of the house work, all of the shopping, all of the cooking, continued to cart his daughter to and from school every day, plus watch her after school and whenever they wanted to do something, always tell him where I was going and when I'd be back, and sit whereever no one else might possibly want to sit. Oh, yes, I nearly forgot that I should have been paying half the rent and untilities, even though there were three working adults in the house.

So, my point is that living alone is awesome.

 

[Aurora Black]

So, my point is that living alone is awesome.

Yeppers. It's still lonely, but hell yes.

 

[Jenny_Jackson]

I've been alone several times in my life. Currently I've been living alone since February when my G/F went to Hawaii and got sick. It's not so bad, really.

JJ

 

[TheeGoatPig]

Personally, I like living alone. I can do WTF ever I want, whenever I want. I can walk around nekkid if it pleases me to do so. I don't have to "call if I'm going to be late" I don't have to worry about being kicked out cuz they don't want me hearing them fuck. I know that if I put food in the cabinet or in the fridge it'll be there when I come back for it. It's all good from my perspective.

When I first moved from Arkansas to Flagstaff I was living with my brother's family and none of those things applied. I'd get bitched at because I went out without telling people where I was going and how long I expected to be gone, even though no one ever consulted me about their plans. I got bitched at for putting my name on stuff in the fridge to keep people from eating/drinking it because every time I bought something just for it it would disappear. I got bitched out for not doing enough to help around the house, even though I was one of three adults and did half the shopping, half the house work, half the cooking and arranged my work schedual so that I could take his fucking daughter to school every morning and pick her up every afternoon. I got bitched out because there was a spot in the living room that I favored for watching tv. He made it out like it was because I never fluffed the cushions when I got up, but in fact it was because it also happened to be his wife's favorite spot to sit. I got bitched out for smoking and told that I needed to quit, even though I never did it in the house and he smoked too, because the smell on my clothes bothered his wife's sinuses. Did I mention that I didn't even have my own room? I was sleeping on the bottom bunk in my niece's room.

Basically, there was nothing that I could have done right unless I quit smoking, did all of the house work, all of the shopping, all of the cooking, continued to cart his daughter to and from school every day, plus watch her after school and whenever they wanted to do something, always tell him where I was going and when I'd be back, and sit whereever no one else might possibly want to sit. Oh, yes, I nearly forgot that I should have been paying half the rent and untilities, even though there were three working adults in the house.

So, my point is that living alone is awesome.

Yeah... I'd bet that living with my older brother would be like that. He seems the type.

Although I'm not the type to help out that much, so I would get bitched out even more

 

[Liar]

Well, all I can say is...

Until I was 24, I always lived with people. Either with my family growing up, or doing the flatmate thing with friends or a significant other. Then I finally got my own place, and let me tell you, five years later I still revel in the knowledge that my home is MY castle. A place of absolute privacy, where I decide who is let in and for how long they get to stay. Decorated to my tastes, furnitured to suit my needs, the thermostat where I want it, time to clean or do the dishes when I feel like it...

I'll give that up for marriage, but no less.